Join the challenge! Porn detox!

I’m going on this train too some day. I need a porn break, but I also realize that it is going to be incredibly tough to quit. I read somewhere that up to six months is needed to get your brain back to a regular state. That’s a long time without one of my favourite pleasures…

So-o-o, what is your opinion on edging guys?
Because I feel it benefits my PE when done as a warm-down and I feel it could also help with my other PE (premature ejaculation). Are those just excuses to touch myself or what?

So does the abstinence from masturbation (for the ones that actually stopped masturbating too) include edging or should I just refrain from jerking off and coming? :confused:

A majority of people abstaining from PMO agree that edging is bad.

Edging:
-can be painful and unhealthy
-will most likely lead to masturbating
-gives you the same dopamine that masturbating/porn does

It’s very hard to avoid edging especially when doing PE but I’ve had to learn to do so.

Isn’t edging and masturbating the same thing? Only without the mess in the first option?

I really need to stop watching porn. I’ve been reading about the brains chemistry and porn. I’m really starting to think I have abnormally high dopamine all the time, and this is why I can’t stop watching porn. My sleep pattern is not good. I always wake at 2:00 am and have real difficulty getting back to sleep, even on sleep meds.

Has anyone been diagnosed with abnormally high dopamine? If so, are there meds for this situation? I’d like to talk to my HRT doctor about this, he’s a neuroendocrinologist, I’m just a bit ashamed of my situation though.

Here’s an interesting article on insomnia that I came across if anyone struggles with this problem:

Lights Out - Treat Insomnia Naturally

I’m in. I need to use my time for better things like working out and getting rid of this one pack!

Hey guys, just finished read the whole thread and I didn’t knew about it. I think I remember something about porn detox, but well..

I just stumbled on this thread and want to use it as a log for me and also to tell my story.

I already posted on other thread so I will just copy it here, this is when I began my detox, 10 days ago:

“Ok Guys I have read a lot of stuff from Your Brain on Porn and for me was like discovering “El Dourado”, porn has done some severe brain damage on me, A Huge, I cannot measure that, but it’s ruining my sex life until my first contact with a girl.

A never had ED problem, on the other hand I have a fantastic ED, always have (I think it’s because I Kegel like hell) I never had any problem. But one thing always bothered me and I always thought it’s completely normal, my Libido.

But after read all this articles and testimonials was like “WHOA!”, “I also passed the part of the heavy porn”, “I also thinked that I was gay (Ashamed like no one), I thought I had a lot of problems, included taken medicines because I thought I haved low testosterone (BULL BUFALLOSHIT), but the only problem I haved it’s that for I don’t know how many years I’ve been training my brain to find all situations on sex completely normal.

Fuck, now it’s so clear, it’s like the game/movie, hitman 47 where the kids was forced to watch horrible things (like pigs fighting each other) just to train his brain to get used to this situations, I feel sad because I discovery this shit so late, but also it’s a new beginning to me.

I Phyriel (Can’t post my real name) am discovering sexual sensations (has already have some good, now I know why some things got me so horny) with 26 years, because of heavy porn since my I don’t know, 14 years.

So guys be careful, I am totally out of porn and masturbation, I will quit off PE for a while too, 3 months (90 days) AND I promise myself, no more porn for me.

Thanks you guys for showing me the truth, I cannot be more thankful.

I haved discovery the “Pandora’s Box”.

PS: Things that can have tricked me into thinking I had no problem.

1 - Never had failed with a woman, despite the fact that sometimes I don’t felt nothing at all.
2 - Never had problems with socializing and meeting girls.
3 - Always haved contact with a girls.”

Just want to say that this is a war for me and I won’t take easy it, this thing is messing with my head since I was 14 years and I don’t want anymore, nevermore, I will have a hardcore approach.

Every single encounter I haved with a female it always seemed strange to me, despite the fact that I liked (after all I got married!) I always knew that there was something wrong with my mind, that my way of viewing sex was scammed.

It’s not possible that every female around me I have sexual thoughts, even the forbidden ones, or the taboos. I just want to have a piece of mind, and know I am achieving.

In this 47 pages, there’s a lot of argument (like all this thread, after all this is a forum), if this is correct? I am addicted? I can live with porn? And among other things.

Well in my case, I can’t, I just can’t, there some people who can have lightly alcohol in these lives (like me), drink a beer with friends, when you want to stop, you just simple stop. But porn it’s not that way for me.

When I was out of Internet I came to my parents house just to check Internet porn, with the door open in their room I was doing I slightly masturbation (clothes on), and my wife and daughter in the living room, playing. I was checking every imaginable porn just to get a “fix”, thank god I stopped, because I was began to feel like a real piece of shit. This is just one of the things I have done to get a “fix”, I have toon of others that I have shame to tell you guys.

