Using porn with PE

I seem to be improving too, I still look at some pictures though. I’m going to cut those off too starting now.

secs, love your “little rant”.

BTW, I’m going to only jack-off on weekends (any form of ejaculating).

But I will use porn as I don’t have a girl now

Well, I ventured very far into erotica. That has affected me more than the pics. A good example is that I can read about Fem/Fem(and beyond) affairs, but I can not participate in them. This made the reality of my sex life seem dull.

I do think that all of that stuff has its place. I just let it overtake me. For those of you than can handle it just as a responsible drinker keeps alcohol from taking over his life, enjoy it to the fullest. Some of it is amazing. It just made me unsatisfied with myself even more. This happened very slowly to me. I never saw it coming.

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I didn’t know other people had this same problem too, this is a good thread. In fact after reading it I deleted alot of the porn I have. Videos with these pornstars like Lex and Mandingo will just mess with your head, feeding into the paranoia of being too small. Screw it, I got rid of all that shit.

Wow Juke brought this thread back from the dead.

Porn can be a real big problem if not put in check. I myself try to only look a naked women pics. It seems mild enough.

Hello there. I have been a member of this site for a while, but this is my first post. I just felt like I had to because I did a paper on this just a week ago. This really is a serious issue and I have had the same problem as some of you guys. I’m now 19, and I have been with my grilfriend for a little over 2 years. While I did get addicted to porn at an early age, there have been times when I have been able to stop. For instance, I stopped when we first got together. But as time moved on, I got back into my old habits. Just like you guys, I eventually needed constant stimulation from her in order to stay hard. Next, i was no longer able to get hard, both because I could no longer enjoy normal healthy sex, and I was constantly worrying. I’m sure you worry about the same things. Why isn’t she being as loud as the girls in porn? Does that mean i am not big enough? Even to the point where i compared the way she looked to the girls in porn. I would pick little things out that was wrong with her. And I fucking hate myself for that because she really is the most beautiful thing in the whole world. Anyway, please read what I came across in the research I did for my paper. All of this is proven and will most likely happen to you if you don’t take control.

Basically, it is proven to become an addiction. And just like with drugs, as you continue watching it, you will need more hardcore stuff to become aroused as time goes on. For instance, maybe you start watching just straight sex. If you continue for a long time, you will eventually develop fetishes and for example, you may need to see a girl have sex with a monster cock just to be able to get aroused. And then maybe need to see her be abused. It just continues to get more extreme.

Another thing: you will have a lot of trouble with relationships (sexual ones) because you will compare your girlfriend to the girls in porn. The girls in porn are all skinny and perfect looking, pretty much because they cover themseleves in makeup from head to toe, they use lighting that doesnt show blemishes, and of course they airbrush pictures. Even though you know this though, you start to have higher expectations for the way your girlfriend looks.

Both of these things can cause you to not even be able to have sex with the girl you are with. You will get to the point where normal sex just doesn’t arouse you, and you will need to carry out the things done in porn just to be able to stay interested. You also wont be as attracted to your girlfriend.

Porn isn’t like normal sex either-they only show rough and aggressive sex because the more action, the better it looks on film and the more arousing it is. Well, if you see this all the time, you wont be aroused by slow or gentle sex anymore.

Basically, porn really fucks you up in every way. They say it helps men carry out their desires without resorting to rape and stuff, but since the porn industry has risen since the 1960’s, rape has occurred 500% more. This is so because it desensitizes you to rape.

The worst thing about porn is that once you are addicted, you are always addicted. It’s not something you can totally eliminate, you can only control it. It really sucks because I found my cousin’s hardcore porn channel when I was 11 and i watched it many years. I havn’t watched it for quite a while and try to stay away from it as much as possible. especially since Im in a relationship with a wonderful girl and why do i need that anyway? well, if you or anyone is worried about it, I would research it. It’s pretty interesting, and you may find out that you want to stop before it goes too far. Once it goes so far a lot of the damage that has been done can’t be fixed.

