When is penis size too big & counterproductive?

You ask, ‘When is penis size too big & counterproductive?’

The simple answer is. When it fails to satisfy our partner.

I agree that petite women are less likely to enjoy units of 8 inches and above, but just because a woman is petite it, does not necessarily mean she will not draw some satisfaction from the pain that may be involved in over extending her. How we derive pleasure is largely dictated to us by our brain after all and not by size alone.

My first wife enjoyed/s deeper penetration. Even when my unit would rub up against her cervix - this was only an issue in specific positions, and she is a petite Oriental. Who when standing is about 5 foot 2” tall and who weighs in at around 100lb’s (or at least she did when I knew her).

My my most recent partner is a white girl and she is a full figured 5 foot 10” (UK dress size 12). This makes her at least three dress sizes larger than my first wife. The girl in question told me she liked big but thought “anything over seven was a waste”.

Go figure and a Happy New Year’s to all at Thunders!

In my opinion 7.0 - 7.5 is ideal.

I’m a long way from that, but thats my long term goal.

Here we go again. You know firegoat, some guys just don’t get it. I read a post of yours stating something like this. You posted, some people like to have a really large meal,
but not everyday, just every once and a while. Something like that, but I couldn’t have posted it any better. You hit the nail on the head

I don’t know how many times I have posted this exact thing and what I and the wife experienced with my new size and what problems she had with my large penis. It took
years for her to get used to it. Sex is not the same anymore. If I can go back to 7.5 x 5.5, I would do it in a heart beat.

Hey guys, don’t fuck this up just because of your ego’s. Customize your units. Oh ! I have posted this a hundred times and I will post it again. If your partner tells you to
stop gaining, you better listen good and hard.

Wow!

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Firegoat, you and I always come together when this subject is brought up. Some members here just don’t get it. Bigger is not necessarily better. My wife told me I continued to gain for my ego an d not for the both of us. She told me she thought we were in it together, but when I continued when she asked me to stop, she felt betrayed.

Tntjockey, well said.

Memento, thanks for your greetings. Happy New Year to one and all.

After reading this thread, TNT’s thread and having some conversations with a few of my female friends, I’m really starting to reconsider my goals. When I started PE, I wanted 9x6.5, but I’m not so sure anymore.

I recently got to hook up with a good friend who I hadn’t seen in a few years. She’s definitely very sexually experienced, and our encounters are always great. We’ve never explicitly exchanged numbers, but just putting together stories and knowing how many boyfriends she’s had, I’d put her easily in the 40+ range. I’ve always been able to bring her to orgasm, but in the past felt that she could easily take more size than I had to offer.

Anyway, I’ve known her for years but she finally decided to volunteer her first direct comment about the size of Lil JP after or last hook up: “.You know JP, you really are right at the limit of what I can take.” She then went on to say that I’m bigger than the vast majority of guys she’s encountered, and even mentioned that she refused to have sex with the last guy she came across that was bigger because she knew it would hurt too much.

I was pretty shocked to be honest and it made me really think. I’ve grown to really enjoy PE, so I don’t really want to stop, but maybe I’ll start toning down the intensity a bit, and just focus more on stamina and such.

Great thread.

How can you say that in light of all the comments that’s been made in this thread?

I’d dare to say that with that size you will run into TROUBLE with most girls if what you desire is a NORMAL sex life.

To me, it seems like the 7,5 * 5,5 is more like it.

My comment came from a place of ego. In reality there will be women who will find it difficult to accommodate that size.

Is your 7.5 BPEL or NBPEL?

Great answer, everything you said.

Look at my photos OP, I am the most HUGE motherfucker in the world? Off course not! And I am not even near that. But I have problems. So you can have the perfect size and still there will be someone bigger than you.

You want a penis to brag yourself or for sex?

My natural size was just a bit less than what I possess now. Currently at 8.62 x 6.5 inches which is just under 29 cubic inches volume. In my life I have been with 11 women. Only one refused to be penetrated. The others enjoyed my size.

