Middle Aged Guys: Am I the only one? About a 1/3 of my load comes out at orgasm

Kegels didn’t help you guys out with this?

This reminds me of a technique I read in one of those “How to be a great lover” type internet articles. This was on how to produce a showy “spectacular forceful cum shot”. Author said once you go over the PONR, do a very strong kegel and keep the ejaculate from coming out during the first few contractions. Hold it as long as possible, then release. Idea is that pressure will have built up so high that your first few spurts will come out with a lot of pressure and shoot further.

I remember trying it a couple of times and not getting it right.

In my case no. I am not sure if I said this before, but if I kegel at the same time as the natural contractions I can force more of it out. If I get the timing just right. But honestly I don’t like doing that because it means stepping out of the moment and not just enjoying the orgasm. Maybe ok for now and then though.

I have been kegeling off and on for 30 years. I am going to start a program I read in a book for “Male Menopause” written by a urologist. He has you do twenty 10 second kegels per day. Would quote the paragraph but I lent the book to a male relative.

Same story here.

I came across a similar tip, and mastered it. Could shoot a load across the room, but the climax was almost pleasureless. Since it takes me so long to get there, I feel like I’ve waisted a hot encounter for the sake of a good show.

Eh.

Could this be the sign of an enlarging prostate?

One thing I have done to get super powerful ejaculations is to do kegels while hanging. I can now shoot a strong massive load. I can easily hit the wall on the other side of the room. No joke.

A scary thought but it is possible.
I have heard it said that once you pass 40, you should get a prostate exam annually. It is a fairly quick and simple procedure. If you catch this early enough, you can save yourself some serious problems down the road.

Good luck to you; I hope that’s not the case.

Good read guys, lots of good advise.

Very interesting. About how many such kegels a day? Were they short/quick ones, or held for many seconds?

I am 19 and I don’t shoot like I want to.I have some trapped into the urethra.Though if I am stimulating my self for long I can shoot better.

Very interesting topic and good for the older guys to know what is happening to their bodies. As you age the sex drive does not go away it stays the same for me, but “shooting” slows down from massive and strong to a good one once in awhile. I use to shoot boldly and strong in my 20’s & 30’s but now in my 60’s, I have a good sex drive but my load is a lot less and the 4 to 5 squirts are down to a good 1 with not much force. I am in great shape for 63, an avid P90X guy, BP great, total cholesterol is low, weight at level that I was at in my 30’s and the plumbing is good too. I am thankful to this forum for PE and health to the Penis.

Yes, you and I are on the same page. On the other hand, lol, I would love to hear about that tip you mastered to shoot a load across the room.

Very interesting thread, lots of good advice.

I’ve never been a big shooter. On occation I put on a shooting freak show, but it’s very rare.

Same boat. Just turned 50 and my loads are way smaller, seemed it wasn’t long ago could shoot wifey in the face or over her head, now maybe get one decent shot and rest almost dribbles out. Sex drive is good, orgasms are good but loads just arent the same. I have been getting my prostate checked yearly for some time so that is all good. Tried kegling but that seemed to make me cum faster than I already do.

Well I’m not middle-aged, I’m 27 but my load’s seem about the same as far as amount and projection goes. Yet even even though the vast majority of my load shoots out (about 90% plus) I still milk my penis after I ejaculate to get the last few drops out.

I noticed that if I edge for a long time and do not ejaculate and do this for several days I sometimes get more of a dribble. This is especially true if I hit the point of no return (PONR) and stop stimulation for a second, realize I was indeed at the PONR and then start stimulation again to finish the orgasm I tend to dribble more.

It seems my loads shoot best when I ride the wave of stimulation a good distance from the PONR, say 80% and below on a stimulation scale, with 100% equaling orgasm & ejaculation, and then go for the orgasm without ceasing stimulation if I am over 80%. Hopefully that made sense. Maybe this is somehow similar to your situation.

Paradoxically as others have stated if I don’t ejaculate for several days and then have prolonged stimulation (about 20 min or more) I tend to shoot farther and in larger quantity. This seems to work best if I don’t edge on the previous days. This may sound odd but I often work outside doing carpentry work and on the days that I work outside constantly moving for a good 8-10 hours I seem to have better erections and ejaculations including the distance I shoot. I am very fit so I’m not sure why exactly the day of work (moderate exercise) has this affect.

As far as ideas for how to improve your situation;

Maybe you are doing too many kegels and your BC muscles are fatigued
Stay really hydrated (2-3L) of fluid daily
Supplement with zinc and other things that affect your load size
Have your prostate checked if you haven’t already

When you feel the Point of No Return kick in, you clamp down tight with a kegel, and then, a second before you shoot, you instantly go into reverse kegel (feels like forcing yourself to urinate) and contract your abs as well. For this to work, you must be very familiar and in tune with your climactic response.