I've cured my premature ejaculation

Hi all.

I tried Paroxetine for a month and have left it behind as I’ve not had success with it.

Working oversees, I decided to begin taking it a few weeks before returning home to the wife. 10mg dosed each morning. On day 22, I returned home and we had sex. I lasted my usual 2 minutes and was then flat for a while. We both orgasmed at least (thankfully due to good technique and erect size).

It was obviously disappointing as I had my hopes up. I decided to go for a second round after we took a bath and had dinner. Same outcome, except that only I came.

I stayed the course and continued on the 10mg dose but after 3 days of being home, I decided to take a day off from sex. The following day, I took 10mg in the morning, and then another 10mg in the late afternoon, about 4 hours before sex. There was still zero effect at 20mg. After still experiencing no improvement at the 1 month mark, I decided to come off completely since I don’t feel like going any further down the SSRI rabbit hole.

It’s possible that a higher constant daily dose would have given some results after more time, but I have no desire to experiment further and also did not want to reach a point of significant or permanent change to my brain chemistry that makes the condition worse after coming off the drug (or any general undesirable problems for that matter).

I tapered off the drug by taking 5mg for one day, followed by 5mg the next day and then off completely since I experienced no significant change to my mood and none of the described withdrawal effects at all.

Some observations:
1) On day 5 of taking paroxetine, I had quite a harsh spell of confusion and forgetfulness. Thankfully I was not at work. I had no short term memory and couldn’t recall what I was doing and why I was in a room. I couldn’t hold a train of thought at all. I sat in the bathroom saying: “this is bad. This is very bad”. “What’s bad?” “What am I talking about?”. “I can’t afford to get worse”. “OK, get up and just do something”.

It improved slightly over the next few days but notably on paroxetine I can forget my arguments and even the point of what I am saying.

2) After about 2 weeks or less, I noticed less anxiety over things that would generally cause my heart to race. I felt more at ease. I noticed that I could focus on a task much more. I was able to completely study things and watch hours and hours of video tutorials without disturbance. I did not have any problems initiating tasks at all. I felt more disciplined in managing myself, my apartment, my work tasks, etc. I increased gym visits from twice weekly to 4 times weekly in those three weeks before flying home.

3) Very interestingly, my appetite also disappeared. I was not hungry all day. I didn’t feel the need to order junk food and I instead bought healthy groceries and cooked. I didn’t even finish all my groceries before flying home. I had to force myself to eat for bodybuilding sake.

4) I was much more tolerant of my wife. She’s very rude/obnoxious/self-centred/uncaring/inconsiderate (we got married after I broke up with her because she turned out to be pregnant with our daughter).but don’t feel sorry for me.. We make our choices. Anyway, we did very well for that week that I returned home. Sex was daily and we were happy. However, the day I started to taper off the medication, the relationship fell apart again. I’ve decided to divorce. Will be looking into that this week.

5) for the past year, I have been performing like a porn-star because I use a bit of 5% lidocaine numbing cream on the glans. Going back to it during the last week on paroxetine was like gold again. I simply tried the SSRI in the hope that it would restore the ability to be spontaneous with sex like my 20’s were. So no real loss for me.

For those interested: I buy a very small 5g tube and keep it in my pants pocket at night. Before initiating sex, I go to the bathroom or anywhere I can get about 30 seconds of privacy to put some cream on. After 5 minutes, I then go “pee” or “gargle” or whatever I need to do in the bathroom while I wipe off the cream. I get a solid 20-30 minutes of hard pounding before I orgasm.
Just DO NOT overdo the amount of cream or apply it to the rest of the penis otherwise you may have trouble becoming erect or you’ll be too numb to maintain an erection. For those of you using condoms, It’s as easy as applying the cream/or even a spray and then putting on the condom without worrying about having to wipe it off to prevent numbing your partner.

All the best and thanks to everyone who’s experimented on themselves so far and shared their experiences here for all.

I use hims for my cialos and now just prescribed sertraline for PE.

Ever since my wife had her episode 2 years ago ive really struggled with our intermittant sex life.

Before that we had sex about 3 times a week and I had conditioned myself for years to not pop for at least 15 minutes.

Since we now have sex about 3 times a month Im so horny I barely thrust and pop. Ive tried to hide it by eating her pussy to almost orgasim and then fucking her and she cums almost immediately. but not much pleasure for me. After reading this entire thread I did something about it.

If results mimic others I may be able to pump away again like we used to.

I think maybe she misses me rutting her hard and deep for 10 min straight.

Keep you posted when I get started. I should have them in a few days.

I also have a prescription for Setraline through Hims also. I think it’s over a year old and I still have a good many left. I also have sex on average 3x a month.
I stopped taking them cause I could go for hours. Even half a tablet most of the time, and I can’t orgasm.
I would recommend starting out at half tablet.

Its 50.mg, but i wanna start at.25 mg.

I dont think this low dose will effect libido but am.a little.concerned about potential weight gain. Although ive read its for weight loss, so ill have to see.

I really cant wait to thrust and not wanna come.for 15.or so minutes again.

My base girth is now about 6.25 and I so badly wanna thrust deep and hard for her to feel the total deal now.

Also, after her episode Ive been a bit anxitous as well. I think this lpw dose may be a good thing.

Did u ever have decreased libido? Ive read where mamy have a better libido and can come a few.times.in a row and stay hard.

Never noticed it affecting libido, either way.
You can also try cock ring around balls and shaft. When I want to go long, that’s what I’ve been doing.
Plus you get a little extra girth.

Thanks LFG

Any weight gain?

For me no weight gain No side effects.Just being able to fuck for for hours. So much so, she wears out before I can get there.which truly doesn’t bother me. But, she hates it. Thus, I rarely take it anymore.

Jeez. I pick up my script tom.

How long did it take to kick in? 1 day, 2 weeks?

Started off 25mg today for the next 7 days then 50mg daily.

Feels like I can get erct much easier. Coincidence?

I just took 1 about 6-8 hours before sex.

It feels like im much easier aroused.

I researched and hypersexuality can be a side effect.

I havent had erectiin pop up like this from thought since I was 18.

Im assuming My stress anxierty etc. Was a factor and I hadnt even realized it.

Also, i ran 2 miles yesterday like it was a stroll. Wtf

Havent felt this motivated in years.

Ok.

This is day 2 of 50 mg sertraline.

Not sure why but my wife cant stop touching me, fucking weird.

So she said to me a few minutes ago, go upstairs, I want.to fuck you.

Seriously, she wants to be on top and grinds away like she hasnt done in years and my dick is rock hard. She fucked me as hard and deep as she wanted for over 10 minutes. I could have kept going but she whispers in My ear, come with me. That almost did it. Then after she came, i turn her over and jackhammered that pussy doggystyle for a fww more minutes suoer fast and hard as a mother fucker. Then I came.

I love this.

Follow up.

Im more mellow and I really believe since I read how somehow seratonin has an effect on the erection/arousal process that most if not all my slight ed issues were brain/psychological.

Its so fucking amazing to see your wife almost stop because she knew I typically would want to come after a.few deep thrusts from her. But then seem pleasantly suprised that she can keep at it.
Maybe she will seem to feel more fulfilled sexually now. Even though I can make her come maybe she had been missing the effort of extended stimulatiin or just plain aggressive release.

I wasnt always this way, but after covid something shifted in me.

I think PE, sertraline and trt has really turned my life around.

I hope this continues. Ill post if she still stays oddly frisky.

New vibe off me? Who cares.

Also, I have a watch that tracks.my sleep. I had triple the time in REM sleep last night.

I did find an article that supports this phenomenon as well, when using sertraline.