Back after a long lay off.

Good day guys.
I use to do PE religiously in the past, but my wife asked me to stop because I’m getting too big and I’m starting to hurt her, so I stopped, but I’m back now. No, I’m not back because I lost gains. In fact, unless I’m mistaken, I might actually have gained some girth (don’t ask me how though) and maybe a little length. I don’t want to measure because I don’t want to get discouraged. I will measure once I think I might have gained. Besides, I never measure girth. Only length.

I’ve started with manuals. Warm up until ligs are nice and rubbery, then I start my stretches with constant heat and then jelq and finish off with a nice edging session and warm down with a bath. Its a routine that has worked well for me in the past and I’ve seen great results with it so I will continue with that, only adding to the time I stretch or the amount of jelq’s I do. I might do a few squeezes if I feel start to see something. But I’m not too interested in gaining girth. I first want to work on my length. I gain girth easily enough.

Any advice on what to try for faster results would be really appreciated. I gain really fast so if you have theories I can test them out for you. I have a condition where all my ligaments stretch easily and I can dislocate all my limbs without pain. And that the reason for my crazy gains. Its a blessing and curse I guess. So please. Throw some ideas my way. I’m aiming for 9 inches for now. So not too long to go.

And if you’re wondering what about my wife, well, we don’t have sex life any more because she has some serious medical conditions. So no sex, no say on what I do with my member. Plus I have to take my sexual frustration out on something. And since I can’t take it out on her, and taking it out on my french friend (female friend) would be cheating although she is seriously hot, I’ll take it out on PE.

I have to say. The support I have gotten from you guys are amazing. Thank you to everyone with your support. It really means a lot.

Well I know I try, whenever I can, to support everyone here. I’m sad your sex life has taken a turn for the…nonexistent but PE goals to at least keep the idea interesting do matter.

I hope it goes better for you, also. Not sure what else to say, as I don’t know the nature of your wife’s condition and don’t want to offer insincere or impossible consolations.

Thank thoughtfulgold. There’s so many where do I begin. She has blood clots from her pelvis to her knee and smaller blood clots in other areas. She has cysts on both ovaries with the one on her left being rather big, and the dr basically said she should undergo a hysterectomy. She has a cracked vertebrae in her lower back. Her white blood cell count is very low and she basically has no immune system. That led to a simple sinusitis to go over to bronchitis. The dr is really struggling to get her white blood cell count up. She has a high infection rate which means she had yeast infection and other infections causing lymph node in her body, and to a greater degree her vagina, to swell and become painful. Her one sinus channel has grown closed because of recurring sinusitis and now she has to undergo an operation to open it back up before it eats away at her eye socket. There are a few minor things I’m forgetting here but you get the picture.

Yea with the PE I want to see how big I can go. My short term goal is 9 inches BPEL. So focusing on that for now.

I hope that you can resolve those things, in a timely fashion. A friend of mine has PCOS and cysts on her ovaries and some other health issues but not as extensive as your wife’s. So I have some dim idea how it can be.

You’re a good man to stand by her. This is the kind of thing a good man does and you ought to know that.

The goal is a nice one. It’s interesting to reach. And you certainly can reach it.

Thanks again. Yea its a long journey to recovery. I don’t think she will ever be the same. (When I married her our sex life was very good. She even encouraged my PE because it made our sex life better). So it all takes time. Hopefully she comes out of hospital after the weekend. We had some encouraging news over the weekend. So I will keep all of you updated.

As for my PE, she says I’m too big already and wants me to stop, but I can’t. I’m addicted to the gains. And addicted to the work. So I will just stealth in ninja style. Its going to be months before we do anything sexually, so I will let you guys know about her reaction if we have sex again. I gain rather fast so a few months make a big difference.

Hysterectomy and sexual wellbeing: prospective observational study of vaginal hysterectomy, subtotal abdominal hysterectomy, and total abdominal hysterectomy - PMC

Thanks Buckfever. It gives hope, but there are more things laying on our minds than the hysterectomy.

Well, I just got news that my wife is coming home today. So that’s good news. But we still have a long way to go to recovery, so I will keep all of you updated. Thanks for the support guys. It really means a lot.

An update for those following the post. My wife is home, but still not 100%. Life without sex is very tough. We went to see a counselor last night. Had a good talk about things. Not just because of the no sex, but other things have also came up. So our relationship is really not in a good place at this stage but we are working on it.

With the PE, things are going well. I can feel I have gained. Its way more “meaty” if that makes sense. Still haven’t measured, but I can feel there’s a difference for the better. Hop to reach my goal before the end of the year. Enjoy the weekend guys.

Guys, I have a question for you. Has anybody heard of soul ties? I’m asking because this came up at the counselor and is apparently a huge reason for the problems we are facing. So let me know.

Yes I’ve heard of them. Some do and don’t believe in them.

I think the idea there is that the basis for the attachment is sexual and that either interferes with the nature of the relationship or it keeps people in a relationship that is unhealthy because of that attachment. Something like that.

I don’t know about soul ties. To me it doesn’t make sense.

I’ll say this though, no sex is hard. I’m sorry you’re going through that battle. To be honest though it sounds like your wife is having a harder time than just no sex.

It boils down to choice. You either choose to work towards selflessness or you l work towards selfishness. We all do a but of both. It takes active, hard work to overcome ourselves. Especially men, when it comes to sex. Ideally your wife would be keeping that in check, but she’s sick. I mean she could give a hand job I guess but gas to be willing and with all her ailments that might be asking a lot.

Just my opinion, but some people are more compatible than others, yet ultimately we make decisions which either bring us closer together or force us further apart. Arranged marriage was the norm for a very long time. Some of those led to love and contentment, others not. A lot of that I’m sure had to do with the way they treated each other.

I’ll echo what TG said, you’re doing a good thing sticking by her. I’m sure that’s what you’d want were to tables flipped. I hope you find the strength to stand by her in her time of need. I know its hard.

Dear Pleasingthewife

I live with my Madame who has a chronicle and progressing joint disease since we moved together 23 years ago. Our sexual life, which was pretty intense in the first years, came down to a “near nothing” state (maybe once or twice… per year) that is steady… for something like the last 15-17 years. I do struggle quite a lot since then what to do with my own sexuality as her libido is below the freezing point.

Fortunately, I have two good hands and she not only accepts but loves when I make love to myself, especially when we are close together. She still loves my body, and we have a lot of physical contact and tenderness. Just her urge for sex isn’t there. But love, oh my God, love there is even more than both of us could ever have imagined.

Now what is the hardest part for me? Simply the fact to not be desired. This scratches my male ego. I have my ups and downs on that feeling. I had my escapades with other women and as she’s the very jealous type I am quiet about it because she suffers enough from her medical situation. Is there a solution in sight? No! Is there despair? No, not really either.

The base of our relationship is love. And we can talk about all the rest. That is what I would call a soul bond. For example she knows about and supports my PE career. Because she knows it makes me feel more manly.

Can I really give advice? I am not sure. The only thing I know is that your relationship will evolve into what you want it to be. Both of you.

So the unique key is communication.