When is it too big for sex and BJ

You have no idea how many guys on this site overlook this aspect of PE. Important topic!

Absolutely Not. I am actually pretty tiny when flaccid, but am BPEL 8.25 rounding down (8.5 on really good days) and an EG of 5.5

It is fun, but my experience, and I’m sure there are big guys out there who will admit, it doesn’t last. The second the girl absolutely struggles to give you even halfway decent head ruins the moment. I’m a virgin with regards to actual intercourse, so I can’t comment on that aspect, but I find myself worrying about my compatibility with girls I come across, especially the petite ones. It’s not really a blessing to be “big.” Maybe to guys who haven’t experienced it, or to superficial women in this society. But practicality wise, it’s not very sound. If you subscribe to science and evolution, there’s probably a very good reason nature settled on the average she did, just like with the average height of humans. The only reason we aspire to be “bigger” is because men equate a bigger penis with more power. This is entirely cultural and there’s really nothing in nature to back it up. It might snag you a few superficial girls here and there, but does that really matter? Is that what you want from PE? To attract super shallow women?

My goal is more girth oriented, I want at least 6”. I feel that is a nice size, and anything beyond that is going to cause major problems. According to this website, and surveys I’ve looked at, I’m in some absurd percentile. I don’t really feel that way, and I’m not buying it. Maybe it is the pornographic industry that is conditioning males to think that the average size is so much larger than what it really is. Somehow it just doesn’t look the same without all the fancy angle tricks and whatnot. I think that is where I find dissatisfaction with myself, and hence the PE. That, and I think it’s an interesting pursuit. While every girl that has given me a BJ or played around has commented on the size, or been intimidated, I’ve come to realize that while that’s “cool” to us men in a way, it’s not really to the women. If it causes physical incompatibility or just a lot of trouble then all that “coolness” matters for naught.

If I could be born again I’d much rather just be average. But my goal is 9x6, just to say I did it. I started at 7.5. PE does indeed work, which always gives me a chuckle when I read articles trying to disprove it.

Or she will loathe going down on you, or won’t even bother to try. That’s not a good thing ;)

My first post, I think. Hope it helped!

Speaking of useless size, I just watched a video with Shyla Styles, Lexington (didn’t look like him though), and Mandingo (different guy that is usually Mandingo). And this Mandingo had beyond useless size. She could barely get her mouth past the head, and he had a good 3” outside her when he was bottoming out. I would call it at 11 or 12”. So if you find you can’t get in a girl’s mouth, and she’s across the room when you have sex, might be time to take a decon break.

Very good and thoughtful first post, Tycho. Thanks!

Thoughful post, Tycho. I learned a lot from it.

One of the most sincerely post I have seen here on thunders. One question you have seen a lot of flaccid man penises, there anyone, even a single one, who has like a 8” flaccid, anything very big?

That would be unreal and I’m not sure an 8 inch flacid would be that attractive. It would just look like a soggy sausage…

Does anyone know the ‘Biggest’ size? There has been documentaries of men with 13-14” penises but later been disproven as fake…

I want to know who is/was the biggest to see if there is anyway of getting near that measurement.

(SimplytheBest)
“big guys answering at what point they were bottoming out with inches to spare”

This is something that I really want to know, so that I can more accurately set my own PE goals. Any of the big guys want to share?

Great Post Simply

Something for us all. We have to set a standard for measurements. As we all know our size varies when measuring under different angles, BPEL, EL, measuring the curve, straight etc. We must set a standard which applies for everyone who is in here otherwise everything we discuss is perceived differently from each one in here.
Different types of measuring with example of myself.
When measuring my penis while it is facing upward my EL is 6”
When measuring my penis while it is parallel to he floor and me standing my EL is 6,6” (using a ruler)
When measuring my penis while it is parallel to the floor and using a measuring tape my EL is 7-7,12”

Opinions on the correct measuring technique do vary. We must set a standard and we all refer to that standard when we talk. My opinion is that this standard should be the usable size or the size that the female really feels and sees!!!
Of course this gives an advantage to us males because women most of the times do see the back side of our penis where the urethra pipe is located. If we were measuring this side of our penis most of us would have been huge.
Personally I never measure BPEL because although it gives a more accurate measurement I know that it is not usable no matter how hard you press on the female.
Also I feel that we shouldn’t measure the curve (those that we have it) and the most accurate measurement is when standing and having the penis parallel to the floor using a hard ruler. Otherwise i think we are cheating ourselves!!! Why should we do that?
We are a community in here and we all must feel open, able to express our feelings and not feeling embarrassed.
We all have said things in here and shared experiences that we never shared even with our best friends.
Concluding I must say that I really hope that we end up with a standard measuring method even if this is not good for our ego.

