Improving Erections and Then Some

Hey guys, I have been lurking here for a few months and finally decided to start a thread on my story and struggle with performance anxiety and my personal progress!

I’m very thankful for this online resource and hope that others are as interested in my journey as I have been while reading others progress reports and posts.

A few years ago, after a divorce at age 29, I began my single journey with a raging hard 6.5 ish inch cock and a healthy libido. I then found myself having sex with lots of women from different age ranges and desires, attractivity levels and body types. I was trying them all out and I was having a blast. Lots of great sex. I was having fun learning from some older women as well as teaching some younger more naive girls what it was like to have fun satisfying sex. Most were happy with just FWB type relationships and some clung right on to me which I often brushed away. I was enjoying being single.

I then began a relationship with a toxic person. I didn’t realize this at first but it became apparent after about 6 months of our sporadic relationship. I guess this was my karma for being so sexually inhibited for a year or so. It was bound to crash at some point.

She was a gorgeous green eyed girl, a couple years older than me, beautiful curves, tight c sized tits, perfect pussy 5’2” about 120 lbs, loved sex and no limits in the bedroom just like me. My shallow heart was in love 😍

We had great sex at first for the first few months then there was an instance where I drank a bit too much one night and could not maintain an erection, much to her haste. She belittled me about it, in a degrading way and so began my journey down the wormhole known as PERFORMANCE ANXIETY.

We stayed together for another few months, trying to make things work but everything just kept getting worse, especially my erections. I could always get one initially, but often times it petered out once my worry started.

Long story short, we broke up, I resumed courting multiple ladies for fun and entertainment and had a few embarrassing moments, unfortunately, still related to my past experiences. I decided to start focusing on myself and avoiding the amount of sex I was used to. I ordered a pump custom to my size and decided to start working on me.

You’re not alone in having that happen.

The usual suggested rejoinder should it happen again is something like, "Babe, you’re just not doing it for me any more. You’re going to have to work a lot harder."

I’d advise you to not worry about that, but your brain is probably on it like a pit bull on a pot roast. It will take a while before your subconscious lets go of it.

Fkin’ A!

Re-read sparkyx’s thread on erection quality: Warning! If you haven’t gotten improved erections:

Keep a log of night wood, hang during the day, responsiveness to manipulation, and libido as well as your PE routines. For most guys there’s a point where PE enhances EQ, and another where more PE reduces EQ. Your log is a valuable tool; don’t ignore it.

Anyway, no need to lurk any more. Jump on in!

Began with pumping for short sessions, usually 3-5, 5 minute sets at 5 Hg. I was starting to see my unit hang a bit heavier and lower after these sessions and it got me excited. I was masturbating alot and doing the pumping religiously.

I eventually bought a BathMate out of curiosity and started doing sessions with that pump instead with the added benefit of being able to warm up in a hot bath and use hot water to stay limber and loose. I was making some small gains that I could feel in my own hand while masturbating, this was exhilarating and I liked it.

Eventually, I found my erections becoming weaker even while masturbating by myself.

This threw me for a loop so I started to research a bit more and stumbled upon this site. Everything I read on here about pumping and my symptoms told me to stop what I was doing until my erections improved.

So I did. After a week or two, everything was back to normal and I was feeling better. I put the pump away and resumed life as normal.

I soon met a great girl that I couldn’t pass up. She was extremely attractive, smart, young, caring. All of the things I was looking for. I even put sex off for a bit because she was different, not a girl I wanted to just dive in on, it was more special. She was even expecting sex a couple times I think and I was just teasing her, letting the tension build. I don’t think she was used to this so she didn’t know what to think, but it was different and exciting for her and she liked not having everything be just about penetrative sex. I was giving her orgasms without even taking her pants off, she was writhing for me.

Eventually it was time, the moment. We were going to smash and we were both so excited. We were making out and getting really hot and heavy. She had her sweet little hands on my erection and was stroking me slowly. I went to take her bra off and where I can usually snap them right off with one hand, I ran into a hang up. It wouldn’t un hook! I panicked a bit for a second and eventually got it but my erection went flat during the process. She was a bit startled by this and withdrew her grip on my shaft.

What happened next made me really fall in love with this girl. She said, “let’s just relax a bit and maybe he will come back” with a smile. I agreed and we eventually fell sleep on each other. I woke up to her on top of me about 5 am she had my cock in her mouth already and he was standing up hard as a rock. It was time. She jumped on top and rode me for what felt like forever. I eventually reciprocated with multiple positions and sent her through the roof shaking and cumming. Now it was my turn. She looked right in my eyes and told me to fill her (we had already discussed her birth control at that point) and I immediately released my ~ 5 day load into her sweet pussy and she loved every second grabbing onto my cock and pumping it inside of her while I pulsed inside of her. Great sex, and what a recovery from the night before, thank god!!

