Holding Off Ejaculation

Last night I was edging doing kegels. I got to the point where I got a full orgasm with no cum, I was very excited ha ha. The only problem was that after that it just went limp as if I had ejaculated, just wondering if anyone could tell me why, because everyone says you can keep going? Thanks alot

Most likely you suffered a retrograde ejaculation. This is where the ejaculation goes into the bladder. It is harmless, but also useless if your objective is to continue sex because retrograde ejaculation will bring on the refractory period and you will lose your errection.
Retorgrade ejaculation is caused by you kegelling after ejaculation has commenced.

I suggest that you hold a kegel a few milliseconds earlier to avoid the retrograde ejaculation. Slow down stimulation when you feel yourself nearing 9.5 and go very slowly near the end. Then as soon as you feel your orgasm inevitability, hold the kegel for 12 seconds. Don’t wait to feel a twitch in your dick because it will be too late…
Better to kegel too early than too late. At least if you are too early and you stop the orgasm at least you can try again. If you’re too late, then the practise session is over. So aim for very early and then gradually get later and later, rather than the reverse.

Very good synopsis how you should do this, simple and to the point.

I second that, well explained. I’ve been waiting for the twitch as well and then it is too late, retrograde is exactly like I cummed. I lose my erection and its over.

Yeah whats the point, you may as well have the visual of the money shot if thats the case.

Exactly, this takes a lot of practice, but I got to believe after one gets it down, its well worth it.

Yeah Ive been trying to edge more and more, especially during clamping. It’s been getting better since I’m getting the hang of it better.

Thanks for the great reply king_g, so in a nutshell I basically just have to kegel a tad bit sooner and this will stop me from retrograde ejaculation?

I just followed what you said before and started to kegel about 20 seconds before orgasm and I just held it but I still retrograded as my erection just went down and I could see ejaculate in my urine any help?

ha ha ha, yes it’s not easy, but don’t despair it will come with practise.

Be sure that you STOP stimulation as well. So as soon as you feel the orgasm begin, STOP all stimulation. Do not touch the penis. Don’t do lots of kegels, just hold one long strong kegel for about 12 seconds. When learning I found I had to strain my whole body in order to clamp down with sufficient strength, you have to kegel ‘VERY’ hard, as hard as you possibly can!
Your PC muscle needs to be very strong in order to remain completely clamped through the involuntary pumping signals that orgasm is triggering. It sounds like your PC muscle is not strong enough yet.

You should not be able to feel your PC muscle pumping the semen out at all. If you can feel the pumping but it is slightly stifled or muffled that is not good enough. You are still ejaculating a little bit and it will likely be a retrograde ejaculation.

An easier way for you to discover what you need to do is to use your fingers instead of clamping with a kegel. Use your fingers to press down on the PC muscle very firmly. You press so firmly that the PC muscle cannot pump at all, there is no room for movement. Then you can more easily experience the orgasm without ejaculation and then you can see just how hard you have to squeeze the PC to stave off ejaculation completely. Using your fingers may take 2-3 attempts to master in itself, but it’s a hell of a lot easier to master than the kegelling technique.

Once you’ve mastered it by using your fingers, try using a kegel. You will have a much better idea of what you need to do.

Let us know how it goes, good luck.

Thanks alot for the reply. Ive noticed a few things I was doing such as I was continuing with stimulation which could be the bet I will experiment a bit over the week or 2 and report back. Thanks