All of this grand advice is based off of how much information guys?
Uncut, I have told my current girlfriend that there was a time when I had a period of better sex with another girl. But it was said in the context of “look at what we could do…” and, hell, she asked for it that day. I’m not always tactful and thoughtful but my responses are definitely measured. I admit that I have said many spiteful things though.
The history and context of what this girl said and how, in relation to the “best sex ever” comment is missing from this thread. I could have easily said something like this at the right time, to the right girl, without it being meant as a harsh and scathing comment. Really, what are we talking about? Jelqist has given us a highly condensed version of the conversation and their relationship which was probably shaped more by memory and emotion than anything else. Remember me saying that about her?
Jelqist is with this girl for a whole spectrum of reasons and a conversation, like the one presented, may only be a tiny piece of it. I am sure that the best advice I can give, not knowing more, has nothing to do with that simple situation (that YES, i do agree does suggest more).
My advice is all about him. He can’t really change her, only possibly persuade her. But he can change himself.
He may actually be a pretty lousy lover, you never know. No offense intended Jelqist. He could definitely work on the 15 minute lover limit, there’s always room for more and better techniques and hell, what does Jelqist say to this girl on a day by day, minute by minute basis?
And her? Does she feel or think more in bed? (lights on or lights off kinda girl) How can he psychologically overcome her preconcieved notions of what he is or isn’t (or what the old lover was or wasn’t). Of any girl’s preconceived notions? What approach to her would work better? How about for most girl’s in general?
My present GF has said all sorts of mean and thoughtless things because, frankly, that’s how her parents treat(ed) her. She echos them right back, to them, to me and to anyone close to her. She’s worth so much more though and I love her absolutely. If she told me that I was little and needed a bigger dig, I would probably laugh and say “I’ve heard that more sex makes it grow, wanna get it on? Maybe it’s JUST RIGHT if we find a good position.”
I’m being cheesy and this is more serious than that, but there is always another way. Breaking up with her seems pretty harsh for an answer, with so little to go on.