Premature Ejaculation: The Solution (DELAYING EJACULATION)

I don’t know whether i suffer from premature ejaculation or not, but i definitely would like to last longer. I have read about all of the different methods:

- Kegeling when you feel you are about to come.
- Reverse kegeling when you feel you are about to come.
- Reverse kegeling continuously throughout sex.
- Squeezing below the glans.
- Edging.
- Pressing the perineum (between balls and asshole) when you feel you are about to come.

Don’t know whether i have missed any major methods. I have not included drugs/creams. Anyway my question is WHAT HAS WORKED FOR YOU? Any psycological methods? I have read massive debates over whether you should kegel hard or reverse kegel when about to come. It’s very confusing. Tried and tested methods only please! Cheers all!

King

I’m not an expert in this topic, but I can share my experience. I’m also confused, specially with kegels. I don’t know how exactly make use of them. I’m still searching what works best for me , for example, I don’t like the “start and stop method”, neither squeezing below the glans, cause you have to stop the intercourse, and this can be bothersome for your girl. Masturbating like an hour before having sex could be a solution, but only temporally, because the older a man is, the longer the time that last to recover from an ejaculation, so this can work but just because I’m still young.

On the other hand, I’ve noticed that if I contract very strong my PC muscles when I’m about to come, my ejaculation urge increases, instead of decreasing. However I guess I just need stronger PC muscles to be able to completely hold my ejaculation, but I believe that throughout this technique I’ll learn to control my cum and ejaculate at desire.

Currently, I’m practicing multiorgasm techniques, some of them involve learning to breath properly, identifying your arousal level and strengthening your PC muscles. I’m sure that is just a matter of time to last in bed as long as I want.

Good luck and let me know what you learn!!

What is a “reverse Kegel”?

A reverse kegel involves completely relaxing your BC/PC muscle i think it is also referred to as the valsalva manouver (not sure on spelling) basically when you squeeze your piss out very fast or are trying to push out a fart…that is a reverse kegel. Apparently if it can be held whilst having sex then one can last indefinitely all that is needed to make you come is a strong contraction of the BC/PC muscle. I think ron jeremy has used it…and you can pinpoint when you are gonna come to the exact second. THIS IS WHAT IVE READ!

King

I think I’m gonna give a try to the reverse kegels, I’m clearer now about what they exactly are.

King_Dong what is your experience using these techniques? Haven’t you tried them?

A tantric trick I heard about, but doesn’t work for me, is to press the roof of your mouth with your tongue to delay the orgasm.

@Muttley
I also heard about this trick. But as far as I remember it’s not only to hold your orgasm back but to hold your sperm back, in other words you have a "dry cum". Maybe this can result in multiple orgasm for men.
It is supposed to be healthy too, if you hold your sperm back sometimes.

Btw: I started a very similar thread where I posted some ideas
Please post there any further thoughts about this topic - thanks

Having longer sex-thread

I think the largest problem is that you think of ejaculating as the end of making love. Once you stop thinking like that it will not be a problem at all for you anymore.

Well another method to delay ejaculation is to hold your testicles and kinda pull them down and away from your penis. You will notice that when you are about to ejaculate the scrotum tightens up and the testicles move up closer to your penis. Doing this helps….I know from masturbating (still a virgin :p ) , but don’t see any reason why it would be any different while having sex.

Ps- Yeah this is my first post. Been lurking around for a week or so, absorbing as much information as I can from all the amazing posts in this forum. Hope to post back with some good gains soon enough.

@Orion

I think you are right. I have read in a tantra book that this should help.

There was also a technique described in the book, to pull your testes down without hands but with muscle contraction. Has to do something with the kegel exercise but I didn’t get the exact method because there we’re no pictures(e-book)

But I wrote into an other thread(tantric-sex). Maybe I’ll get some answers there

Or does anybody already knows how to pull your testes down by the pc/bc-muscle?

Jack off before sex

Or

Get head or a hand job, this will probably turn the girl on a little bit, then either go down on her or make out so you have time to regain an erection.

Once you regain an erection (maybe you won’t even lose it, I don’t know) THAN have sex.

Ever guy is difference, but for me, this works. An added bonus, but also might only be for me, second orgasms feel better than firsts.

Getting head or hand job before sex works for me as well. It’s kind of strange, but I don’t lose my erection after getting head. I think it because I’m still excited about having sex. Like Tom said, every guy is different.

When you are about to cum, press the head on your penis with your thumb and index fingers.

How would that work if you are having sex? I wouldn’t want to interrupt it to start squeezing my johnson. She would probably stare at me a little strange?

Now this won’t work if you are super fast on the draw, but if you are good for 10 or 15 minutes it will definately work.

Most women will not find it bothersome if you switch to giving her oral sex as you near the point of no return whilst humping. Not a lot of help if you are a human egg timer, and does require some knowledge of your own responses. But hey, once you can last for 10 or 15 minutes you can f*ck her all night as long as you are good at oral and four-play!

Also a good idea in general is to focus on the person you are with rather than yourself. Enough self monitering to know if you need water, are about to get a cramp, about to pop a load etc, but focus on your partner, not on you!