No More Porn For Me

I have been an intermittent porn watcher, more when single than married, and I have never bought any. I would masturbate to a series of short clips until I found one that I really liked and finish tothat. I discovered hentai and noticed after a while that even regular porn didn’t really do it for me. I later added pocket pussies (some of them are exquisite and feel better than some actual vaginas I’ve been in.) The end result of all this intermittent porn / hentai use, frequent masturbation by hand and toys was that I found myself losing interest in having sex with my wife. (She didn’t know I would fap to this stuff in the bathroom or into the toys when she was gone.) There is no vagina that will be as tight as your own hand, and I found I wasn’t enjoying the feel of her vagina as much anymore. I also noticed that I would lose some of my erection during intercourse, I wouldn’t go completely soft but it would not be as hard as usual throughout to ejaculation. I am an older man (52) and had low testosterone too so that may have had something to do with it also. At any rate, when I stopped watching porn and cut back on the masturbation I began to enjoy sex again, got turned on just by my wife and her vagina felt tight enough again that I would not lose any of my erection.

So long story short, I no longer watch porn or use pocket pussies, and rarely masturbate anymore.

Hi paulsky82,

I totally agree with all the points you stated, and actually there is an article I like a lot about this topic, which I often read in those moments I feel I’m struggling.

Here is the link to it, I really recommend it:

How to Stop Masturbating, Beat Your Porn Addiction, and Live Your Best Life - Knowledge For Men

In my case, I have noticed that I use porn and masturbation to calm myself when I feel stressed, or when for some reason I can’t get any girls and I start to feel anxious. But this, of course, only brings a very short-timed relief, after which I often feel even worse, with a feeling of guilt added. Sometimes I have jerked off to porn 5 or more times in a single day, which is just not healthy. I have ended up completely exhausted and haven’t even been able to sleep well. So, I have also decided to quit porn, and in fact quit masturbating. I want to use all my sexual drive with real women and I expect to see big differences.

PD: I almost died laughing when you wrote "Horse-fucking-midget porn" LMFAO.

I agree that it’s probably a good idea to scale back one’s dependency on it to where it’s an occasional thing, like watching a comedy movie.

Sometimes I substitute it with 1-on-1 webcam sessions with non-local partners. Not sure if the same wisdom above would frown on that or not.

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I have a small question and want to consult. I want to know how it is completely cured? I have an erection every morning and night, but during the day, I must be under strong stimulation to achieve an erection, which mean, I must rely on pornographic films, or to achieve the purpose by fantasy scenes of pornographic films. If I rely on fantasy to make myself erection again, is this a cure, or is it incomplete? I hope to get your reply. If anything I said is unclear, please forgive me.

So guys, how are you practicing without porn? How to edging, get a decent erection for jelq and do some Angion Method (AM) without porn?

I mean I’m also feels the bad effects of watching porn, but have some difficult to practice PE without it.

P.s.: sorry for the bad English. I’m from Brazil.

I’m not sure if watching porn is the main reason you don’t get spontaneous erections.

Of course, if you watch it every day, all the day, then it has turned into an addiction, but as far as you watch it from time to time, it shouldn’t affect you physically or psychologically.

I also don’t watch porno, but that is because I like onlyfans content.

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Maybe such content will excite you more than regular porno.

Only fans is porno. You’re still watching a screen for sexual excitement.

Agreed.

True!

Yes, I’ve took the decision to kick porn off from my life as well, I’m currently 24 years old, and had close contact with porn since I was 13, of course, I didn’t see anything wrong during the first 5 years, but eventually, specially in these last 3 years, my mind, my sexual motivation, my desire,, they all went down to the point I was just able to feel pleasure with porn, last year, during the pandemic, I was with an ex, trying the relationship once again, my penis was normal, doing good during the pre-games… until I put myself the condom on and I lost the hardness, my penis went to sleep, I was in bad shape, 8Kg over my normal weight, hadn’t gone outside home for 5 months, I wasn’t eating correctly, not enough sleep hours the previous nights and PLUS, my mind was corrupted with porn…it was 11 months ago, tried to leave porn slowly, but didn’t work…my libido was high but my penis had difficulties getting hard without porn, So i finally decided to utterly leave porn on 30/06/2021…I feel strong with this choise, I won’t go back to that hole again, i want to be the owner of my sexual dreams and fantasies, and enjoy what real women could bring to me.

