I've cured my premature ejaculation

Hi all.

I tried Paroxetine for a month and have left it behind as I’ve not had success with it.

Working oversees, I decided to begin taking it a few weeks before returning home to the wife. 10mg dosed each morning. On day 22, I returned home and we had sex. I lasted my usual 2 minutes and was then flat for a while. We both orgasmed at least (thankfully due to good technique and erect size).

It was obviously disappointing as I had my hopes up. I decided to go for a second round after we took a bath and had dinner. Same outcome, except that only I came.

I stayed the course and continued on the 10mg dose but after 3 days of being home, I decided to take a day off from sex. The following day, I took 10mg in the morning, and then another 10mg in the late afternoon, about 4 hours before sex. There was still zero effect at 20mg. After still experiencing no improvement at the 1 month mark, I decided to come off completely since I don’t feel like going any further down the SSRI rabbit hole.

It’s possible that a higher constant daily dose would have given some results after more time, but I have no desire to experiment further and also did not want to reach a point of significant or permanent change to my brain chemistry that makes the condition worse after coming off the drug (or any general undesirable problems for that matter).

I tapered off the drug by taking 5mg for one day, followed by 5mg the next day and then off completely since I experienced no significant change to my mood and none of the described withdrawal effects at all.

Some observations:
1) On day 5 of taking paroxetine, I had quite a harsh spell of confusion and forgetfulness. Thankfully I was not at work. I had no short term memory and couldn’t recall what I was doing and why I was in a room. I couldn’t hold a train of thought at all. I sat in the bathroom saying: “this is bad. This is very bad”. “What’s bad?” “What am I talking about?”. “I can’t afford to get worse”. “OK, get up and just do something”.

It improved slightly over the next few days but notably on paroxetine I can forget my arguments and even the point of what I am saying.

2) After about 2 weeks or less, I noticed less anxiety over things that would generally cause my heart to race. I felt more at ease. I noticed that I could focus on a task much more. I was able to completely study things and watch hours and hours of video tutorials without disturbance. I did not have any problems initiating tasks at all. I felt more disciplined in managing myself, my apartment, my work tasks, etc. I increased gym visits from twice weekly to 4 times weekly in those three weeks before flying home.

3) Very interestingly, my appetite also disappeared. I was not hungry all day. I didn’t feel the need to order junk food and I instead bought healthy groceries and cooked. I didn’t even finish all my groceries before flying home. I had to force myself to eat for bodybuilding sake.

4) I was much more tolerant of my wife. She’s very rude/obnoxious/self-centred/uncaring/inconsiderate (we got married after I broke up with her because she turned out to be pregnant with our daughter).but don’t feel sorry for me.. We make our choices. Anyway, we did very well for that week that I returned home. Sex was daily and we were happy. However, the day I started to taper off the medication, the relationship fell apart again. I’ve decided to divorce. Will be looking into that this week.

5) for the past year, I have been performing like a porn-star because I use a bit of 5% lidocaine numbing cream on the glans. Going back to it during the last week on paroxetine was like gold again. I simply tried the SSRI in the hope that it would restore the ability to be spontaneous with sex like my 20’s were. So no real loss for me.

For those interested: I buy a very small 5g tube and keep it in my pants pocket at night. Before initiating sex, I go to the bathroom or anywhere I can get about 30 seconds of privacy to put some cream on. After 5 minutes, I then go “pee” or “gargle” or whatever I need to do in the bathroom while I wipe off the cream. I get a solid 20-30 minutes of hard pounding before I orgasm.
Just DO NOT overdo the amount of cream or apply it to the rest of the penis otherwise you may have trouble becoming erect or you’ll be too numb to maintain an erection. For those of you using condoms, It’s as easy as applying the cream/or even a spray and then putting on the condom without worrying about having to wipe it off to prevent numbing your partner.

All the best and thanks to everyone who’s experimented on themselves so far and shared their experiences here for all.