female libido

I understand thank you for sharing.
what’s your zodiac sign if i may?

I am a cancer with Leo ascendent.

I am not in any way qualified to share life-changing advice, and I would mistrust anyone that claims they are. It’s an intensely personal journey.

I also don’t want anyone to go through all the pain I went through to get where I miraculously ended up, I shared some on that in other topics before. I went through the lowest of the lows and powerful drives to commit suicide before I saw the light that had burned inside me all along. Don’t ever travel that far down due to a misguided drive to hurt yourself before you disappoint someone you care about.

When you care about someone, the heartbreak is always mutual. In the case of my ex wife, it was for the better after too many wasted years. It went way beyond lack of sex, it went to really realizing why that happened and could not get fixed. But I’d never recommend anyone spend more than 4 sexless years thinking they’ll ever fix it. What I know is you can’t live short changing yourself out of fear of hurting someone else. There are only two ways out of a situation like that, and neither is great. Either they find out as they get better that you are with them for pity, in which case they’ll move on quickly… or you’ll end up spent and with nothing else to give, in which case you’ll be easy prey for anything else…

In a word, before I got where I am at, my life journey was painful. Mostly because of myself - I tried to fix anyone and everything except myself, and ended up totally spent in my 40s.

The libido was a side thing throughout it all. In fact I think I used sex to fix everything that was wrong with my life - I have fucked more women than I care to admit, and it never fixed anything in my life ever. It was a distraction.

These days, sex is a sacred ritual to me, which is an odd say to say given my life journey.

But again - that is MY journey. It is in no way advice.

Summerfag I am exploring something called slow sex that is the opposite of rough sex. …

I can say when I practise slow sex it seemed almost boring at the time but the bonding and peace afterward was pleasant. Those advanced in the practice say the body becomes highly sensitive over time with less friction required and infinitely more fulfilling.

Also with your partner I wonder if there is some anxiety or something that cannabis helps with and that there may be alternatives. Those in alternative health mention things like progesterone, hops extract (to increase estrogen), copper or iron can help improve female hormone balance and desire. Personally my health improved drastically on a low vitamin A/low beta carotene diet and many are seeing vitamin A overdose as complicit in many health disorders. Good luck to you guys.

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We might be getting into the weeds here fellows.

Sorry brother but I dont understand your point, it’s way too complicated for my english and even with google traduction the translation is not very digestible.
I’m skipping my turn

My girl has actually a realy tiny libido and im horny as hell.

Just wanted to share it with you guys, im living a hell in my mind.

This says it all really.

The other girls offer aside. Virtues of marijuana aside. Sexual definition aside. You’re horny and she’s not. She’s happy and you’re not.

Unless she has asked you for help with improving her health, you are not helping. You are simply disapproving of a state she is happy to be in.

There is no “key” or method. You aren’t doing anything wrong and you aren’t deficient. It takes 2 people (minimum) to have sex and you are only responsible for and in control of one of them.

It’s my opinion that you need to find a girl that matches or at least understands your sex drive.

2 questions.

Have you spoken plainly to her about this problem? Not to pressure but to describe how much of a problem it is for you?

This one is a long shot but if you are getting to the end of your tolerance, Do you think she would be ok with you taking a weekly drive to Paris as long as you took care of her needs as a priority?

Good luck dude.

You may express affection to your significant other regularly, but do you truly take the time to make sure you’re communicating it the way your partner wants to receive it? Even love can sometimes get lost in translation when two partners speak different love languages. There are five primary love languages that people speak. These include words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts. Theres a book on this topic and its helping us understand one another better after 25 years. It requires some effort and its worth it.
Research shows that the hormone testosterone may improve sexual function in specific groups of women, but data on safety and effectiveness are limited.

I was thinking about something..
I wonder why I never thought about it..
She loved rough sex before, maybe by reintegrating it into our sexual lovemaking she will regain her libido.
By dint of trying to teach her how her body felt and going slow for the orgasm I forgot that she liked it.. It has been months since I did not fucked her hard.

I think I’ll try to bang her real hard next time and see what happens.
The problem is I cannot control my ejaculation easily when I am having rough sex.

Love is so much more than sex. If you had a life threatening condition, who would you want at your bedside?

In my opinion, I think it’s normal if you can’t control your libido in hard sex, because of what ?

You push your libido at higher levels, let me explain. Your body asking you to have sex for dopamine, for having good feeling in your mind. Or maybe the hard sex is on of the fantasy of your friend, what’s why she love that.
But I think, well it’s my advice, if you truly love her, you should have long and intense sexual experience with her.

I saw you said she have a weak libido, so don’t do it every days but when you do it, have a intense experience with her. I mean, take the time to explore her entire body, this is the person that you live with.
I don’t know if you see what I mean.

For my part, I was several times attracted to girls but it was more a sentimental interest than sexual.

The girls I was in love with, I didn’t dare approach them, it was like a temple that I couldn’t defile. Like a platonic interest, my sexual interest was aroused exclusively on girls I met by sight.