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Today will be day 2. I had a PE session this morning and wanted to watch some porn. I resisted the urge.

I am really hoping my EQ will come back to me the longer I say away from porn. I will say though, since starting PE about 5 days ago, I’m having a lot more morning wood. This is very encouraging. I think I’ve found though if I masturbate in the evening, the morning wood is no so good the day after.

I have many goals I wish to achieve, using the knowledge gathered on this forum. These are:
-Increase my size
-Fix my ED problem to where I won’t need a pill and I can get it up with just appreciating a hot, clothed woman in my general vicinity.
-Learn to stay away from porn

I’ve done some reading on the “Your Brain on Porn” website. They advocate no masturbation. I don’t think I’ll be able to do this for an extended period of time. Some men here it seems use a fleshlight as a tool for gratification. Would this be considered cheating or is it acceptable. I’ve been thinking about getting one.

I’ve gone back about 1 year and read most of the posts in this thread. The trials and tribulations of many of the men really applies to my situation. It will truly be a one day (sometimes one minute) at a time process to break free of the addiction. If I’m successful, I look forward to posting my journey so the next new guy that’s struggling, may learn something.

I am not giving up masturbation. NO WAY, not going to happen.

As I wrote earlier, I get crazy if I don’t have an orgasm. Time period seems to be about seven days. Some of those guys on that site are a LOT younger than me, so if they go without masturbating, nature will take care of it with a wet dream. I am too old to have wet dreams. It is what it is.

However, I am only masturbating when I need to (as opposed to out of boredom for example).

There are some pretty extreme positions on that site regarding reboot, but somewhere in the FAQ the site owner says masturbate if you need to. So I am.

Some say you can’t have real sex either during reboot. Site owner says make your own judgement on that. The point is to re-wire your brain away from images and back into real sex. So site owner thinks real intimacy can help that along.

There is also some controversy over fantasy while masturbating. Some say no fantasy allowed, it is as bad as porn. My interpretation is fantasy can be as bad as porn only if you are fantasizing about Porn. If you are fantasizing about the last Phoenix Marie clip you saw, that is bad as watching the actual Phoenix Marie clip.

Or if you are fantasizing about a real person, but the fantasy is a recreation of porn conventions then that is as bad as porn.

However to me recreating past hot sexual experiences with my wife is reality based. Nothing pornographic at all.

That being said, the guys here talked me into backing off on fantasy and instead just focusing on the SENSATIONS my body is feeling. I am actually enjoying that.

Now, some guys may need the more extreme approaches, which is "no porn, no masturbation, no orgasm."

I think that may be right for them. It isn’t right for everybody.

The impression I get is those who need the extreme approaches probably have minimal experience with real women and real sex. Their entire sexual lives are totally shaped and dependent on porn.

When I did my first unsuccessful detox, I masturbated and I fantasized and I did really well on the detox. I think I lasted about 2 months.

My mistake was

- thinking I could go back to casual use.
- feeling really sorry for myself because of other things going on in my life, and thinking that things were so shitty that I "deserved porn"

It wasn’t that I was masturbating or fantasizing about real sex when I masturbated.

As to the fleshlight question, I say go for it. I think it helps you retrain you penis to respond to more subtle stimulation than we get from hand masturbation. For me it is helpful too because I could never use a fleshlight and watch porn at the same time. Too much stimulation.

Also in my experience, the fleshlight orgasms are much closer to real sex orgasms than hand masturbation. Ball drainers, knee tremblers. I suppose there could be a problem where you replaced a "porn addiction" with a "fleshlight addiction" but I haven’t had that experience. Because as good as the orgasms are with the fleshlight, they can never truly match real sex orgasms with a partner.

Just my humble opinion, your mileage may vary

P.S. if you decide to get a fleshlight, google "fleshlight coupons". They usually have an active 15 to 20%-er out there.

Don’t go to the fleshlight home page (naked women) , here is the build your own page:

http://www.fles … build-your-own/

I recommend WONDERWAVE as the most realistic texture. Whatever you do, don’t buy the Original or Supertight smooth textures, they SUCK (and not in a good way, but in a blah way). I also have super ribbed, that is too extreme and does not feel realistic at all. Have speed bump as well, fun but again not realistic.

Thanks as always sta-kool for the info. Just two quick questions:

Does the fleshlight come discreetly packaged?

And,

Did you find yourself put on some kind of porno mailing list?

My wife is a bit old school. If she knew I purchased such a device, it wouldn’t end well.

