Its not getting better delayed ejaculation

For 3 years I took a ssri nothing ever stopped me from cumming I decided to taper and stop taking it. Turns out I need it so I started again its been 5 weeks and now it takes me like 40-60 mins to cum. Should I be worried. I was never able to watch porm and last 15 mins with out kegaling and stopping myself now when I feel it coming I cum.

Do you follow a kegel routine?

Nope

If it’s a hormonal problem, I don’t know how much it will help, but why not give it a try. If you do it, make sure to use a one day on one day off routine, go easy on the reps and duration of the holds.

Have you talked to your doc about it?

Some have pre ejaculation and others have long times without ejaculating. I’m in that second group most of the time but I’m getting better at it.

I wouldn’t be concerned about it. There have been times with my wife when I haven’t had an orgasm. We just wait a little while and make love again. I realized that mine was due to overstimulation. I have rough hands because I own a ranch. If you press too hard or have rough hands your dick is going to be very desensitized. Don’t masterbate or let your wife do it if her hands are soft. Concentrate on the feelings and sensitivity. It will return after a while.

Also, Ive read on here that some people who have changed over from hand masterbating to using a Fleshlight have seen marked improvement in sensitivity.

That sensitivity is pivotal in your quest for controlling your orgasms and coming on command.

Return of sensitivity is a great reason to use fleshlight.

I overcame a bad case of DE some years ago (no pun intended), although it wasn’t caused by drugs. It’s late here but hang in there and I’ll explain the things that helped me, tomorrow or over the weekend.

We need this information.

So yeah, it was a combination of two main things. Bear in mind that what worked for me might not work for other guys, and that my case was probably just caused by an overfamiliarity with masturbation and porn and an underfamiliarity with the feel of a vagina (I was a bit of a late starter and was in my early 20s before I was in a relationship that actually involved pretty regular sex.

Anyway, I found out somewhere or other about this stuff called yohimbe, which is a drug made from the bark of a tree that grows in Africa. I was naturally skeptical of a legal ‘sex-enhancing’ product but actually it really does work. It’s a moderately strong stimulant - not as strong as amphetamine but I’d say a fair bit stronger than coffee, for instance - that increases blood flow to erectile tissue and greatly enhances sensitivity and reduces the the amount of stimulation and time taken to reach orgasm. It also makes orgasms more powerful and reduces the refractory period (the time after you’d had an orgasm in which it’s impossible to have another - resets your body to being about 13 years old, in other words).

Now there are any number of yohimbe products available online, some of which may well be bunk, so what you want is one called ‘standardized extract’ or something similar, that contains a stated amount in mg of ‘yohimbe alkaloids’. I think there are several active compounds but the main one is called yohimbine. It’s available in a pharmaceutical form called Yocon in the USA but I believe it’s prescription only. Doesn’t matter though, as the capsules with standardized extract in them work just fine.

Apart from the desired sexual effects, it has a few side effects, such as slight excess sweating, increased heart rate and salivation. These shouldn’t be anything you can’t handle if you take a sensible dose but I’d be very careful about combining it with other medicines (see below). It also stimulates the digestion somewhat so you might want to take an Imodium (loperamide) just as a precaution. But you may not even get these symptoms, I’m sure it varies from person to person like these things do. Just start off with a low dose and work up if you feel you can handle it after a week or two.

As I said, it *is* a stimulant and particular care should be taken if you have any risk factors associated with cardiovascular disease - family history of heart trouble, smoker, overweight, all the usual things. Although from what I gather, most TP members seem to keep their whole bodies in reasonable condition, so that shouldn’t be an issue for most guys here. You might want to talk to your doctor (assuming s/he has heard of yohimbe - it’s still not a widely used supplement, I think) if you have high blood pressure, diabetes or anything like that.

A note on drugs: I know MAOIs are a really bad thing to combine with stimulants - not sure about SSRIs, although it’s worth repeating what I said above about starting small and working up. You might even want to start by breaking a capsule earlier and seeing what taking half of the contents does before you try taking a whole one at a time. If memory serves, the kind I usually bought contained 8 mg of alkaloids per capsule and I would take between one and three (and never more than that) in a day, depending on what I was up to and how I was feeling. I haven’t used it in years now but thinking about it has prompted me to order some, as I enjoy it purely for making orgasms more intense. It seems to work just as well on women, which is hardly surprising that women’s erectile tissues are basically the same as men’s.

The other and arguably more important aspect was that I had a very supporting and non-judgmental girlfriend at the time, who was also very hot and great in bed, and the fact that she never made me feel bad for not being able to come through sex and was obviously really pleased when I did manage it. I did make something of an effort to cut down on porn and masturbation, but wasn’t always successful as we were long-distance (like, trans-Atlantic long distance) so we were apart for several weeks at a time. I guess this is probably a less important for guys suffering DE as a result of medicines, however.

One final thing was that I started always using a lubricant for masturbation - I settled years ago on Vaseline as the best substance - and always apply a little after showering, in order to replace the natural oils that are lost through washing. It helps keep the skin nice and fresh and sensitive. I’m not circumcised but for guys who are, this could be even more important. I’ve also heard that foreskin restoration is great for guys who were cut as babies - why we’re still keeping up this idiotic practice in the 21st century sure as hell beats me.

Anyway, good luck and I hope that’s been of some help!

MODS: is it allowed for me to post information on the brands I used to buy? I've got no commercial connection with any of them, it would just be information for other TP members.

Go ahead wibble.

Are you married?

Cheers, Thunder.

I’ve ordered a brand called Country Life* Yohimbe Power 1000 capsules from iHerb.com, they’re good. However they couldn’t ship them to the UK for some obscure reason when I tried to order some today, if that’s an issue for any British TP’ers who might want to try the stuff. Then I remembered that I’d enjoyed another brand called Swanson that were just as good, and got some shipped from a UK-based site called HealthMonthly.co.uk.

I don’t think it really matters what you buy as long as they have a certain percentage of yohimbe alkaloids in each capsule. 8-10 mg per capsule seems pretty good (e.g. the Swanson ones are 500 mg of extract at 2% yohimbe alkaloids = 10 mg, which I know is a decent dose).

As long as you take this into account, just shop around and see what’s the best value you can find.

I would discourage the use of yohimbe, it has a very low therapeutic index (the amount needed to be effective is near the danger level). In several countries Yohimbine is not anymore legal.

I’ve tried it. It didn’t work well for me. It made me feel like my heart was going to explode on the lowest dose.