My Wife Told A Urologist That My Pumping Is A Turn off!

My wife had a consultation for liposuction, the O shot, and another vaginal tightening procedure called “lady Lay”. She is by no means considered loose and it takes some time for me to squeeze in my 5.25 mseg (the head is even less!). Sex just hasn’t felt the same for her in the past year or so in other words the sensitivity is lacking. She even thought I had Ed problems which is far from true. I am convinced that the birth control pills is to blame.
So the urologist tells her how it could be her testosterone level is low and she can test it for her. She then tells her they have a “P shot” that your husband may be interested in as well. This is some sort of testosterone shot. The Urologist goes on to say “but he would have to use a penis pump twice a day” So my wife tells the urologist that she isn’t sure about that, “he has pumped in the past and I think it’s a turn off”.

I asked was it a physical turn off or mental and she said both. It makes me regret telling her in the first place (I am not an avid pumper mind you, once or twice a week at most). She said she doesn’t mind but she just thinks it’s weird. I only pumped in front of her once and she loved the sex afterwards but ever since she said she doesn’t want to see it.

Okay so don’t do it in front of her. Simple solution!

Exactly..like I said I only did that once!!

Sounds like she’s bitter and insecure about her vagina. She probably thinks the pumping is going to stretch her out further so she’s not interested in you doing it. Like the other poster said, just don’t do it in front of her and watch her scream in pleasure from it.

Golden rule of dating is never tell a woman everything.

…or it’s something which goes deeper (no pun intended) about insecurity in the relationship.
Women can be insecure too about their sexuality when a certain age approaches.

Maybe that’s the other place where one could start to dig. Talking, talking, talking…

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When I half way told my wife about PE (not about pumping, clamping or hanging) she was worried not just about her insecurities but that I was doing it for another woman. So there’s more to the story then her just being turned off IMO.

Well I stopped PE because my wife said it felt I was replacing her with PE and she is getting jealous. (Seriously, I may not even masturbate) That’s why when I started up again, I did so in stealth mode.

So you’re over 8” non-bone pressed and above average girth, and she says she feels nothing?

Youre married why make it bigger, she doesn’t feel anything emotionally talk to her more… take her to a museum and lunch, surprise her

the size of you isn’t the problem… your ignoring her as a woman that’s the issue

The point is he’s doing PE for himself and she’s making him feel bad for it. It is a hobby, as far as I’ve read his logs, not a sense of necessity for him. He has detailed things he’s done for his wife, a trip they’ve taken not too long ago…I’m sure the man knows how to be a husband. She isn’t being totally fair to him, because he is putting the effort forth and she’s just not respecting his choices for his leisure time.

And Rock hard erections that she says feels soft!!

Read my log as TG said and you will notice that I have taken her on vacations and paid extra attention. It also takes awhile to get in since I hit 5.25 mseg!

Thanks for noticing that I have already tried the good husband route. I am always a good husband..lol

To make matters worst when I tell her I don’t need the P Shot and I don’t have ED. She says that means I think something is wrong with her vagina.

Get this. She has orgasms mainly from clitoral stimulation but even these are less often. She used to cum any way that I chose to make her cum. Until she started the pill.

She gives me head maybe twice a year although she knows I like head. And she cums from oral all the time but let’s me go down maybe once every two months.

Now if I don’t make a move for sex after a week or two she gets really horny but just hints at sex. She always wants me to make the move but I guess my timing is off sometimes and she is too tired. Her libido is 180 from the way it was 2 years ago before the pill.

SoLong

Oh man, I’ve gone down that route too - only for my Madame it’s illness related and in your case I guess it’s looking like an approaching climacterium.

We are a couple which discuss things a lot and that helped. What I found out is that my Madame had problems with her libido and besides her specific medical condition it is mainly because she feels less attractive. I think that is to be considered too - not how you are as man and lover, but how she feels as woman and sexual being.

I am still suspecting that her self image is shaken, so this can be adressed.

On the other, more practical side, it is (at least for the two of us here) very important to keep the body contact and tenderness up. Even if it’s non-sexual. That is key to regain or kee the confidence and for you it’s a great way to show her that you find her desireable even when it does not come to sex. Even verbalize it - she needs the confirmation that she is attractive for you!

Maybe she has gained a little weight - weight is to women what dick size is to men, just in the opposite proportion. If she compalins about that, DO NOT SAY it’s no problem for you. Or even say you love it that she is a bit rounder at the right places. Tell her you SUPPORT her whatever her decision is!

Just some thoughts which crossed my mind…

Maybe it’s useable for you. At leats I hope it is.

R65