Join the challenge! Porn detox!

I don’t understand such extreme approaches. Why don’t you bust while having sex with a woman or a man?

I would reiterate my advice - do no think of all the things you can’t do - ie no soft porn, no erotic stories, etc. I would concentrate instead on what you can do - have sex with a real human. It’s easier that way. :)

I will have sex with the wife but I want to experience life without any masturbation. I been addicted to porn and masturbation since 16 and need to go extreme lengths to stop. Besides the time when I went to airfare basic training for a month I havent gone without porn on my own.

Okay, so it’s been a week now, no porn, no tumblr erotic sites, no “Rate Her” or “Battle of the Babes”, only “Chick or Dick” because that’s fun and not at all a turn on and the occasional hottie in a swimsuit while surfing various sites, but dressed women are allowed anyway. :P

It’s kinda fun actually.

But do you guys think I should stay away from porn like a religious fanatic and f.e. if a friend of mine starts looking at a tumblr site I shouldn’t? :confused:

P.S.

Sure mate, I just want to draw the line somewhere, so I know when I’m about to cross it. :)

It’s been a tough day, I really want to look at some porn or at least erotic sites, but I’ll manage. I saw a tit or two by accident, but I’ve mainly been looking at dressed women. :D

This is a pretty good site if you want to look at some hotties. :P

What the Hell. I’ll try it for a week. The no porn thing. Though I masturbate way less than I did in my youth, I will still do that.

I don’t think it will be all that tough though, but it will be interesting to find out.

What the Hell, I’ll cut out masturbation as well, but I draw the line at sex.

I only masturbate to completion once or twice a week now anyway.

Two weeks passed since I’ve stopped watching porn and I’m already feeling very good. I got more energy, my motivation “engine” is working better than ever, I’m having an erection after a short make out with my girl (before I needed a little bit more time). Everything as a whole is going better for me. I’m ditching porn for good.

Damn, I watched 10 seconds of porn today. And a lot of hot chicks. Damn. I have to quit all digital eyecandy!

Wheew! I just read this entire thread in the last few days and it has been a real eye opener with a lot of "ah-hah" moments. I can definitely relate to the general lethargy, lack of energy and being unmotivated to find a partner after years of watching porn. I’ve never seemed to have an EQ problem whether alone or with a girl but have noticed the lack of "manliness" and charisma as described in the below link..

I decided to join the group and cut out all porn after reading the first page, but the link below (if it still works) is what really sealed the deal for me. So today is day 1 of no porn, and I will try to abstain from masturbation for as long as possible. I think my biggest trigger will be boredom and trying to get to sleep at night, but I’m stubborn as hell so it will be a good battle. Lol

No porn and masturbation - I’m in, but no orgasm… No, thank you.

Also, I don’t want to burst your bubble mate, but the dude from that article/log did not have those benefits because he didn’t orgasm. He thinks he had and that’s precisely why he had them. It’s just a dellusion on his part and his subconciousness took it from there and the dude got more self-confident, more alpha, basically more attractive to women, without even realizing it. Who wouldn’t contribute that to something he thinks has that effect. Sure, not cumming might have an effect on testosterone and that could have an effect on the things he mentioned, but certainly not that drastic and it most certainly isn’t a magic trick, it’s a matter of psychology. I might be wrong, but that’s just my two cents.
A discussion on the matter might be interesting, maybe not in this thread though. :)

That’s exactly what this thread is about. How porn affects your attitude and libido and what changes you experience when eliminate that over stimulation. If you read the accounts of members in this thread and the above posted web page ( not just the account that was linked) they all seem to have a common theme of mental clarity and increase energy and maybe not becoming a ” chick magnet” but being more perceptive of the women around you and noticing them notice you.

Whether it works that way or not, It’s something I’m going to try and find out for myself. Posting here is a way to keep me focused and accountable for my actions, and reading all the accounts of people who have done this before me and the positive results that seem to be common in every testimony (here and on YBOP) is a huge motivator.

