Modesto.
Look back over my very sparse posts here for the last year.
I am serious. I’m not bullshitting you. I’m preaching.
It gives me such a feeling of confidence and happiness to be able to let her feel that much pleasure. We had several years of “great” sex before I got serious about sex. She would come a few times— I’d last about an hour. We’d be happy. Then I started getting various books through the torrent sites. I discovered jelqing. It’s like the average person knows about 1% of what they could know about sex.
The G-spot (again- Donald Hicks book was a literal roadmap of the 10 steps to doing this right including the emotional parts) is a major improvement for your female partner. A pyrex glass dildo is a major part. Tantric exercises to become multi-orgasmic as a male is a major part. It greatly increases the male’s pleasure too. Jelqing increased my size. Knowing how it use it is nice— but knowing how to use it and being over a half an inch longer makes a clear difference. Hitting bottom and pressing the cervix back a quarter inch has an effect. Being able to angle and hit the areas left and right of the cervix also matter. She now has 5 distinct areas that she has orgasms from.
You can skate along the edge of an orgasm for 10 to 15 minutes before cooling back down. It is like fire going down both legs, through your belly and out your finger tips. Or you can go over the edge but not ejaculate and immediately be able to start back up again several times before tiring.
Now with newfound experimentation she’s working on my “million dollar spot” (outside between the scrotum and anus) and the prostate (inside) with some electrifying mind blowing results (as in I lost the ability to speak and could only gasp with pleasure).
It just gets better and better. It’s like every hill you go over, there is another one. I’m still an incredible novice with regard to tantra. I can see another several years of learning all the concepts.
Don’t take it as arrogance— take it as rampant enthusiasm. I see this wonderful wonderful gift and pleasure and I want everyone to know about it and not lose hope or buy into “okay sex is good enough.”
The only thing I would say is that it takes patience. It’s not easy. You have to be relentlessly positive and keep your expectations down while approaching the entire thing sideways. It’s like jelqing- over a year you can see gains the rest of the world believes are impossible- but overnight you will see nothing.
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Johanson— watch out for the emotional intensity. It can be wicked and catch you by surprise! I can’t comprehend the pleasure I’m giving her but her emotional attachment became very strong. Women are so lucky. I can’t imagine a multi-hour orgasm. The term soul shattering comes to mind.