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So do you do this with lotion before sex? If so what about oral sex, does this stop your partner from performing this on you? Is the lotion edible or do you simply go jelq for x amount of time a few hours or so before you engage in intercourse?
My wife does not like oral sex. She has only offered it 3 times in 14 years. I don’t ask for it.
In fact I don’t ever “ask” for sex anymore. I stopped all that stuff about 3 years ago. Back then I might have cared about things like edible lotions and such…now I just wait for her to drop a few subtle hints and then take over. We both enjoy it, but she it far too prudish to be comfortable with lubes, toys, novel positions, or even talking about sex. Being a proper “southern belle” those things are simply not comfortable topic of conversation. I’m straying a bit off topic.
I perform my first 100 jelqs with a lube (whatever I have handy) and a heat lamp or hair dryer, and then I do my next 100 in the shower. After I towel off, I do another 100 dry and then get dressed and head off to work.
After about 2-3 hours I put on my ADS (vacu-hanger) and wear it for about 4-6 hours depending on how it feels. I’ve learned the hard way that wearing my ADS for 8+ hours at a time is easily possible but can lead to hyper-sensitivity and injuries I can only describe as “hickies” that tend to scab and become quite painful if I attempt to push on and keep using the ADS. If I allow for a few hours of down time between exercises and ADS then I do not seem to have that problem. I can log up to 12 hours a day under tension…but I no longer try to do that in one session.
My wife does not know about PE even though I have been involved in some form of it for almost 3.5 years.
I have changed my routine so much and so many times in the last 18 months that I can not honestly say I have been consistent enough to expect gains. I decided to take a more practical and serious approach this time and in February I started jelqing like I meant it.
I do most of my heavy work in the mornings when the family is sleeping. I have sex exclusively at night after the kids are asleep. My pre-coitus jelqing is not actually considered part of the PE routine, but I will steal away to the bathroom or bedroom for 15-20 minutes before bed and do as many slow-hard jelqs as I can to re-plump. The difference is quite noticeable to me.
For me, the goal of sex is at least one significant orgasm for my wife. One of her less subtle hints that she is in the mood often comes in the form of a question once we are in bed, “will you give me an orgasm tonight?” What am I supposed to do with that? Since her pleasure is my personal goal (and my pleasure is practically guaranteed) I de-emphasize what I might like until after she has had her first. She is usually in the “plateau” stage before I even attempt to enter and lube is not needed if I take it slow.
I think I have addressed everything except your comments.
I plan on doing more reps as soon as my hands can take it and when I feel like the penis can handle more. Right now 300 slow jelqs are the not-so-comfortable limit. It feels pretty worked over by then. I do take my time however. Each stroke is between 3 and 7 seconds - and some are coupled with tight squeezes. My grip is almost exclusively overhand and as firm as I can get it without causing pain.
I have noticed that the bumps that appear on the glans disappear at about 40-50 reps and they get smoothed out when the lymph fluid begins to appear. I can see that this might stretch the skin…I am not so sure it indicates anything like the tunica or CC is being expanded.
I have not yet had any trouble with erection quality since I started PE.