Lost interest in BJ, advice needed!

Hey guys, I need some advice quite desperately. Last night my girl and I were fooling around and she went down on me for the first time. I’d been drinking a bit, and also didn’t want to lose out on the fun too quick, so I tried to keep my mind off it. She was going slow at first…and then all of a sudden it was like *snap* I was out of the mood and she noticed, and got super sad and just disappointed in herself thinking she was bad at it. The thing was though that she wasn’t, like she was doing well, but actually was really torn about her not being able to finish it off really. I told her it wasn’t her, it was probably the situation or she was taking too long to speed it up, but that barely seemed to do anything. Now I’m worried she may never try again, or it’ll be a long time until she does. Any advice guys? Similar experiences (doubtful lol) and advice thusly?

Thanks, because this is just f*d up since I’m actually feeling bad about it.

All I can say is don’t try to hold off on going over the edge next time. My fiance’ actually thinks it’s a sign of success if she sends me over the edge quickly via BJ/HJ. I’d probably just tell her you were intentionally trying to delay because you were enjoying the quality of her work so much and that the alcohol combined with that to cause you to start to lose it and the shock of losing the erection freaked you out. Sort of like the guy who has trouble getting it up because he’s fixated on the fact he didn’t get it up once before.

Just prime your pump a bit so you know you don’t have a mental block or anything and then do what most men do. Beg. A lot.

But yeah, that just sucks (no pun intended).

It was the beer dude give your self a break it happens to the best of us and stop drinking that estrogenic shit. Drink purple hooters instead,hehehehe.

Haha, thanks for the advice guys. I had the opportunity of talking it out with her a bit, and things seem ok. But she’s still quite unhappy. Bah…that’s life I guess. And yeah, it doesn’t quite suck, nor does it quite blow, it’s just crap. haha.

Take some pressure off both of you. Just enjoy the blowjob next time - that’s what they’re for.

Transition , man , it is all about the segue !

Even if you do lose interest in having your dick sucked ( not a problem with me , personally ) , if you are with someone you care about , you need to sift gears gently !

Think up something , like , ” let me return the favor for a while ” , or ” You are so beautiful , I really want to kiss you now ! ”

When someone is doing something for the first time , you really cannot be too supportive of them , if you want them to continue .

But , given your current situation , you might want to tell her that there is something that has really been bothering you a lot lately ( be creative here ) , and that it comes to mind at the most awkward times ( say , like when she sucks your dick ) , and that you really would like to talk about it with someone , and that she is the only one you know that you trust talking about it with .

Chicks eat that sort of thing up , and always want to talk about feelings .

Worth a shot .

Maybe you can tell her you worry that your dick is too small ?

Haha that’s not a bad idea. We’re good now…she’s working up the courage again, and hopefully tomorrow I’ll get some head. Otherwise I’ll do the return the favour for a bit thing, or just 69 haha.

As for the size thing, had that convo. She thinks I’m slightly above average…poor me losing 1” of my dick to fat pad :S

Another vote for "Just Let Go!"

Don’t try to delay it. (And by the way, if you haven’t told her that’s what happened the other night, you ought to).

Just enjoy the moment and let her enjoy giving you pleasure.

As for the size thing you are definitely above average, so I wouldn’t worry about that.

Do some research == you will find that in the penis size research only about 1% of men are between 7.25" to 7.50"

The average erect penis is more like 5.8" per the research I have seen.

An amusing website that goes over some of the research — he isn’t selling anything, just trying to set out the facts:

http://www.mrav … com/results.htm

I did this myself the other night with a girl.. I mentally screwed myself out of it and she was upset she couldn’t get me off.. =(

What’s a BJ? My missus hates doing them :(

Ever heard of rape??

Just kidding!

If I was over-bearing in any way towards acquiring a blow job I am reliably informed that she will bite hard! I know my place ;)

Next time she does do something over emphasize it. Tell her it’s fucking amazing and what not. Give her a moral boost.

Hey that kinda stuff happens all the time dude, no biggie. I had an issue one time where I felt like I was loosing my erection, and because I felt like that I started getting nervous, and in turn lost my erection completely. That wasn’t a fun time at all but I ended up explaining it to her, and the next night we had a much better go around :)