Balance between super short erections and premature ejaculation

I have this problem where when I masturbate I have to do it very fast to get hard. But, once I get hard I am only a few strokes away from ejaculating. I almost always prematurely ejaculate during sex and often have little control, unless I really concentrate, during masturbation. When I first start masturbating I will get rock hard, but only for a few seconds and then I have to slow down so I don’t PE. If I stop the stimulation even for a few seconds I will lose the erection very quickly, making it hard to even do simple things such as fully erect measurements. This does not happen every time during sex, but sometimes I will lose the erection and have to just masturbate before I can put it in again. Basically, I’m walking a tight rope between premature ejaculation and loss of erection.

My question is, should I work on premature ejaculation first or erection strength/ staying power? Also, could this be a medical problem? I myself think it may be due to a combination of over-masturbation, some psychological issues and lack of consistent PE.

Purchase a toy, such as a “fleshlight”, and try training yourself to last longer, stay hard longer. Certain methods of self-stimulation contribute to many men’s inability to enjoy sex. This phenomenon is called Idiosyncratic masturbation. When you masturbate, you want as much as possible for to duplicate the sensations you would normally get from a partner’s hand, mouth, vagina, etc,.

OK thanks for the tip. It sounds a lot like “sport specific training” and I will try that

To make an analogy, it sounds like you are training your penis to sprint and then hoping it will run marathons. Like Sleepy278 said, try to masturbate the way you would want to make love. It could take some adjustment but once you get used to it, it should help.

Also, try to identify things that make you finish faster. In my case I know that if I get oral sex standing up I’ll finish a lot sooner. Sitting or laying down for a blow job I can last a lot longer, or having intercourse standing up, but for some reason getting blown while standing just isn’t going to be a long session. I’m ok with it, but make sure the other person knows that’s a guaranteed quickie.