I can’t speak for the veterans but for me it’s simple. The problem will be explaining it. I think first it would help to know my PE history. I’ve never had a defined set routine. Occasionally I would try but it never took. I’ve used an extender, hour upon hour with little result. I tried Andractim and the only change I noticed was increased libido. I’ve used a Bath-mate almost daily since early 2010. About a year ago I got into clamping under direct heat. I say all of that to make the point that, despite and noticeable length gains, my dick is conditioned.
The aha jelq moment came recently in a hot bath after a long day. I was clamped and I tried a few jelqs. This is where it gets difficult. I can’t properly convey how it felt. I just knew instantly that something was different. It’s as if all of the instructions for a proper jelq came together exactly right and it clicked. I took the clamp off, tried it unclaimed and same thing. Firegoat’s description of a honey dipper is spot on! Before, I was really just doing a glorified hard masturbation stroke. Now, I feel the compression of my shaft all the way through. The expansion of my dick afterwards blows me away. My head swells up and stays that way for a while. Since I began properly jelqing my flaccid hang is amazing. I has increased veininess. I’ve exceeded a plateau in the Bath-mate just today. I can tell that enlargement is happening.
I now have to PE regrets. 1. I wish I had kept detailed records of my efforts including stats and pictures. I have some but they are unmeasured. 2. I wish I’d been persistent in learning to jelq years ago.