3 years pass. Our relationship grew, we blended our families (we both had kids from past relationships) had a son of our own and continued to grow as a couple.

We faced the normal phase of abstinence after pregnancy and our sex life never quite returned to where it was before. This is not something I was worried about, I knew with time it would heal.

At this point I hadn’t had any erection troubles, she kept me satisfied to the point I almost never masturbated. Then during our abstinence I got ahold of the porn machine and my own shaft again and went to town.

This was apparently not good for me because my performance went down once we resumed sex. She wasn’t climaxing as easily as before and I was having trouble lasting long enough for her. This seemed to deter her from sex and I became more depressed about it and buried my sorrows in porn.

I started having the same troubles as before. When we would have sex, I would lose my erection if anything went awry. Whether we had to stop to lubricate, or she gave me any indication of discomfort or anything, I would lose it. Mind you, I ALWAYS would get hard initially and rock hard while masturbating.

This led me to a self diagnosis of ED. I panicked, got ahold of some viagra and tried it. Man, we had sex for like 2 hours and had an absolute blast. It was a good confidence boost but I didn’t want to have to rely on it.

I researched a bit more and found myself back on this site, this time I made a username and started reading all kinds of threads. I went to my doctor, told him about my issues and he assured me that I did not have ED but rather. Performance Anxiety. More research and it is definitely where my issue is, ITS IN MY HEAD.

I began to work on my mental health a bit and tried a bunch of things, reading, meditating, talking with my gf about the issue. She is still very supportive and understanding.

Gradually I was gaining on the issue, maintaining better EQ in bed. But every once in a while having an issue. Usually we can cool down then get right back to it and it resolves itself. Still not lasting as long as I would like typically 5-10 minutes, but still satisfying both of our needs.

I read and researched this site for a month or so before I decided to start implementing my own penile exercise plan.

Here is my journey from here on out, RESTARTED!

I guess I will start with going over the past few months. I started around the second week of November this past year

I took initial measurements and researched the newbie routine. I started with that, touch and go, for a couple weeks. I was trying to figure out a good schedule as I am trying to be discreet about this. (I feel like this is my own business, it’s my penis, my responsibility.) I don’t necessarily think my girl would request a larger penis from me, but I also don’t think she will mind. I am excited to see if she reacts in any way to any gains I may make.

I continued with the newbie routine throughout this month and started noticing much harder erections while masturbating and my erections during sex being harder and visibly bigger. Newbie gains FTW!

I started this month off with a bang, hitting stride with a newly developed shower routine. I really gravitated towards the shower as it allows a really easy warm up and warm down under the direct pressure of the hot water while you do actual shower things.

The only hurdle I had, was the length of time I was now spending in the shower. There were questions raised for sure by the lady 🤔 I just insisted I’m learning to enjoy my showers a bit more nowadays and it hasn’t been an issue at all. I’ve been able to find ample time.

I also started using the bathmate with my routine this month here and there for a good pump. Honestly, it does deliver a really good pump, but I would notice decreased EQ for a couple days after use. This sparked a couple breaks this month but EQ went back to normal pretty quickly and I would resume my routine. I eventually put the pump away AGAIN. It doesn’t seem to be for me, maybe not yet, maybe never. We shall see.

I decided I’m going to stick to manual stretches and jelqs in the shower and see how it goes.

Avg. Routine for the month of December:

5-10 minute warm up under hot water
5-10 minute manual stretches, all directions
10-15 minutes jelqing, 100 reps
10 minute warm down

The jelqing technique has proven to be difficult this month, I am working on that. Focusing on what I feel I’m skilled at presently with the stretches, trying different angles and trying to feel the stretch in the ligaments.

I read the LOT theory this month and came in at an 8 so I’m going to continue with stretching, especially downward which I feel much more in the ligs than any other direction.

I began the month feeling good, better erections in general since putting the pump down and going for just manual exercises.

I got a gym membership and began weight training daily. I love it. This isn’t my first experience with lifting but it has been a while. It’s exciting to get back into and feels really good HUGE BONUS: There is a few shower stalls in the locker room and the location is generally very discreet. I have now switched my PE routines up to post workout at the gym, which is great. No pressure on time at home and I’m able to take my time and focus more.

