3/25/2018
“What the hell happened down there, why is it so fucking big”. Women will say the funniest things and it’s very hard to interpret as what they say is seldom what they mean. But as the feedback has more of this narrative, it’s not something I want to disregard. It came up over dinner the next day and the characterization was hardly so harsh. So I’m not going to ignore it, but I’m not going to jump the gun and come to false conclusions.
I’ve gotten good advise on the “how much size issue” and there’s some great discussions here on this forum regarding this and I have given it some thought.
During that last intimacy there was an interruption as the room was cold and I send her off to grab a sweater so she’d be warmer and during that time I was able to get a good look at the instrument. I really hadn’t examined things in quite some time and I was surprised to see that I could not see any indentation at all. Looks real damned healthy. Anecdotally length seems restored and girth appears robust.
These were the reasons that I stepped into this and I am very well pleased. So thinking about the path forward at the very least I would want to continue with what I am doing as preventative maintenance. I think at some point dialing it down to 45-60 minutes a day when I’m on the computer anyway is just a smart thing to do for good health. But I’m not there yet.
In my view I just got to an acceptable point on this journey. My thoughts on this, developed during this journey and in reading the experiences of others is given the nature of this, you need to overshoot and consolidate to secure that success. But the question remains how far to go, what is the path forward.
I am unwilling go give up the things I enjoy sexually. I think it’s a choice and I can understand those that decide differently. But without being explicit, I like variety and I do not want anything removed from the sexual arsenal. Also from what I have observed using just an extender and that I’ve gained thickness as I’ve gotten older(I can’t use regular condoms anymore) I suspect that I would gain girth rather easily. At this point nothing is off the table sexually, but I am facing some head wind in terms of girth already, so I am quite sure that I will not graduate to girth work. I think there will be likely be proportional increases in girth with the length work and that will be more than adequate.
So my focus will be on the length work while monitoring the girth as the limiting factor. For the foreseeable future I will carry on with what I am doing with the extender until the incremental progress stalls. At this point I don’t have any visibility on limitations regarding length and that work has been remarkably beneficial. That may change we’ll see.
Finally, I am intrigued by the use of a vacuum pump when used for length work. There is a growing body of clinical research that suggests some very positive benefits regarding penile health which are different than those gained from traction and also quite frankly IMO there is some ground breaking work being done here regarding it. Something to keep an eye on and explore down the road.
As far as an update, we’re at 50% max tension for 32 minutes at the new extender length, so things are going good. I’m at 316 days since keeping a log, looking forward to hit the one year mark.