Decon Breaks III: What about your life?
Hi there, TG here again. Now with the last part of “Deconditioning” I want to talk about the last part that is the most neglected. Continuing from how to do a decon break and physical reasons of why you need to do a decon break, here I touch on the mental aspects which in my opinion are the biggest barriers to gaining.
Rut and Frustration- This is the most common reason to decon that there is. Because when you get pissed at PE, find yourself not logging onto a PE site in 7 months, haven’t done PE in just as long…then come back to it and get some quick(er) gains…newsflash, friend. You just decon’d!
First, there is no hard criteria or protocols for being frustrated. However, my recommendation is to assess yourself physically, mentally and emotionally on a regular basis. PE burnout is not only not constructive but it damages other parts of your life aside from your penis and sexuality. Frustration bleeds over from PE into your work and relationships. If you’re always irritated and annoyed you are less productive at work and you’re less fun to be around on a personal level. You have to be honest with yourself and also listen to the feedback from friends and coworkers if they tell you’re that you’re more morose, preoccupied or irritated these days. Frustration mounts slowly and sneaks up on the best of us. Do not be afraid to stop PE if it gets to be too much to handle with the other parts of your life.
Rut/Doldrums/Too Much PE on Autopilot
The PE Rut is highly similar to the Frustration phase and can in fact happen at the same time as frustration but sometimes will not. The PE rut is characterized by not seeing much by way of gains (if any) and still devoting most of your waking time to PE. Like wearing an ADS for 10+ hours after doing a 2 hour routine 5 or 6 days a week. That’s an example I’ve seen more than one of. You are probably in a rut if:
* You are looking for something PE related to do on your off days
* You are working 6 days straight or cutting rest days out entirely
* You PE while you’re asleep
* Your total PE time is half of your waking hours or more than 20+ hours per week (this fluctuates upwards just a bit for extenders and ADS as they have long wear times as a part of design and effectiveness)
* You spend more time doing PE than any other activity in a day.
* You put opportunities for sex off to make sure your routines are done on time and to the proper durations
The issue with a rut is your life starts to suffer and you may not even realize it. Frustration often will ruin your life because your mentality and attitude in general will be suffering but in a rut you’ll think you’re fine and even your family and friends may think you’re okay…but the amount of time and energy you’re giving PE will be disproportionate. It will be lopsided and you will honestly only figure that out when you take a month or two off and find yourself with a huge amount of free time you have no idea how to fill.
Frustration and ruts don’t have a designated time for you to take off in order to fix those problems. This is going to be a personal decision and it’s going to be based on your own needs and desires. However, I recommend a good month. This way you can see a large difference in your free time and how much of it you spend doing other things. How many other things you find yourself able to do and accomplish outside of Penis Enlargement. It serves to remind a devoted PE practitioner how much he sacrifices for devotion. Some find that an acceptable price. Some like a quick reminder of living life and putting PE as a secondary concern. This is also your choice. I ran into this myself, actually. (Because bad choices make the best stories *chuckles*)
I remember it was 2 or so years ago I was searching for a specific pump system I heard about from some random place on the internet. I think I was diving deep into threads back on Matters Of Size, sorting through really scattered posts with ancient time stamps, and I knew I was trailing a curve correction unicorn. That was my biggest obsession and what kept me coming back to PE. (Hell, it’s why I’m still here. *chuckles*)
This time it was a cheap foreign pump system but the cylinder supposedly came apart in 3 sections if I recall correctly and it was said you could wedge or glue or affix something inside of it to influence the inflated erection that the vacuum would generate. I searched high and low for it and when I found it (it was only available out of India from a site in a language I had no chance of reading in currency I had idea what it was), I also found that it didn’t come in a size I could use and still wedge an item in it to try my curvature correction experiment.
I was so angered and frustrated I tried to use a Vacutech tube (and I ante’d up a quick $150 for whatever tube that was, as I didn’t have it prior to the experiment.) with something stuffed in it to help form against my curve. Never-mind that it was impossible to secure the item in the tube or I had no idea what being under vacuum against a foreign object would feel like or do to my penis. As a matter of fact, thinking of it now, I don’t know how well a 3-sectional tube would hold vacuum or feel against my shaft when pressure was put on or how well such a non-solid cylinder construction would even hold vacuum. I was lost in my frustration of searching for miracle curve corrections so deep I was willing to try anything. You cannot go there. That is a dark place, to be so obsessed with the goal that nothing is too great a risk. Just…no.
Sometimes you have to step back, stop and admit you’re just all PE’d out.
Have you ever been at your wits end with PE? Have you ever caused yourself an injury simply because you tried too hard and you knew it? Has the mental fatigue ever hurt more than the physical fatigue?
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