Originally Posted by kauaiian
I think that I am misrepresenting things. I really don’t know how you came to the conclusion that he’s insecure. I never intended that he acquired those things because he was insecure. I was just trying to say that you could probably carry yourself around with more confidence if you had a good paying job, nice cars, and a above average family (I am not saying I don’t love my family. I’m just talking about his family being well-off). Basically, he has things that are above my average. I am not saying this is the primary source of his confidence but I am sure it adds to it.I’m probably the one who’s insecure now. I was just doing a comparison between us. Aside from the facts of what he did to me he is a nice guy. He was a good friend up until that point. The whole betting thing is just a “thing” that few of my friends do (even my ex would participate in challenges for shots). I guess most males want to be the alpha-male.
I also deduce from his whole confident persona that he also has a “package.” As to how true this is I really don’t know but wouldn’t you carry yourself with more confidence if you knew you were packing something?
I am not defending him nor am I saying Lampwick is wrong. I just wanted to clarify what I was trying to say. I would also like to know how you came to the conclusion he’s insecure. I am just curious and I’m not trying to stir up any trouble. I would also like to say thanks for the pick me up. ^_^
Let me explain how I came to have that impression.
Originally Posted by kauaiian
He carries himself around like he is the shit. Always wants to bet on every little thing. IE games, drinking, sports, and a whole lot of other shit he always says “I bet you can’t” or “Wanna bet?.”
People who are secure are not ostentatious in their bearings. There is a quiet serenity to true security in self. That is part of the potential I sense in you. You see your friends as equals, and you are not driven to be top dog. Being driven to be top dog is a sure road to continual dissatisfaction, because there will always be someone out there who is richer than you, who has better clothes or a better car than you, who has a better looking woman than you, and yes, who has a bigger penis than you. If those are your benchmarks, you are doomed to perpetual disappointment. You will never be happy or secure in what you DO have or in who you ARE.
Maybe the whole betting thing is something that some of your friends do, but it sounds to me like someone who is always trying to prove himself and establish his superiority. Again, this is something that someone who truly IS superior does not need to do. The alpha male is not the one going around challenging everyone all the time and trying to establish his superiority.
Deducing from his whole confident persona that he has a package may be a little bit of projection on your part. It is not true that you can’t project confidence without having a package. I’m reminded of the story that I’m sure has been told here about the self-confident guy who goes into a bedroom with a woman and drops his pants. She is surprised to see less there than she expected and asks, “Who do you expect to satisfy with THAT thing?” He just smiles and answers, “Me!”
He was confident and secure in himself. He knows that he is more than his cock size.
So, perhaps you understand a bit better now how I came to the conclusion that your friend may be insecure under his showy exterior.
I know that you feel insecure. You don’t need to. To start with, stop telling yourself that you are probably a loser. Work on being secure and confident in those things about you that are solid, and work on improving those areas where you know you need improvement. Know that process will take time, and allow yourself to be less than perfect in the process. It may be two steps forward, one step back, but what counts is the overall progress, not the setbacks which inevitably come along from time to time.