Both of my wives enjoyed it very regularly, too. We had sex nearly every day, sometimes several times a day,, especially on weekends. I do not recall any complaints of soreness or pain I always took my time for total penetration, and used the necessary lubrication. That is except the second woman to whom I was married. She would lubricate very well with foreplay. I found that to be very exciting.

I swear quantum physics is less confusing than women and dick size. :p

I would say when you exceed the size YOU want and are wishing you had less size.

The fact that a girl even refused to be penetrated should tell you something.

Let’s take length first.

Are you able to go balls deep in every position with that length or do you need to be extra careful not to go too deep and in general have maybe 1-1 1/2 extra inch of length out in the cold?

If so, what’s the use of that extra length?

Personally, I’m just over 7” BPEL and I’ve had girls I could not go balls deep with, although most can take it. The last girl I was with complained of some pain afterwards because I had fucked her so deep, but she did enjoy it. Since I like going balls deep and not having to calculate the depth of each trust in order to not hurt my partner, I don’t see why I would ever go over 7,5” BPEL. In fact, I’m probably pushing it already. But that’s my personal preference.

Now to girth…

Beyond a certain girth, I’m pretty confident that you will start to get diminishing returns. I’m at 5,0” now and am shooting for 5,5”. I will revisit my goal there though. From what I’m reading from others, at a certain point, girth will also give you trouble. The girls need more preparation/foreplay, quickies are out of the question, anal is not even a question with most girls and blowjobs get harder.

To me, that seems like reduced sexual pleasure? Why would I want that?

If a girl is not pleased by a 5,5” girth, she can take an operation, start with kegels, find someone else or simply go fuck herself. Not interested. :)

That’s why I think that a penis beyond 8X6” or even at that size will be “counter-productive”. Of course it all depends on your own personal goals and your partner. If it’s an ego thing and you simply want to be a beast, then go ahead, but if the goal is to maximize your sex life and have a size that most women will LOVE, the 7,5 X 5,5 seems like a good goal. :)

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The fact that a girl even refused to be penetrated should tell you something.

Let’s take length first.

Are you able to go balls deep in every position with that length or do you need to be extra careful not to go too deep and in general have maybe 1-1 1/2 extra inch of length out in the cold?

All of the others were able to take me full length. Of course there was much foreplay as I have always enjoyed that very much. I also took full insertion slowly, allowing each to accommodate to my size. I am not aware of having difficulty in any position with any of them. That is something I learned very early on. Anal was never an option as I had no desire for that.

In addition to my girth, my glans is larger that the door knobs on the doors in my house. It is just over 2.25 inches across.

Now to girth…

Beyond a certain girth, I’m pretty confident that you will start to get diminishing returns. I’m at 5,0” now and am shooting for 5,5”. I will revisit my goal there though. From what I’m reading from others, at a certain point, girth will also give you trouble. The girls need more preparation/foreplay, quickies are out of the question, anal is not even a question with most girls and blowjobs get harder.

To me, that seems like reduced sexual pleasure? Why would I want that?

If a girl is not pleased by a 5,5” girth, she can take an operation, start with kegels, find someone else or simply go fuck herself. Not interested. :)

That’s why I think that a penis beyond 8X6” or even at that size will be “counter-productive”. Of course it all depends on your own personal goals and your partner. If it’s an ego thing and you simply want to be a beast, then go ahead, but if the goal is to maximize your sex life and have a size that most women will LOVE, the 7,5 X 5,5 seems like a good goal. :)
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My girth mid-shaft is just under the girth of my wrist. As I mentioned previously, I never had any problems because of girth. In fact I remember several commenting that it was quite pleasurable to feel the stretch which resulted upon penetration. The girl who refused was in her late teens and at the time I was 22. She was a Puerto Rican girl in San Juan. I was in the Nave at the time. Shipmates had spied on me at the time. I was totally unaware of it at the time. I did not find out until the next day back on ship. There were many who made comments of what had been reported to them

There was one shipmate a couple years younger than me. He came on to me rather heavily. It somewhat scared me at the time. It was shortly after an on shore pass at me that I was transferred to a ship at Gitmo. I was much relieved at the time..

There was another girl in San Juan who was after me everytime she saw my in the bars in Old San Juan.