Originally Posted by kfarrelldba
So what exactly is your problem? You said you only last for a few seconds of thrusting? Is that it?
Yes, after contact with my erect penis I feel the orgasmic sensations around the skin of my penis, and the cum comes out.
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All I can say is that since I started doing the kegel holds, to the point where my prostrate is spasoming, and with the use of the aneros, it’s transformed sex for me.
But I’ve never had a problem with holding out. I have to MAKE myself cum.
If you’ve never had a problem holding out then what was your problem? Isn’t this thread about premature ejaculation?
Originally Posted by kfarrelldba
No, it’s a different muscle group. With practice you can differentiate between the anal spincter muscles and the PC muscles. Here’s how I learned to distinguish between the two muscles. I’m not saying this will help you. It sounds like you’ve got an extreme case of Pre mature ejaculation if I’m reading your posts correctly.
I would call it extreme, yes, from observing others though, since this state of penis is all I have ever known so it’s normal for me. I can’t comprehend how long I see regular people last in homemade sex videos.
What I don’t understand mainly is: How does it feel to have the soft tissue slide up and down the skin of your penis if it doesn’t make you ejaculate? Do you feel anything? With mine it’s like this: nice, NICE, NICE. Do yours just stay at the first nice?
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Have you tried St. Johns wort and 5-htp? These are natural supplements and have the same effect as SSRI’s for me. That is instead of taking 1 hour to finish it takes me 2.
On SSRI I came just as fast when I was fully hard, the only thing it delayed is how fast it took me to get hard. So I had both severe ED and severe PE.
Originally Posted by Nevod
What we lack here is the distinction between neural triggers and muscles themselves.
People with PE have overgrown pathways linking stimulation to ejaculation, people with retarded ejaculation have too weak pathways, so stimulation does not result in BC spasms.
If one with overgrown pathways will practice Kegels too eagerly, he would intensify his PE, as muscles are still triggered, but they’ve grown stronger so that same level of control signal results in more reaction, while for those with retarded or at least normal ejaculation, kegels do only benefits.There has recently been a thread on PE, which told about de-triggering. If you have serious PE problems, don’t kegel till you cure it at least partially. Also, you have not to hold piss or shit for too long, as it also results in PC-BC muscle triggering. Try to always relax your pelvic area, as having too much tension there is a common problem. Yet, you can practice reverse kegels.
The real detriggering is done by stimulation without ejaculation - masturbate for long, try to find out what throws you near PONR and attack that trigger - stimulate it, and when you’re near the PONR, stop altogether. Repeat, repeat, repeat. Actually, aneros is super useful for that - as it allows you to directly stimulate the prostate and, by not ejaculating, de-trigger it (prostate trigger is hard to disable by masturbation, as it’s triggered mostly by thrusting movements).
I’ve done that since I was 13 or 14. I ‘edged’ and played with the PONR years and years before I knew what these terms were.
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Now, on topic. When I do kegels, there are 2 quite distinct ways of doing it - one seems to be BC-PC one - when contraction is felt below internal penis shaft all the way to the anus, and other - probably IC-BC one - is when tug is felt right abore penis at the base, plus some contraction behind the balls. Outside, they look the same, penis retracts 3-4 mm into the body in either case, but the feeling is clearly different. It’s not so easy to control which one you’re doing for the first time, but in just a few days you’ll be able to pick one of the ways without problem. However, after a few kegels, I could do only the first one, as IC muscle seem to get tired easily. Wait a few seconds, and you have proper control again. I always watch so that I do IC-BC kegels, not BC-PC. It’s somewhat harder to do, IC tires quickly and starts to stutter after a few long kegels, but it has to be trained. I kegel for about 20 minutes twice a day during driving to and from work. That’s about 150 short kegels, 30-40 long ones, they take 15 minutes, and 150 long ones again. I also do short ones in between long ones when I feel that muscles are overloaded.Third, over-topic. We can kegel more or less intensively, and for longer or shorter time. But there’s a limit to the load produced that way, no way to grow the IC and BC supercharged. Erect kegels push it a little further, but still there’s a limit. I’ve been thinking of weighted kegels, both flaccid and erect. Hang a small weight on a flaccid penis and kegel, for former one, and put a weight ( say, a wet towel) on erect penis and kegel for the second one. Is it possible to get these muscles stronger that way?
Like the quote below I’ve done kegels for months and they didn’t help. I can’t isolate this muscle and I haven’t found any info that has got me to isolating or locating it. And forgive me but I’m skeptical that you can. Can you forcefully push out (I mean opposite of tense) your anus and simultaneously forcefully tense the IC muscle?
Originally Posted by Flashpoint
I am with everyone else on here that doesn’t have a clue how to do this. Been doing 400 kegels a day for the past 2 weeks with no difference in performance. I just did some kegels to figure this muscle out, but as always my ass muscle goes along with the dick muscle. Now if I really focus I can work the dick muscle with little movement from the ass muscle, so am I doing this correctly? Also, if I put my finger in the area between my ass and balls I can feel this muscle working, so is this the muscle that I want to focus on to control ejaculation?
The key phrase here is ‘little movement’. Are you really focusing on the dick muscle or are you just using less pressure/tension overall and subsequently the whole area has ‘less tension’ but you have wishful thinking and focus on the ‘ass muscle’ being less tense rather than the ‘dick muscle’, which is just as loose? For me I thought the former for a while then realized it was the latter.