I know this is true because it was exactly like this for me. Things I would have probably been repulsed by back when I first started watching porn eventually became things that got me off. Since learning about this I haven’t looked at porn in about a week. Let me tell you, it will pay off. My girlfriend and I had the best sex we had ever had just a few days ago, and I could just feel its because of that. I didn’t worry or have trouble staying hard. And another thing-I really have a fetish for fishnet stockings. Sometimes, she will wear these because she knows how much they turn me on. Well, she wore them a couple nights ago, and I took them off of her. It was like I was more attracted to just her-her body-not what porn had taught me to be aroused by. I’m not saying you have to stop, just research a little for yourself and ask yourself if it’s worth it, especially if you are in a relationship with someone. I know its so hard to quit, probably the hardest thing I have had to do, but I did find some helpful ways of quitting.

Besides staying busy, especially when you are alone, the best thing I found to do is this: Everyday you put 50 cents or a dollar (your choice) in a jar. You do this for 100 days. Well, you only put the money in the jar if you abstain from watching porn that day. Here’s the catch. Say you give in to the temptation on day 76. You have to take all the money in the jar and give it to charity. If you make it to 100, you take that money and spend it on anything you want, celebrate. Then you make it 200 days. then 350 days. It really motivates you to work hard and not give in.

Well, sorry this post was so long, but i hope it helps some of you out.

That is such a good idea. Not just for porn but the other addictions as well.

Well this thread made me realize that I too was addicted to porn…Im also very young (im 18). Every time I PE I need watch porn, and every time I masturbate, I watch porn as well. Which makes quite too much porn. And I realized I can’t get a real hard erection without it… so I guess I’ll stop watching this stuff for a while as well.

There’s another aspect to porn needs to be looked at and that is how it shapes the way we see the opposite sex. We start projecting into them thoughts that they don’t have, such as wanting sex or lusting after your dong to lick or what they portray on porno. What is really bazaar is that you think that they have these thoughts all the time, when in actuality their minds couldn’t be farther away. I’ve noticed this about myself. I find myself looking at a girl or woman and thinking about what she would look like in this situation or how she might behave in that situation. It’s all fantasy but it changes how we interact with the them. If all we have on our minds is what we THINK they THINK then we’re in never never land which may lose us the possibility of finding that good woman that we want to raise our 84 children. Of course if your not interested in children and having a loving family to have around you when you die, then get a vasectomy. Then the only thing that matters will be how your cock can make a female moan and whether or not you get off. A pretty shallow life if you ask me.

This sounds kinda funny, but see I love eating my wifes pussy, and there are times when I feel like I am not as hard as I should, but I find when I am going down on her and really enjoying it, it gets me nice and hard :)

If it weren’t for porn, my sex education would’ve been almost nil *and* I would never have been able to satisfy any of the women I’ve slept/played with. Tricky part is discerning the bullshit from the really good “tips”.

Very interesting thread.

Like some other posts I would recommend using erotic literature instead of videos or picture porn, your imagination is (hopefully) limitless so it is probably much harder to get desensitized, compared with watching the same, but different, porn videos ad nauseum.

I tended to watch a lot of porn in my teens and early twenties because I wasn’t in a relationship. This I put down to a lack of self-confidence secondary to the belief of having a small penis. If I had known about PE back then, I reckon I would have been much more sexually active, spent less time watching porn, and now not suffer from the same desensitization to ‘normal’ sex that excessive porn watching certainly causes.

This maybe an argument for directing a young guy to a site like this, rather than hand him a bunch of magazines ( like they did in my day! Amazing how much it has changed…I’m only 29!!). Is it too far fetched to suggest this could lead to a much healthier and realistic attitude to sex?

Hopefully still on topic.

Spell check is great!

Okay I am older than anybody. I have been married to the same woman for a very long time. Every once in awhile I will rent a video and have a sexual fantasy all by myself. But yes this could become an obsession.

A good cigar could lead some people to become a chain smoker. A glass of wine could lead some people to be an alcoholic.

I never would watch porn during PE. It is my theory that PE is an avenue to better sex. PE should not be sex.

I’m having this same problem so decided to go without porn. Today makes 6 days. I buy a membership to a website and 2 1/2 weeks into it I’m desensitized. I’ve also been hooked on Internet porn for the past 6 years. I am(was) addicted. As of right now I’m taking a break. It got to the point where I couldn’t get those super erections for clamping because of my porn dependency for stimulation. I just continue a kegel routine and hope to rid porn and use my imagination(street booty, last partner, fantasies) for arousal.