Good move! Same thing was happening to me. Couldn’t have sex with my wife due to menopause all of 2020 and she finally could start doing it again in January this year. I used porn excessively all through 2020. So this year, she would get me hard or I would get myself hard and then I’d think about sex with her, and as soon as I’d think about being hard and putting it her pussy I panicked and got really really scared and would go limp in 2 seconds. Every time for weeks this happened. Then in March I couldn’t get hard without porn when I was alone and I realized I had a problem! I stopped porn 22 March 2021 and I feel fantastic now. I can easily get hard in seconds with my wife and have sex with her as easy as its been the last 22 years with her. I know for a fact that porn was hurting me inside and out. I hate it and hope other men with problems similar to ours can quit porn and live normal sexual lives again!

You will be the owner of your sexual dreams and fantasies again soon and you will be enjoying real women too!!

Today I managed to resist I am proud of myself.

After pleasuring myself for almost 2 hours on porn.

I resonated at the peak of my excitement on the hottest scene I had ever seen, I turned everything off and then I went to take a shower.

I said to myself, stop! you will ejaculate, be disappointed, be tired, in a bad mood, and in addition on porn so you will take several days to get over it.

Fuck never again… this trap is huge.

Nowadays porn girls are so HOT damn !

Nothing to do with what we had before.

Now in a single scene a girl can bring together all the fantasies of a man without any difficulty thanks to her attitude, her makeup, and her perfect body, the video quality …

I feel like my soul is being sucked with incredible force through the screen.

It’s fuckn witchcraft !

I can’t disagree with you on this: the women today online are unreal. I’ve seen beauties in the past but the last two or so years, omg its like a whole new breed of woman has been born on this planet and they are now in their prime and really proud to let us all see them. I know the feeling you describe and it is so hard to get rid of.

But you can do it! You’ve stopped watching porn before, you know you can get by without it. Its a process and we have to just keep staying mindful of the problem and try hard to avoid it. Its so easy to see this stuff online though. How do we not look at beautiful women?!?! I love my wife, she is so hot I can’t believe, after 23 years of being with her, that I’m the lucky guy that got her attention and wound up with her. If you could see her passion during her orgasms, how beautiful she is, you’d say "how could you look at anyone else, ever?!?!?" Because there are so many hot women in the world, that’s why! They are everywhere! I don’t look at them like "god I wish I could fuck them" its more like "wow, human beings are gorgeous sometimes!" and I appreciate the variety in our human species, I think its so cool that there are so many different people and the beautiful ones are amazing.

Its the pornography aspect of it all that ruins it and makes us men feel bad when we get addicted to porn. Where do we draw the line? Do we not look at hot women at all anymore? Do we look but don’t masturbate to them? Its hard to figure out. But its a process that is different for all of us and we men have to navigate and do what’s best for us right now. I hope you can stay strong on your journey! We are here for you don’t forget :)

Thank you bro.
For the past months it has been hard for me just to walk in the street without being aroused by all thoses sexy girls everywhere around…
My wife has literally “no sex drive” the only moment i can try to make her horny is in the midle of the night ( god knows why… ) at least i got that.
But ive have nothing to complain about my life goes on.
It is just this “forest of thots dressed as if they were ready for anything” that drives me totaly crazy.
Im still trying to figure out how to overcome this “thing” and find peace in the middle of this giant orgy that society has become.
Best of luck !

The release (orgasm) is the issue. If you can look and not indulge, then you should be fine. But it’s with anything else, you can become addicted to the dopamine release. I found this article interesting, What’s Going On With Hormones And Neurotransmitters During Sex .

I’m done with porn, but in a different sense. I still use softcore for edging when needed for pumping, clamping, and jelqing. I think that I had one of the best jelqing sessions in my PE career a few days ago. But, I don’t allow myself to release or even get close. After about two weeks, I did something that I’ve never done, while she was bent over the side of the bed, I reached down and rested my hand on her mound and clit, allowing the movements to create friction. I even started to talk dirty. I needed to feel her. When we were done, she said, wow, you were really turned on. Her body alone turned me on. Before, my eye’s would be closed and I would be imagining or role-playing something from "the collection".

I imagine that it’s easy for guys in live in relationships to not relapse because we can literally have sex daily if wanted. So for guys in a different situation, you may need to get some friends with benefits or something along those lines. That way you can have a plan like, once per week, I need to meet-up.

All easier said than done, I know. But it is what it is I guess. I have no desire to release to porn anymore because I want to "unleash" all of that tension on her…and she’s been loving it. For the record, it’s been exactly four weeks.