westla,
What a fantastic little article you wrote! I managed to miss it while reading through T’s Place at the library. I didn’t sign in, so it was difficult to get myself into all of the threads. It was an informative post and brought to my attention a problem I may be having with my Kegeling.
When kegeling, I feel the contraction mostly around the anus area, and very little contraction elsewhere. I’ve also noticed that when I kegel, even for a very long time, no or little blood is pumped into my penis. I took this as a sign that blood-flow to my penis is not as it should be. I think now that I may be contracting the wrong muscle, rather than both at the same time, as most people are probably doing. I need to spend some time trying to isolate the BC muscle and coordinating myself with it. I’ve been kegeling heavily for about 11 months and have noticed very little change in the force with which I ejaculate and when I try to stop the flow of urine it still trickles for a few more seconds before it stops completely, just as it did before I began kegeling. I may be flexing the wrong muscle and, thanks to your post, I know it is something I need to address.
PS
This may also explain why I don’t feel much of a contraction when I kegel with my finger feeling the area between my testicles and anus. Even if I’ve been kegeling wrong for nearly a year, at least I can wait a lot longer than I used to wait if I need to do number 2.
"Only enemies speak the truth; friends and lovers lie endlessly, caught in the web of duty". -Roland, in Stephen King's The Last Gunslinger