Originally Posted by LongVehicle
I think this phenomenon is actually beneficial to us. Aiming for a 9 instead of 7 helps us get to the 7 - even if we aren’t as happy about it!
Originally Posted by DickVanDyke
I think being happy about what you have is more important than what you have.
I second DickVanDyke. Threads appear here regularly about what your goals for PE are. I think my usual answer is 1/4” more in each dimension than what I have now .
Goals should be for encouragement, and should be reachable. If you reach your goal, you can always set a new one. Goals that are too far away can be discouraging.
It’s kind of like weight loss. How do you lose 20 pounds? One pound at a time. If you just keep losing that pound, you’ll get to where you want to be. Is it better to lose five pounds, one pound at a time, or to go for losing 20 pounds, get discouraged, and dive into that next half gallon of ice cream?
And time also factors into both of these - weight loss or PE. How many times have we seen someone join here and ask about whether they can gain an inch over the summer, or by Christmas, or some other arbitrary gain in some arbitrary time frame? How many of them actually get that inch, and how many either get discouraged and quit because they’re not gaining fast enough, or hurt themselves trying to force the ruler to match the calendar? But if you get into good healthy diet and eating habits, or a good solid PE program, you’ll be better off than you were when you started.
And flexibility is important. In the Pumpers forum, one of the members is not going to have the chance to pump over the next several months. Instead of being discouraged by that, he’s looking at it in a positive way. He can change things up by doing some manual exercises, and then in several months, he can get back into pumping afresh.
So, for me, saying that I continue to seek additional gains does not keep me from enjoying the ones I’ve got.
Originally Posted by Para-Goomba
It’s just sad when men lose touch with the fact that most penises aren’t too big, and most bodies are actually quite flabby.
It is. And you can be complacent, or you can do something about it. But it’s bad to be discouraged into doing nothing because you’re falling short of perfection (and I know that’s not what you’re saying).
I remember seeing a very large man wearing a very small bathing suit on a beach once. At first, I thought how inappropriate that was, and then I reconsidered. Do only the young and perfect bodies deserve to enjoy the sun? He surely would have benefited in so many ways by losing some weight, and unless he was severely delusional, he already knew that. But on that day, he was what he was and he was enjoying the sun.