I haven’t thoroughly reviewed the Brain On Porn site yet, but from the reading I’ve done there were a few parts that really seemed questionable. There are some arguments being made here that make sense as motivations to give up porn. If some persons are having difficulty becoming sexually aroused with a partner/partners who aren’t as physically attractive to them as the porn stars they’ve gotten used to, or some persons are having difficultly becoming aroused with a steady partner when they’ve become accustomed to variety on demand; I can understand people who would decide (if they were experiencing this arousal problem) that giving up the frequent pleasure and excitement of the type of masturbation they’ve been enjoying, in order to perform better in bed is a good exchange. That’s the sort of scenario where this porn detox thing would make sense to me. Or for people who masturbate so ceaselessly that it’s getting them into trouble. I also can see certain types of porn being bad for certain people. A guy who feels bad about his penis is probably not helping himself by spending a lot of time watching men do fun things with their better penis while women are enjoying it greatly (faked or not faked). A young impressionable person probably does not have his future character improved by watching porn that is unkind to one person or another. etc.

However a lot of the testimonials fall into categories of: “I always felt bad about it when I masturbated, so I’m glad I’ve stopped”. To me that sounds like the problem isn’t that you masturbate, but that you feel bad about it. Or people who feel that they aren’t as manly as they should be, or that they aren’t good enough at attracting girls, and seem very ready to accept the idea that that is because they masturbate.

I don’t reject the idea that the average man would be better off if he removed porn from his life, though it does seem unlikely to me. I haven’t looked into the idea enough to come to any conclusions on that, but there are definitely some arguments (like those I just listed) that really don’t seem very compelling to me. If it’s true that casual porn consumption is a problem, then that’s a truth worth knowing, and it would probably do me good if someone here were to convince me of it. Right now it seems to me that masturbation is a way for a man to have some enjoyment, reduce stress etc. Adding pornography to it seems like a way to make it a little more enjoyable. Does it make mental fantasizing and visualization harder or less exciting? Probably. Is that important? It seems very likely to me that most people experience withdrawal when this thing they enjoy goes away, but that to me is not an indication that a thing is bad, we all prefer not to have things we enjoy stop.

I just watched his 6 part video. A piece of information that I hadn’t gotten from briefly perusing the site, or from briefly perusing discussion of it, is that this guy takes the position that internet porn is ok if you’re not addicted. I was very surprised when part way through the third video segment he said persons not meeting enough of the addiction criteria he was listing should feel free to stop watching the video and go to their favorite porn site.

I think that porn addiction can be a problem for some people. I don’t agree with all of this man’s definitions of what constitutes problematic porn use. I also think there are a number of things he sees as bad about coming to enjoy and want more of porn as bad, that I don’t. Some of his reasons I of course do agree with. I think it’s good if this stuff is helping people who have a legitimate problem with porn. I had gotten the idea that that site, and this thread were running on the idea that nearly all internet porn is bad for nearly all men. Had I misunderstood?

In my opinion not all porn is bad for all people. And masturbation is definitely not bad! What I got out of the site from what little I’ve read, was that excessive porn use can affect you mentally and physically. When start you get that jolt of joy when that first softcore picture comes up, then down the road that doesn’t do it for you anymore. You’ve gotten used to that dopamine release and need something harder and more shocking to get it back. Personally I’d start looking at porn for a quick release and the next thing I know it’s 2 or 3 hours later. Spend all that time and energy keeping an erection and edging your going to feel tired and worn down ( not to mention a sore dick) afterwards.

There’s also the possibility of it escalating further to the point of watching porn outside of your sexual orientation just to get that next dopamine fix. Deciding ” why go out to meet girls and get shut down when I can just turn on the laptop and have any girl I want?” . Taking yourself out of social situations and interactions because it’s so much easier. And I have seen some of these actions in myself since looking at it from a different angle.

I’m on day 4 now of no porn and no masturbation. I feel more alert. It was easier to get out of bed this morning even though I only got six hours of sleep and I didn’t need any of my normal 3 cups of cofee. I’ve been joking around with women I barely know (normally only do this with good female friends). And I just FEEL stronger. If this is just a placebo and my mind playing tricks on me then count me in and pass me another sugar pill!