So that’s it, that my journey and I will not fail, I have made myself I promise, and if there one quality that I have among all my fails it’s willpower.

I have exorcised my demons to my wife who has been very supportive, and will do everything for me to get better. I have made a promise to her.

My approach like I said it’s a hardcore one, I needed:

1 year off porn (I will try every possible away to get rid of this thing for a life time but one step at time).
3 months off masturbation (no PE, kegels, flesh-light, no nothing)
And try to avoid orgasm at all, only when I have the WILL, and approach in all forms to my wife.

Wish me luck!

Day 10.

I am less nervous, anxious, my dreams are more vivid I cannot describe in words, it’s like all my dreams are blur-ed and I cannot barely remember and now it’s otherwise. I dreamed yesterday I was watching porn, I felt like shit. Libido 0, and trying to move on!

Guys just want to post this to help some guys about fantasizing in the reboot period, like Ska tool has some doubt it, it’s very explained, so make your choice.

"What’s the difference between fantasizing about porn and watching porn?

Answer: The mouse

Fantasizing about porn or reading "erotic" stories makes porn recovery harder and maybe longer. Fantasizing about porn you viewed activates sensitized addiction pathways, causing spikes in dopamine, which seem to correlate with cravings and increased restlessness. This increases the chance of relapsing and keeps addiction neural pathways alive & well.

Research on mental imagery indicates that fantasizing or imagining an experience activates many of the same neural circuits as performing it. In other words, fantasizing about porn reinforces your addictive pathways. From the study - Do imagined and executed actions share the same neural substrate? - Researchers concluded:

“These three sources of data provide converging support for the hypothesis that imagined and executed actions share, to some extent, the same central structures.”

On the other hand, from what guys on the forum say, using your imagination about real potential partners is more satisfying than going on autopilot and passively allowing porn to do all the work.

Question: What about fantasizing about the real deal during a rebooting process?

Answer: Who knows?

A lot guys say that fantasizing about real sex during a reboot is generally counter-productive. On the other hand, it would make sense to rewire your brain to the real deal if you have little sexual experience. A key may be to not place real partners into your favorite porn scenarios. Maybe keep it rather vanilla, if you must.

I like this guys view:

I figured it out, fellas. Last night, I was sitting around post-workout relaxing, busy not fapping (you know how that goes) and of course I was thinking about sex. Then it hit me: I really enjoy thinking about beautiful women. I mean it makes me HAPPY. Being horny was enjoyable and life-affirming last night because for the first time in my life I didn’t see it as a problem that needed to be fixed. I realized that it’s my natural state as a man and it’s essential to being a true man.

Think about it: if you’re caught in the daily PMO cycle, you see your sex drive as a problem in constant need of fixing. We’re in a sense afraid of being horny because whenever we start feeling that longing we immediately start yanking ourselves until it goes away. WHY? Last night I found out that if you don’t rush to put that fire out, it turns out that that fire is the very fire that should be constantly burning in all men, pushing us forth into the world to conquer and win. Bask in the warmth. You need it to succeed. We’re truly blessed to be male, healthy, and alive.

Here’s what some men say about fantasizing during a reboot:
•This guy’s story was from another forum. He suggests avoiding all fantasy, even looking at women, while you reboot. It appears he claims 3-week reboot, but actually needed two separate 21-day periods. Sorry for the long post in advance, but I believe I have something that might help. The most effective way to beating this thing I have found is this: You have to stop fantasizing for a while. When I say stop fantasizing, I mean, "Stop looking at everything related to sex." Stop looking at women if you have to. Why may you ask? I’ll explain. Being addicted to porn is sort of like being addicted to drugs, alcohol or smoking. When you’re addicted to something, your brain’s dopamine goes all out of control. This is what causes the problems in the first place. So what happens? We decide to quit the porn and MB. That’s a great start. However, what I have found is when I continue to look at women and fantasize it slows up the process tremendously. If you read the science literature you’ll find that small amounts of dopamine are released just anticipating a stimulus (I.e., wanting a piece of chocolate cake, or in this case porn or sex). That in turn can slow up progress. Put it this way: If you quit smoking or alcohol would you spend all day staring at their containers? Probably not, because it creates temptation. It creates that same rush in our brain. You see? Once you quit P and MB, if you’re still looking at regular women and imagining them in porn scenes, that’s not really quitting in my opinion. So what am I getting at? About a year ago I read a similar post on medhelp titles "too much porn = total loss of libido." A couple users had our problem and their strategy was to abstain completely for a couple weeks; abstain from fantasy, looking at any pictures of women, just complete abstinence. For them, it worked in as little as 2-3 weeks. I then tried this myself, and much to my happiness it worked. However, I did lapse back into porn cause I thought I was "cured" and it was OK for me to watch again. Now I’m going back to this strategy. What I did? For at least 14-21 days I looked at nothing: no fantasy, no pictures of women. I tried not to even look at real women. I did this because I wanted to give my brain a chance to heal without any outside stimulus.
Is it difficult? Absolutely! Very difficult to completely abstain for weeks, but it was worth it. I felt it helped me heal. I felt it allowed the porn thoughts to disappear from my head.

