Originally Posted by aussiewill
How lack. You say you’ve had nerve damage. What nerve do you think was affected? And how long did it take to heal?
I am very interested to know and what you did to fix it.I am not saying that depression had no effect, I think it has a very big effect, and I think it has had an effect on me. I am saying that people I’ve seen that I think have the same problem as I do have a very severe reduction in sensation, erectile quality (mine was an instant reduction with little to no pain in my penis and no visible damage or bruising) and libido before the depression. The depression is a symptom of shit erectile quality and pain if it’s there (some are just numb) and from there will make things worse for sure. I can understand your reasoning to pin a lot of it on depression, but what happens if the original cause doesn’t rectify?
I believe my injury affected the dorsal nerve since I had numbness (much reduced sensitivity) in my penis all the way to my glans. Unlike jelqing, I injured mine during an extremely vigorous night of sex. Long story short (pun not intended), the cowgirl riding me thought I was longer than I was, pulled off and slammed her pelvis down on my fully erect penis. I felt immediate pain and a loss of erection followed by extended intermittent ED, numbness in some areas and pain at the base of my shaft. Being the tough guy I am, I never went to the doctor (dumb, I know but I was a kid).
Before the "accident", I got erections within seconds, measured close to 8 1/4 inches long and never had problems keeping an erection for as long as I wanted to. The only problem I had then was struggling with too much sensitivity which caused me to want to ejaculate within minutes of vaginal penetration. After the accident, it would take several minutes to get hard, erections were painful near the left upper side of the base of my penis and along the shaft. I would lose my erections within minutes or only maintain a soft erection (erect but with a soft glans). However, I didn’t have the over sensitivity anymore so even though I could probably last for hours my penis wouldn’t stay erect. That could partially be blamed on the numbness, erection pain or the scared little idiot that I was at the time. Who knows.
It took close to a year or more before I started seeing some noted improvements in my erection quality and sensitivity. Unfortunately, depression and the fear of ED lowered my libido. Fear of rejection and fear of what you might have done to your manhood can do all kinds of things to your libido. During that down time, I wasn’t getting constant erections. Night and morning wood were non existent and masturbation was such a chore I quit doing that for a while. I got heavy into porn because of fear. Unbeknownst to me, porn was exacerbating the problem by overstimulating and thus requiring more and more porn to get me hard. I thought it was just my penis.
Skip forward 20 years and I find myself here at Thunders helping others who struggle with ED. I learned many years ago how to jelq but I used it primarily to engorge my penis for the health benefits. I didn’t realize it could be used to increase size. I learned that those few years without serious erections caused my penis to shrink. WebMD documents that here . Jelqing has increased my EQ tremendously and made my penis more sensitive than ever. Swearing off porn has allowed me to get rock hard erections with my wife without too much trouble. Don’t get me wrong, she is gorgeous but very few women can compare to the fake porn women we see all over the web.
Several years ago, my GP discovered that I had an inguinal hernia. It has been repaired. I also had some back issues when I was young. The question remains, did the traumatic injury from that night of sex cause many years of suffering or did it set off a chain reaction of problems that led to more problems? What about my back pain issues or the hernia? Were those things instrumental or coincidental? I can tell you this, I overcame my injury and am on the road to success. It started with prayer and abstinence. After several years, I was able to overcome my depression through sheer will power and that allowed me to focus on healing. I never used ice or heat since that knowledge never occurred to me. I also didn’t use supplements. Somewhere along the line, I learned to jelq properly and increased blood flow to my penis. I learned how to kegel and reverse kegel. That helped with blood flow as well.
At this point, I was on the road to a complete recovery but was still lacking knowledge. Then I found Thunder’s Place. Everything fit in place. What I learned over the years started to make more sense when combined with the vast knowledge of others here. Something clicked in my mind and now I have my penis and my manhood back. When I first arrived at TP, my penis measured 7 1/4. I lost an inch somewhere. Wow. Over the course of a year and a half or so, I’ve gained back close to a half inch and my EQ is out of the roof. My sensitivity levels are better now than when I was a kid. However, I’m not 100%. I blame that on my age and fitness level, though. The road to success, my friend, is not an easy one. It is steep and full of obstacles but the only way forward is to take one step and place it in front of the other. If I can do it, so can you.
