Unleashing her sexual appetite

Great thread, DarkTrick! Being extremely nice to her but deny her sex seems like an excellent strategy to rob her of sex as control instrument. If that’s what she does. As a matter of fact I have never denied her sex when she wants to have some. Maybe time to change that. Behavioral therapy in its most exquisite form.

Ya that thread is a classic.

I’ve used it a couple times with success. Always floors them when you casually “pass” on sex, they’re dumbfounded. It’s like they suddenly realize the clip in their 9mm is empty.

Key things though - no resentment, gotta be pleasant in all ways, and you have to actually, totally, not care if you ever fuck them again in this lifetime. That last is paramount, you really have to adopt that mindset 100%.

Though if your partner really has no interest, in you or the relationship (like stated in one of the preceeding posts, like a take-it or leave-it attitude), then this technique would probably fail. Never know though, worth a shot.

And I’d walk in that case. I think sometimes you just got to stand up and say - “Ya know what? Fuck this, you can keep it all, you win, I am done.”

Life is too short to deal with shit like that. Find someone that respects you, and wants you - they’re out there.

Part of the reason some marriages, and relationships for that matter die down is because people, “lose their hotness”. I know it is about love, and trust, and communication. But, the average couple gains 7-10 pounds after marriage, and another pound per year after that. Why not stay hot, and keep the fire alive. I have lost another 6 pounds just trying to reverse the trend since I got married. I tried a new haircut, but I’m the same old prick. Vis a Vis, I’m still hot, and getting hotter. Guys should force themselves to stay in shape and stay lean and mean and keep their sense of humor. The same should go for women. They wonder why their husbands don’t pay attention to them and watch porn? Here is a tip for women out there who want to keep their man at attention. Do Pilates and Aerobics 5-6 days a week. No snacks after 7:00. Be hot. Dress really sizzling hot. I want to see the sexy little skirts, I have to see the sexy shoes. I will help you decide what is sexy. I wanna see the little baby t-shirts that are tight on the breasts that say hot quotes such as “Available”, or “I Love NY”. The Pochahontas hair cut is an absolute must. Don’t let Oprah tell you that some corporate hair cut is sexy, it’s not. Oh, and those pointy man hating heels that you women are wearing? Not sexy. Those shawls that you women are not wearing. Not sexy. These are marriage killers. Another disturbing trend in female culture is this neglecting of shaving legs. This has got to stop. We want those legs smoother than a baby’s ass. Again, this is about love and trust, but ladies need to keep their shit tight. Tummys->Flat Legs->Muscular and Athletic including those calves when you wear the sexy shoes Arms->Slightly Cut with no Jiggle. Again, Keep your shit at the top of your game all the time. Make it a point to get in better shape than when you got married. When you are parading around the house, still be hot. We are watching. All the time. Then, do your damnedest to stay that way.

Guys, keep a picture of somebody like LLCoolJ around, and ladies, get anybody hot in Maxim or Playboy, and this is your motivation. May your marriage last forever, and may you realize that around here, I’m King Kong.

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Simply stated - AWESOME!

I gained alot of weight after marriage and am desperately losing it. I weigh less than I did when married, but still have to drop another 20 # or so to be what I would consider for me to start to be “hot.” Another 10 or 15 after that to tighten up.

My wife can stand to lose 5 pounds or so, I love to see her in those little belly shirts with her tits perked up.

Good idea about the picture as a motivator. I’m going to do that.

I was hoping it was just a blown head gasket, but turned out that there was also a crack in the cylinder head. This will push it way over 2 grand now; I’m kicking myself, I could have rebuilt the whole motor for half of that.

Kawaihae: if it’s not too late, it could be worth trying a chemical repair. There is a magical stuff made by Holts I believe that “welds” cracks in head and block, you just add it in the coolant and voila. Never used it myself though, just heard success stories at a bmw forum.

Regarding this thread, I’m personally not very attracted to strategies that imply submission to the current ideal of the perfect body. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Taken to the extreme, as is increasingly common these days, it leads to nose jobs, boob jobs, labia jobs, clit jobs, liposuction jobs all over the place. If you think about it, it takes us to PE as well… I agree that it is a good thing to stay in shape, doing some workout and good old physical activity, but it should be exclusively to make you feel better and healthier. Not to please your partners explicit or implicit desires. I’m totally with Rita here.

It was a woman who said a woman who looks good, feels good. It was also a woman who said, flirt with him when you look good, not when he looks good.

This is another reason for my above post. I score much more when my wife feels sexy, because she looks sexy, coupled with me being incredibly sexy. It’s a proven formula. :)

Yup I tried that several weeks ago and no luck, thats when I knew that it was a head gasket vs cracked head. At least the block is still in good shape. Anyway the guys at the shop should be putting it all back together by now, hopefully I’ll get it back next week. I have been walking everywhere for 2 weeks.

haha; yes there were signs - in fact this isn’t even my first long-term low-sex relationship. I knew what was going on - or so I thought. Blinded by love, I suppose.

To those who suggest walking out: thanks for your support. I do need somebody on my side, but that’s not an option. I’m a big boy, and I can man up to a lot of discomfort to provide a stable (if insane) household for my daughter.

Unicorn, I wish I’d read this yesterday, you made some great points and suggestions that I would certainly have put into practice had I not been too busy sharing my feelings honestly with my wife. And banging the hell out of her.

I even - albeit vaguely, and implying past-tense - brought up PE, and got tacit approval to continue with as much length as I wanted, and more girth within reason.

If she ever brings that up in a negative or judgmental way, however, it’ll mean war.

thanks guys, and good luck to the rest.

Fight fire with fire, eh? This won’t work in my case, I’m almost ashamed to admit that I tried it. The result? No sex for 9 months. Did she seem to notice or even care? No. Did I go nuts? Yes. Will I do that again? Well…I’m doing it now, but not as a method to get her interested or retaliate. Its a new way of looking at things now. I’m thinking about just living a platonic marriage. No sex. That way the stress of that part of the relationship is over, and I get on with the rest of my life and not think about it unless she brings it up, which is unlikely. And I still get to keep the house and kids. Will I go nuts this time? No. The brain is the most important sex organ, and my brain is pretty darned disciplined. Am I content with this decision? Yes.

If you had sex with someone else, what her reaction be?

Romance, sensuality, sensitivity and an accent does it for me. :p

I don’t think I would live long enough to find out. I’m pretty sure I’d get whacked. My mother in law called her ex-husband “the dead man” for a reason.

Eh, sista, how ‘bout one Hawaiian accent? Dis braddah play ukelele an’ sing fo’ you anytime. :)

So, K, let me get this straight. She won’t have sex with you, but will go ape-shit if you have sex with someone else?

How is your personal life with her outside of sex?