Patience is a virtue. In terms of ThundersPlace, this is a forum not a chat site. In terms of PE, there is a process to finding your zone. You are newbie so conditioning without hurting yourself is the most important thing. The newbie routine has been handed down for a long period of time because it generally works better than only jelqing or stretching or anything else.
Explain your warming process as there is a difference between heat and temperature, especially with water. You need enough heat to warm your penis all the way through, not just warm water on the skin. A rice sock (or suitable gel pack) will probably provide better heat than water unless you are sitting in a hot bath.
Are you using lube to wet jelq or are you dry jelqing? I very much prefer wet jelqs.
The fact that you are losing your partial erection indicates that you are using too much pressure. Less is more as a newbie. Seriously. You should only use enough pressure that you can see/feel the swelling go up your penis but not so much that you negatively impact your partial erection.
I know some advocate slower jelqs but I don’t know how a beginner can do a 10 second jelq unless you have a 2 foot long penis. Focus on the steady expansion of the penis and don’t worry if it only takes 2-3 seconds. Make sure the next hand is ready to keep the blood in and the penis swollen.
Once you find the right pressure and tempo, your penis should feel like it had a good workout when you’re done, perhaps with some modest fatigue. If anything you should leave your penis wanting more and slowly increase your reps. Your EQ should skyrocket during this period. If your penis is not 100% ready the next day, then take a rest day or two until it feels 100% ready.
11/20/2011: BPEL: 6", MEG: 4.75" (goal BPEL: ~7", MEG: 5.25")
5/9/12: BPEL: 6.5", MEG 5" (goal BPEL: 7.25", MEG: 5.5")
3/5/13: BPEL: 6.875", MEG 5 5" (max goal BPEL: 7.5", MEG: 5.75")