I took my first progress measurement on the second week of January. Much to my delight, I have made some gains! Almost a half inch in length and a slight gain in girth with just the light newbie routine over the course of the past 2 months! I think ill start doing monthly measurements now, I was avoiding them the first couple months to deter myself from becoming disheartened.

Average January Routine:

Stretch body for 15 minutes
Lift weights for an hour
Cardio for 15 minutes

10 Minute- Shower Warm Up
10-15 Minute- Manual stretches in all directions
10-15 Minute- Jelqing 100-200 Reps
10 Minute Warm Down with leather strap around package

Lots of new discoveries this month.

Between the cheeks stretch, great stretch!!

Warm down aid with leather strap which helps keep engorged while under hot shower stream, great pump retention compared to flaccid hang Warm down.

Jelqing skill has greatly improved. I am alternating between standard jelqs and v jelqs now. Love the additional beneficial stretch of the v jelqs.

Johnsons Baby Oil Gel is the best thing I have found for jelqing. Long lasting and very silky. Smells great too!

Also been using cocoa butter lotion with vitamin E post workout to help heal stretched skin.

Just in the last couple days have been experimenting with Squeezes, 10 second holds between every 50 reps of jelqs, seen a very good pump from this!

Not ready for ADS on my penis but I have been wearing a weighted ring on my balls for most of the day which is starting to help my balls hang a bit lower. They have always been very close to my body and I think a better ball hang will go well with my new flaccid size which is now hovering around 5” most of the day which is very encouraging.

I love taking my cock out even just to pee now its much larger flaccid and just that turns me on at the sight. I often tug on it and plump a little during bathroom breaks, feels great!

No comments from the gf yet, but I have definitely caught some stares while she’s looking at my new flaccid. I no longer face away when changing. “Yeah, look at that thing hang baby!” 😁

Going to continue with what I’m doing, slow and steady, add a little here and there but not to over train. Only “injury” I’ve seen are some spots on my head but they are not much of a concern and go away within a day or so.

Erection Quality fluctuates here and there if I have trained a few days straight so I am using that as an indication of when to take a break. I’m typically 3-5 days on and 1 day off. Erections are generally harder and easier to maintain at this point which is great!!

Thank you to everyone at Thunders Place for the great information and inspiration. I hope you all enjoy my log.

I’ll check in again at the end of the month, thinking about doing a measurement at the beginning of February.

Happy Jelqing!

Andy, thank you for the reply! I appreciate the encouragement and yes I will read up on that article as well. I haven’t been keeping a personal log of EQ, more so just in my head. You can read my last few posts and get a better insight on my progress if you would like. I still have performance anxiety issues here and there though. My brain will turn my erection off if I get too excited or my adrenaline shot up for any reason. It’s frustrating but I am working on it. Just fortunate to have a loving and understanding partner.

It’s been a great week of training my body and penis. I have gotten much better at jelq techniques and I can feel the stretch and engorgement in my head and tunica much more.

I have gradually introduced some squeeze techniques using the overhand tourniquet technique and gradual, incremental squeezing increasing one finger at a time, then a 10 second hold. This is typically done after every 50 jelqs or so (I am currently doing around 200 reps) and I alternate squeeze hands as to not favor one side or the other.

Also trying Horse 440 squeezes here and there but being careful, it is quite a lot of pressure, but my member seems to be holding up well and is getting used to the abuse.

I have seen a noticeable girth increase post workout and throughout the day in my flaccid.

The squeeze techniques are much recommended to anyone looking for more girth, but only if your penis is conditioned well (at least 2-3 months) no newbies!

Been on a great 4 day stretch of exercise and PE.

I’ve been achieving great pump after my jelq/squeeze techniques and it lasts all day. I think my flaccid has been hanging close to 5”.

Been wearing a couple weighted rings on my balls and it’s helping them hang a bit lower. I would like to achieve a lower hang, not sure if this will lead to permanent gains but we will see.

Going to take the next couple days off and get ready for a measurement on the 3rd day. Probably get up and take advantage of the raging morning wood I’ve been having for a good measurement after a rest.

Did a preliminary measurement the other morning and looks like I’m leaning towards 7” finally. The biggest I’ve ever been! Excited for that 7” mark!!

Stay tuned for measurement on Feb 1st!

A log can be a hassle, and when you’re starting with ED or poor EQ you’re having to record things you might not really want to think about any more than you have to. But that’s the point; you can look back to previous weeks and see how you’re getting better, or it will show that what you’re doing is non- or counter-productive.