No, they don’t sell your name. They do put you on their sales email list, but you can opt out of that.

I’m now joining. Gettin’ it up isn’t a problem but I’ve been so conditioned by porn and fapping I lose it as soon as I put on a condom. No fapping or porn.

How little “porn” must one look at in order to avoid suffering from porn induced sexual dysfunction?

I mean… I look at a lot of pictures on tumblr sites, but I don’t watch porn movies any more (maybe once every two weeks or so). If I stop tumblr too will that have a positive effect on my sex life, what do you guys think?

No hardcore porn allowed, still or moving.

Yesterday was a first for me. During our first session, after some rigorous sex I went soft (nothing to worry about, there was about 30 minutes of hardcore fucking). We continued to make out and then I was able to squeeze in my semi-hard penis in her and get fully erect again. Later that evening, we did round two and I was able to get hard just from kissing and playing with a girl without her touching me whatsoever. I then maintained the hard on while going down on her for minute or two without stimulating myself. That’s been the most impressive effect of the detox thus far.

That’s great stuff, UM1991. CONGRATS!

Day 3 of week 5 for me. Libido good, not wanting porn.

How is everybody else doing?

In 7 years ( yes I mean 7 ) I had my first sex dream. I never even had these as a kid, no joke. Porn at age 12 means you dream about porn.

It was with my ex unfortunately. However I remember everything all the little fine details of the story. I can even remember in my dream what it felt like to slip into her pussy ( Her Dream pussy honestly feels better, I wonder what my ex would say if I told her that, but I never will ) This has been the most encouraging reward of my detox. I want more dreams like this. Today I feel very very alive and awake.

Why do you see libido as such a great thing? I would gladly give most of my libido to someone, I have never seen any positive side in it. At the moment due to my medication my libido has decreased a lot and I would gladly gobble these pills down even if the only effect would be the decrease in libido.

You feel alive, when having a great libido.

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I’m joining the challenge. I am a porn addict and I think it’s effecting hugely on my life. I feel for example that 99 % of the women are not looking good and I have some serious mental issues with porn. I don’t even watch for average looking girls in porn. I try to find the most attractive women that suit my taste and it has led to the fact that I no longer can find anybody else than those “virtual girls (=porn stars)” attractive. Even my girlfriend. I hope my porn detox will help me regain my libido and find average looking women attractive as I saw before.

I’m in.

Ps. I really think porn industry is one of the most harmful industries after tobacco and booze. It seriously mixes up your mind and has you thinking that every guy walking has atleast a penis size of a building. Then theres the porn studios that actually mock men with small penis (like Brazzers). I actually cancelled my subscription with them because it was becoming so intimidating. I don’t see that erotic material is harmful to people if it’s conducted in a healthy matter with normal-sized actors and average looking girls.

I’m also joining this challenge. Like you, I’m a porn addict and it has greatly effected my life in a negative way. When I log onto a porn site, I do so with the intention of logging off in a few minutes. But those minutes invariably turn to hours and I glance at the clock to see that I’ve been watching porn and edging for 4 hours -sometimes even 8. My eyes turn bloodshot red (for staring at a monitor for such a length of time), my penis is aching and irritated, my back hurts from sitting in my chair for so long, and I fail to get things done. It’s all because of the related videos’ section typically found underneath every video I pull up. I continually click on related videos I think I’ll enjoy until I suddenly have 4 browser windows open, each with 50+ tabs. On my xHamster’s account alone, I’ve amassed over 8,000 favorites within the year I’ve been there for an average of 21 favorited videos per day (those are favorites, mind you, not how many videos I’ve actually watched per day - a much larger number). It keeps me up until the early morning and my sleeping times are erratic. Porn seems to be the only area in my life where self-control and temperance aren’t existent. It’s like a drug and I desperately need to kick this habit.

So with that said, I’ll start with no porn (and masturbation) for a month. If I can do this without recidivism, I’ll then go for 6 months. With abstaining from porn and masturbation, I hope to become more productive, motivated, and overcome my current bout of insomnia.

^I could have written that. I’ve so often done the “check” which is supposed to be only 5 minutes, turn into a 3 hour + session. In fact, I don’t think it ever hasn’t. I’ve been trying to give up porn for around 3 years now. Every now & then I’ll get really motivated, & last about 3 weeks. But that’s my record. Eventually life gets in the way, I need comfort/distraction, & I fall back into old habits.