What are you willing to give up?

I want to get to a respectable size, but I don’t want to get too big to where my wife won’t do anal. I’m on the thin side and it’s still challenging to do it right now.

Seems like a lot of you guys are married so your wives determine a great deal of you PEing. I’m not married and not in steady relationship. I get by on short relationship (,y own personal issues!). I want to get bigger. I love making women walk funny lol. Seriously, id you have a bigger unit it just means you have to learn to use it correctly. Bigger cars require different maneuvering techniques when driving.

Hey guys. It has been over a year since I retired from PE and from visiting Thunder’s, but I felt compelled to return in light of recent events.

In the past fourteen months, aside from a handful of maintenance stretches every month or so, I have done zero PE - no jelqs, no clamping, no pumping. The result of this neglect has been unnoticeable. My FSL is still 9” and my EG is still 5.75”. My BPEL measures a bit less than my maximum attained length of 8.75”, but the difference is negligible - less than 1/8”.

I hope that this is encouraging news for anyone who is worried about the whole cementing gains issue.

But now to the real reason that I am posting…

Last week, out of a clear blue sky and with no prompting from me, my wife gave me oral for the first time in two years. I have no idea what changed in her mind, since my penis is not any smaller, but I decided to forgo asking any questions and simply told her how utterly great it had been - she rocked my world.

In retrospect, I can appreciate that vaginal intercourse has gotten easier in the last year, so perhaps she simply needed time to catch up to my gains.

Have a Happy New Year everyone! I know that I will :D

Pri

EDIT: P.S. to all the gents who posted that I should find a new woman to fit the dick, et cetera: my marriage is all about love and commitment and honoring my wife, as she honors me. If you nay-sayers are lucky enough to find a woman who is as good for you as my woman is good for me, then consider yourself blessed. My wife is amazing.

What will you do If you in love and married , it is easy to divorce for single.
have a good gains
happy new year

I think it’s different if you’re married.

Priapologist, thank you for returning to provide that long-term feedback. I am a married man (25+yrs) as well.
I got involved in PE after turning 55 and suffering a little decline in EQ. My motivation was to improve erection quality and I was rather surprised when I found I was getting bigger.

Years ago BC (before children) I used to fill my wife’s nookie up pretty well, but after she had 2 vaginal deliveries things were a bit different. Sex was still enjoyable, but not quite like it was. After I realized I could gain some size, I continued PE with that goal. I must say that as I have grown, sex for me has gotten progressively better. I’m pretty sure it has for my wife as well. She seems to have more interest now and asks for it much more frequently than in recent years.

I really enjoy receiving oral sex even though I rarely, if ever orgasm with fellatio. My wife is a good provider, but I have gotten a few more tooth scrapes lately. Deep-throating is not on the agenda (never was). Neither is anal intercourse.

My current size is about 7.6-7.7” BPEL with an insertable length of about 7.2”. Girth wise around 5.5-5.6” average and around 5.3” at the glans. So you have a bit more girth and a lot more length.

This has all been a lead-up to a few questions. What do you suppose is the girth of the part of your penis that your wife can get in her mouth? How big do you think you were when her interest in providing oral sex dropped off? What would you estimate your starting size to be? How did/does your wife react to your enormous length? How did your gain in size affect vaginal sex for you and your wife?

Many thanks.

Sacrificing things in sex life kills the point of PE. The way I see it, PE is supposed to make your sex life better, not worse. Also, I love oral and doggy style too much to give them up.

Not necessarily.

I noticed several times during the thread that people are mentioning that it is basically irrational to grow your penis to a point where it becomes detrimental to sex. Even ignoring the fact that women can adjust (more than they believe) to large penises, and even enjoy it more (refer to Equine Rooster’s log, for example), there is nothing irrational about wanting a penis size that could be detrimental to sexual pleasure.

It all depends on what you want. Some people, particularly married men here, are PE’ing for the sole purpose of enhancing their and their spouses’ pleasure sexually. These men may quit PE if it becomes detrimental for their pleasure. However, many others are not PE’ing for that purpose, and that is not irrational. The penis is a symbol of male virility and strength, and I believe it is acceptable for a man to have his self-confidence somewhat tied to his penis size. In a perfect world, should this not be so? Maybe, but we live in reality.

Priapologist ,

I don’t know how you went 2 years without ANY oral. Thats gotta be tough, but I’m sure the vaginal sex more than made up for it.

I would give up oral for that super huge Rod. It’s in our instinct to be huge MANLY rawr!

And to the women that get the prize they better learn to adjust XD

Well said :D .

I would never put penis size in front of sexual life quality by priority.

Smaller penis and better sex life > bigger penis and worse sex life, in my opinion at least.

Hey redbear,

It is good to hear about your experiences (us married guys have to hold our ground against these amoral single guys, right?), and I am happy to answer your questions.

About 5.25 inches of girth, tops. She can now get only the glans and a bit of the sulcus into her mouth, which accounts for about 2 inches of the distal length of my penis. Pre-PE, when my mid-shaft girth was less than 5.125 inches, she could take about 4 inches of length into her mouth.

Shortly after my mid-shaft girth stably reached 5.625 inches. I do not know what the concurrent sulcus girth was (I did not measure it then), but I suspect that it was about 5.125 inches.

My mid-shaft girth was a bit less than five and 1/8th inches and my length was seven and 15/16ths inches.

She loved it, but she was also scared of it.

My wife was a virgin when we married and vaginal intercourse was challenging for us for many years. We had to go very slowly and use lots of lubricant for the first year or so. Even in the years after that I can recall unintentionally hurting her during sex by thrusting too deeply. She eventually was able to accommodate me wholly and I was able to go balls-deep, but this was only after six years of marriage and the birth of our first child. Of course the whole issue resurfaced after I began PE, but this time it was easier to work with the length because as I was gradually lengthening, so was she.

That depends on the position. All face-to-face and spooning positions are no problem, but most other rear-entry positions became uncomfortable, but not necessarily painful, for her. Rear-entry is more of an angle thing than a depth-of-penetration issue, which I suspect is because, with my downward curve, I am boxing her cervix too much. But, she does love full penetration in face-to-face positions, both because we can grind together and because the girthiest part of my penis is the base (a bit over six and 1/8th inches at the root and because I completely fill her up with my cock.

There was one memorable morning, about 2 and 1/2 years ago, when I woke up with an absolutely throbbing hard on. As I rolled out of bed to go to the bathroom, she gasped and said that she could not believe how big my cock was at that moment. She also told me that I could not leave her, just yet. About five or ten minutes into face-to-face vaginal intercourse, I thrust balls-deep and she again gasped and said something like “I can feel you in my throat.” It had not hurt her, but I had touched a part of her that I had never reached before. As you can imagine, it was a very satisfying feeling for both of us physically and for me, psychologically.

Good luck on your endeavors!

Pax,
Pri

Mostly because I can have vaginal sex with her pretty much whenever I want, and because I knew that oral was not really easy for her with me, even when I was smaller.

And yes, vaginal sex keeps me happy… but I was still stoked when she blew me again.

Pax,
Pri

As long as I’m not giving up sex or anal. I’ve already given up blowjobs because I don’t even feel it all that much, so I can’t cum from it. The visual stimulation is there, sure, but to me it really doesn’t feel that amazing. I’m 6 inch girth, and I still expect to be able to have vaginal and anal intercouse.