Off-topic Virgin Mindset

Just want to vent. So I’m 21 and still a virgin and it’s not because I can’t get a girl. A lot of times I don’t put myself in a position to bring a girl back to my room because I’m scared she’ll say yes. I’m perfectly fine talking to a girl in a situation I know won’t lead to sex, but I’m way more hesitant in approaching girls in situation which can lead to sex (like a college party dance floor). Part of the reason I haven’t had sex yet is because I have a small penis and I’m insecure about it (5 NBPEL). At this point though, I’m afraid to have sex because most girls my age- juniors in college- have already had sex and I literally have no idea what I’m doing. Anyone else have this mindset? Any advice?

My advice? Go have sex and see what you’re afraid of. Or become a monk. Which one would you like to choose?

My advice would be to read on here and see that 5” nbpel is pretty much dead on average so you shouldnt feel too badly about it. And second as jimmybob says go out and have sex at least so you can see that it isn’t the end of the world your afraid of. Chances are the first girl you have sex with isnt going to be of any significance to your life so whether see goes away with a positive or negative impression is irrelevant. Right now its all about you and getting yourself confident. That only comes with experience.

Dude your just fine, my girl wanted me to tell you that a lot of girls would really like to hear that your a virgin and would love to have sex with you. It’s true, there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin and you are still young.

Another thing, my brother has a penis around the same size as you, but the difference is his confidence in himself. He acts like it’s 9 inches and has never had a problem with pleasing a woman. He even pulled a milf that was twice his age and had her coming back for more.

I’m telling you man, your all good. Only thing that could be better is your self-confidence and the way you appreciate yourself. Now go and get laid! Once that first one happens it just gets more and more routine, next thing you know your looking to get these woman back to your room. Your young, this is your time to enjoy as much sex as you can!

Do not spend years thinking you’re not ready for sex. It just wastes time you could spend having sex.

I was a virgin till a couple years older than you are now for the same reasons. Don’t make that same mistake.

I appreciate the support. I feel like I just need to get over this hump.

More specifically, how hard is it to get your dick inside a girl’s vagina? I’ve had two times in which I’ve brought a girl back and couldn’t properly put my penis in the hole. It was extremely embarrassing. I immediately got so nervous and lost so much confidence that my dick deflated. I played it off as having whisky dick cause I was decently drunk, but that had nothing to do with it. I think the main problem I have is that my confidence in person doesn’t translate to the bed. When talking to a girl, I’m pretty smooth, funny, and am decent looking, so I’ve been told. I’m also tall. So I think they get this idea that I’m going to be great in bed, when in reality my dick is on the small side and my sex game is nonexistent.

I’m done venting. Just came on here cause I certainly can’t tell my friends these things lol.

5” Not Bone Pressed Erect Length is not small. Period.

5.25” BPEL is the low side of average. It usually translates to 4.5” NBPEL or less. as the average person has greater than .75” of fatpad. And even if you are the small side of average, it is STILL AVERAGE. Your size ain’t the problem.

Penetration depends on the girl and position. Mention it is your first time and she can make it much easier to penetrate her vagina with positioning and letting you know if you’re on the opening properly. I was poking the wrong place my first time. No shame in asking for a little help.

You get a feel for this in time with more successful encounters.

I’m going to second everything these other guys are saying. Your length is on the smaller side of the average range, but it’s STILL AVERAGE. Your girth is also right in the middle so if you feel like you have a pencil dick, think again. Also, the average vagina is actually 3-4 inches deep, so depending on penetration angle it’s actually completely possible for you to bottom out at your current size. ;)

Getting your dick inside a vagina isn’t that hard, no pun intended hehe, although it can be a bit challenging the first couple times. I’d definitely recommend going down on her first, as that will help relax her vaginal muscles which will make initial penetration much easier. Additionally here’s a little trick I used to use: get on top while you’re still fingering her; hold your finger(s) against her front vaginal wall and simply slide your dick in right under your finger. Works every time. ;)

Definitely go down on the girl first! Also you can always say to her “put me in you”.

Most women I’ve known love hearing that and are happy to do so.

Most importantly relax. Enjoy the entire experience, fumbling and all. I’d bet most guys on here have some pretty funny first time experience stories that they end up laughing about years later.

Cheers!

If your going to tell the girl your a virgin i wouldnt wait til the panties come off imo that just makes it awkward for both of you to talk about then. When you feel sex is a definitely possibility i would bring it up. That way if it does happen your more relaxed on her expectations and she is prepared for any difficulties you may have. And as someones wife pointed out here the girl will likely be more then happy to be your first.

I think I’m gonna make a go at it. A chick I very recently met said she wants to have sex. I’m just hoping I get it in her hole lmao.

I don’t really plan on telling her. I’m just gonna do it at this point. I expect that she won’t return for more, but that’ll be that. The worst part is that my friend has already had sex with her friend, so I’m sure our sexual experience will get back to him.

Can you be a little bit more negative? It really helps!

Don’t think about it like that. She wants to get off and you want to get her off too, right? So just tell her when shit starts getting sexual. For all you know she might see it as a teaching moment and give you tips that’ll help you with other girls down the road. At the very least should things not go well she’ll know that you’re just inexperienced and not actually shit in bed. Very few guys are naturals right outta the gate. Stop being pessimistic and focus on being in the moment and enjoying that there’s an attractive girl who’s letting you put your penis in her.

I’m gonna have to fake some confidence haha. I appreciate you taking the time to respond and I hear your advice.