I'm in a dilemna involving negative PIs and a girl

Mods/Admins, please move this to the according forum. Since I have less than 30 post I can only post this in the Newbie forum.

A month ago, I started PEing on the Newbie Routine. And in my 2nd week of PEing, I had one day where I did 300 Jelqs and as a result had a Negative PI after that (I made a post about it What to do about negative PIs ) Anyways, I was told to rest a few weeks before I start PEing again, it’s been 3 weeks, and my PI is Negative as ever (next paragraph explains why this might be), I don’t wake up with a boner anymore, that’s just the beginning of my issue.

A week ago I reconnected (via facebook) with a female that I used to work with about 8 years ago. Back then, we were just co-workers but we always was close, I had a physical attraction to her but I don’t think she did with me. Anyway, she saw my pics on facebook and commented on how sexy I looked and how grown up I look now. So we get to texting sexual messages one night and talking about when we can meet for a little one night stand and one thing led to another she asked me for my "pic". Now I’ve aways been self conscious with my unit size, being 6 EL and 4.5 EG. : ( I sent the pic anyway and I guess she was turned off by it. We both said good night via text and she hasnt really hit me up since with the exception of an awkward "hey". Anyway, I thought to myself that this was going to be a one night stand only, so I don’t even care that I don’t get to do her. Fast forward to the next chick.

This chick I’ve known for all but 2 weeks. We went on a few dates and I go to her house. And of course one thing leads to another and we start having sex. But I can only keep it up for a good 10 minutes and I couldn’t finish. This is the first time in my 25 years that this happened to me, and she’s giving me a chance to redeem myself this coming week since she likes me a lot. I am still waking up flaccid and I need to get in shape before next week. I think the fact that the first girl’s reaction (or non reaction) to my unit pic, along with my already negative PI from PEing, has been fucking with my mind lately. I need to really redeem myself with the second chick (forget the first chick) but I need to get a boner!! I’m not the best at writing so hopefully I didn’t lost any of you. I kinda just needed to vent along with seeking for advice on how to get my positive PI back. I used to have a HUGE sex drive but since PEing and the situation with the first chick I’ve been feeling unconfident sexually. I appreciate any advice or similar stories you guys can share. This is important to me.

The good thing here is that it’s all in your mind and not some physical damage. If I were you I’d get some Viagra or cialis just for this one time with this new chick, untill time takes care of your anxiety. And trust me, all it is its anxiety, and you will beat it with time.

Is Viagra an over the counter drug? I don’t even know where to get it. I want to try to overcome this without that too.

No its not an over the counter drug, but I’m sure you can get your hands on it if you tried. When are you seein this girl again?

She wanna see me ASAP!! LOL

Bro, you either have to get your confidence back or get a damn Viagra. Like I said, with the big V you can at least make up for your short comings (pun intended) from last time. This way you can at least leave a good impression on her while you try to regain your confidence. And I have a feeling that your confidence will increase once you put on a show for her while on the V because you will realise what your potential realy is.

This site is full of information about supplements that increase EQ. Just do a search. I also suggest no masturbation and hot wraps. It doesn’t sound like you have any sort of physical damage.

Are your really nervous when sleeping with this girl or is there a situation where someone can walk on you? The first time I “almost” got laid in high school, I had an older girlfriend that worked in a swimming pool in my apartment. We started to fool around in the Ladies Sana after closing time. One thing led to another and I had a rock hard erection. I heard the security guard from our building walk around while I was making out with her and my erection died. No amount of blow jobs got up again that night because of how nervous I was. LOL

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Go to head or herbal shop, they’ve got lots of supplements that should sort you out fine.

I’m not convinced your ‘injury’ is entirely in your head, can you describe the symptoms?

Well, my unit, with the exception of being flaccid, is fine. I know my problem is mental, because when the first girl sent me her pics, I was hard as a rock! But with the second girl, she was all over me and I couldn’t get hard!

Were you stimulating yourself when you were making those pics?

It does sound like anxiety :)

Thunder’s member Yataghan50 has a great blog about treating retarded ejaculation. That is not your problem of course, but he has a great section on PERFORMANCE AnXIETY, which might be helpful:

The next issue is performance anxiety. I always had issues with being ‘the best’. I’d rather avoid sex than be known as someone who was sexually incompetent. This was a vicious cycle, because going through a phase of sexual incompetence is a necessary step in becoming sexually confident. At 17, when I tried to have sex for the first time I didn’t actually lose my virginity - I was so nervous I didn’t erect. I was humiliated. I didn’t try again until I was 18. At this point, I was so focused on pleasing the woman, and not letting myself down, my own pleasure became completely irrelevant. I didn’t have sex for pleasure, but for experience. Just so I didn’t feel like a chump. I found that the motions were enough to keep me erect, but never did I feel close to orgasm, never did I enter that state of mind. In fact, since I was so wrapped up in my own performance and had underlying anxiety, there was no way I could reach orgasm in a mutual sexual situation - even with my own hand.

Since learning to cum from the fleshlight, and subsequently with women I now go into sex with orgasm in mind…as any normal person would :) . I’m selfish. I don’t mind if I don’t conform to the unrealistic standards I set for myself. I just do whatever feels good. While I had a very strong ego before, and would worry about messing up, now I just aim for pleasure. Which leads on to the next point…

Lack of arousal. This is a tough one. During sex, the motion was enough, even thought it felt awkward, to keep me erect. The penis, however remained numb. This is where a change in attitude comes in. When I’m with a girl, I’m generally thinking about what feels good for me. I don’t mind if massaging her ass during making out may seem poor form. I don’t care if stroking my own penis may seem poor form. It gets me aroused, so I do it. You have to be selfish, simple as that….ad you have to try and get to that ‘false point of no return’

Yeh, I had to get myself hard before taking pics of my dick

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I will read that article in a little bit and post my input. Thanks.

You can’t beat the Viagra, I use it every time i have sex with a girl for the first time. I can manage fine without it but once you’ve popped one you know it’s gonna be fun.

You need to get them prescribed by a doctor or you can buy them online, do a search for “buy Viagra online” on a search engine.

They sometimes take a while to arrive but I’ve never had any problems with em :)

Is there a site you recommend? (Is advertising other sites allowed on this board?)