Yeah, it will take a while. The problem is the feedback cycle: the anxiety will *cause* performance problems, which cause more anxiety, and around and around you go. You just have to keep on until the squirrels in your head lose interest in the subject. It doesn’t take forever, it just seems like it.

And… I don’t want to harsh your mellow, but even when you think you’re over it and everything is fine, you may have occasional relapses. Not everyone does, but enough to be worth mentioning. It’s a “shit happens” thing, but it’s almost certainly a short duration thing that will go away quickly. It can be embarrassing or annoying, but if you don’t panic you’ll be fine in a day or so. Knowing it’s just a temporary thing makes it a lot easier to deal with.

Thanks for the words of encouragement Andy, my lady and I have been trying out some sensate focus exercises and it’s actually brought us a lot closer. It always amazes me how much penetrative sex is so scrutinized when most women want everything but that with a hint of penetration. That’s fine with me, I love foreplay! 🤤

I was so close to reaching the 7” BPEL mark this month but it was just shy. If I stretched it, I would be there but I’d rather be a stickler for duplicated measurements at this point.

That’s almost 3/4” of length gains in just under 3 months and is exciting to me. This is the biggest I’ve ever been.

Girth is going very slow.

Going to keep working my cock in the shower for an hour or so after workouts at the gym like I have been and keep the same routine until gains slow.

As well as.

I ordered the ADS kit from jelq2grow and waiting for it to come. It’s the one with the rubber sleeve that grips your cock instead of a pump or clamp style.
I want to be able to wear it at work while being somewhat active and not worry too much about constriction or re attachment after urination. As we generally go pee outside. This one seems to suit both of those needs.

We shall see when it gets here how it goes. Would like to integrate that on my workout days as well to try and solidify more length gains which is what I’m after at the moment.

Looking for length first, then girth.

Thanks for reading and happy jelqing!

Hey guys, not much activity on my log but I’m gonna keep on trucking. I feel like it’s still valuable info and hoping for more gains this month but I’m avoiding the ruler!! Just wanna focus on consistency and I kind of like the suspense!

I started a log where I record sexual activity, erection quality, masturbation habits and morning wood occurrence. Also, whether I did a PE workout for the day and if I wore ADS.

Speaking of ADS. I ordered the penis sleeve from Jelq2Gain and it has been great so far, very comfortable. I made the mistake of not wearing the tape on my glans though and got a small blister (probably 1.5mm) that I’m waiting to go away before wearing the sleeve again. I’m continuing to jelq and stretch but avoiding negative pressure of any kind. It looks deflated most of the time until I’m working out in the shower and it looks engorged I’m guessing from the tissue expansion.

I’m going to monitor for a few more days and if it doesn’t go away I’ll stop all PE until it goes away.

Just trying to stay consistent, I’ve had a couple 2-3 day breaks due to work this month but I feel like it has been good and much needed rest.

I’ll see you guys at the beginning of March, hoping to break the 7” mark, we shall see!

Today was the day. I measured my current gains and this time I did it after a workout so I had some pump going and therefore my measurements may be slightly inflated. But I don’t care I’m happy where I ended up. I’ve gained almost a full inch in length and an inch and a half in flaccid hang.

I was under the impression that I had stopped gaining this month but I was wrong and it is nice to see the results. It’s good motivation to keep going with the newbie routine.

The only thing that I’ve changed this month was adding squeezes, which I have since backed off from the last couple weeks due to suspicions it was hindering my length gains. I’ve also added some ADS with my jelq2grow all day hanger rig that I like very much. I’ve put in 70 hours on the hanger this month and I’m now up to 6-10 hours per day a few times per week.

I had some issues with the silicon sleeve hanger earlier when I got a small water blister and had to give the sleeve a rest. I have realized how vital the anti fluid tape is to preventing vacuum injury. The best anti fluid tape I’ve found is from Walgreens and is called silicon tape. It is very easily removed from the glans in comparison to the 3m micropore tape.

I have recently rigged up a captains wench and am trying to learn how to wrap and apply it properly for ADS. This will prevent having to remove a silicon sleeve every time I have to take a bathroom break and that would be great if I can get the hang of it! Currently having some issues with constricting the glans and some discoloration after wearing it for a bit but I’m working on the wrapping technique. Any suggestions would be great!

Check out MY NEW GAINS!! So excited, this is the biggest I’ve ever been. Looking forward to continuing and growing more towards my goal and maybe even beyond! Surprisingly still no comments from my lady but she has never seemed too concerned with size anyway.

Happy jelqing!

Edging after (any) routine helps a lot in maintaining an erection.