Just quitting the P and MB, for me, wasn’t 100 percent quitting. It was the fantasies that kept the unwanted brain effects alive."

Taken from Your Brain On Porn -

Circling back around to post my experience.

Only thing I really have to say is DO IT!! Get porn out of your life. What I got in return is something better than porn - a nympho hottie who fucks me whenever we want plus sometimes when she wants. My big problem now is exhaustion… ;) Porn seems boring to me now, I’ve been totally rewired. This thread is gold and the premis is true. Stop doubting and jump on this reality bandwagon!

Thanks!

Is there a possibility that removing porn and re balancing the brain can lead to being more in tune with your emotions?

I have been away from porn for quite awhile and think I am climbing out of the flat line that the ybop website talks about. Now I can sense my emotions more or something.
Music has become much more intense ( both listening to a song or playing my own on piano )
Most of the time I feel this alert calmness (something I strive to reach ) but when the emotions start to tip up or down I feel completely different than before.
I also feel more alert of others emotions and body language.

All of these things are good of course, but it wasn’t something I was expecting. Just wondering if anyone else noticed changes like these and thinks it might be from detox.

It’s been roughly 45 days I stopped watching porn or masturbating thinking about it (I started around the end of july / start of august)

Idk.. I’m not seeing much progress, I still haven’t been as horny in real life situations as I have been while I was watching porn. Haven’t gotten an equal erection like when I watched porn as well.
Will I ever be able to experience the same amount of “hornyness” in real life like when I watch porn or is possible I just get more turned on by porn than a real girl??

I’m able to ejaculate when I get a handjob but sometimes I lose my erection.. I kinda have a fetish for porn where the guy gets a handjob or a blowjob and when I watched it and they didn’t have an erection I was like “wtf how can you not get hard when they’re touching your dick, I’m just watching and I have like a rock hard erection!”, but now when I’m doing stuff in real life I don’t even come close to being as aroused when watching..

I’m really considering medication so I can at least give my gf the sex she deserves, we’ve been together for quite some time now but still haven’t had sex (real penetration), we’ve done almost everything except the actual penetration part because I go flacid whenever we try..
At least once and then I can see how it goes from there, perhaps the tension will go away.
The thing is I have no clue what to get and where to get it..
I’m just kinda ashamed to go to a pharmacy and ask if they can help me with my problem.. But I’m really getting sick of this shit so I might just swallow my pride and get something the next time I know we’re going to be together.

Hello guys! This is my first post.

I started PE a few days ago and just found out about this porn related ED and read quite a bit about it on another site.
So, I started yesterday my porn detox and plan to stick to it.

My question is:

Can I follow my PE routine along with porn detox?
From what I understood, the rebooting process demands no PMO (Porn-Masturbation-Orgasm). But is it okay to do the PE exercises or should I stop even the PE?

I’m sorry if this has been answered before, I could not read more than a few pages of this very long thread!

Just read alot of articles on yourbrainonporn. Com and I’m convinced my ED is caused by this, not by anything physical.
I’m just wondering if getting a handjob / blowjob from the girlfriend is bad for my healing process?
I’m more motivated than ever to completely refrain from porn AND masturbation until I see improvement in real life situations, I’m also giving up smoking (even though I only did it from time to time)

The only thing that bothers me is that my girlfriend has to wait on real sex until I’m healed, I really feel like using cialis or viagra just once to give her the pleasure but I’m ashamed of going to the doctor, getting a prescription and then going to the pharmacy.. -.-

Is there anything I can do to help my EQ besides viagra or cialis?

Fodedor - I am sure you can perform PE while rebooting. The reboot cycle is all about you controlling urges and thoughts that fire/connect along the neuropath ways that reinforce the porn addiction.

Hotshot - Why not give her oral orgasms and use your fingers? You could learn to make her squirt while you are waiting to get hard enough to fuck.

That’s what I’ve been doing last week :D