Thanks for listening

I saw this was bumped and I wanted to add on to my other post since I’ve had more experience now.

Now that I’ve actually slept with a handful of girls, I can happily say that the only measuring method I care about is how happy she is. That might seem lame, or cheesy, but really what women want is to be pleased and satisfied in bed. The first girl I was with really had never had anything like me, and the “newness” factor initially helped get her off really fast. Even after months of it she was still enjoying herself. Yes, size does matter when it comes to pleasuring a girl but it matters probably less than your overall ability, charm or whatever you want to call it. Some girls get physically more excited when they see it, or sometimes they won’t even say anything because they are shy. When you’re bigger, blowjobs are just horrible. I can’t emphasize this enough. I’m also cut, which could be a reason, but I’ve run into some really skilled girls and it’s just not very pleasurable. I am not sure if PE desensitized me to low to mid intensity pleasure, or allowed control, but I simply cannot orgasm from oral alone. In fact I couldn’t orgasm at all during sex, and that wasn’t because I was injured, or had performance anxiety etc.. I did not “focus” and try to, however, which is a good thing when you aren’t using condoms. So in short, I could go forever. Wasn’t as much fun as it could be for me, but seeing her happy with it (and always craving it ;) ) made it worth it.

Everyone thinks of being bigger as a universal pro but I don’t think so. It comes with some hefty cons. If you enjoy anal sex you can forget about it when you’re bigger, especially past a certain point it’s just too painful. Oral won’t be as fun, and you can run into situations where your size actually hurts the poor girl. Some girls will be intimidated, others might have higher expectations (along with pressure you put on yourself) and in the end it might not work out. Plus, if you’re already PEing, you have a negative body image of yourself. Fixing that is more important than adding inches and believe me, adding inches does not solve much of anything. It all depends on your motivation and the reason you’re working towards being bigger, I suppose. I know that being positive about things and just having great overall sex did more for my confidence, self-image etc.. Than any PE gains did.

I look around and see so many men trying to make themselves bigger and 95% of the time the reasoning behind it is flawed. I think it’s analogous to lusting for a sweet new car or some other material item. You know it may bring you some temporary happiness but the human condition forces us to adapt and become complacent with what we have. Good luck to all those PEing (I still am) and I hope it brings you happiness.

8” BP X 6” MG is the ultimate goal.

Generally we understand that the point of BPEL is to track your PE gains. The idea is to figure out if your routine is working or not. It eliminates the variable of your fat pad because that can fluctuate daily based on water retention. Did you have potato chips today? That will effect fatpad — so measurements other than BPEL or BPFSL are useless for tracking PE gains.

(Additionally, I find that pubic bone to pubic bone sex will put much of your BPEL into play.)

As to the curve I straighten mine to measure. Again I am trying to track my PE gains. What is the point of measuring air?

For tracking my results, I want to measure my penis, not fat or air.

None of this is matter of “cheating” it is a matter of trying to be scientific about PE.

Parallel to floor and hard ruler — agreed.

Tycho — Another really though-provoking post — thank you for posting that.

Wife Saw a Horse Cock

Very happy to read such a neutral and objective post man. Really inspiring.

I’m completely new here, so excuse me if I don’t know all your terms and whatnot..
Me, I’m 9,2 inches long, 6,4 inches thick. I’m in a permanent relationship, so I only sleep with one gal.
We can both have sex, and oral sex at a what I consider a fairly normal level. When she’s giving BJ’s, she’s getting about half of it in her mouth, and that’s more than fine with me as she can use her hand as well whilst giving, but she often gives this “biting” feeling as she gives. It just doesn’t fit right in her mouth. Then it’s the sex. First off, the foreplay, where the big one usually seems to give quite an excitement to her, visually that is, is great. Then we use lubrication, since it’s gosh darn hard to push it in without.. Then after some pushing and smushing we can finally get to the act, which is fine, if I keep myself from not bottoming. After it all is done, she’s usually so sore that she doesn’t dare go to the toilet. Because of this we rarely do it two days in a row.

My conclusion then, is that a “big one” is fine if you’re going to have the same sex partner over some time, as you can get used to the do’s and don’t’s. A one night stand like that, would most likely not be that great.

Still, I’m wondering if I should be doing PE’s, or whatever you call it, to make it a little larger.. I don’t know, the visual aspect kind of makes me want more..

Oh well.