Premature Ejaculation Solutions

Pumpman, did you buy these online? What did you pay for them? Let us know how they work for you.I’m curious to know as sometimes my triggers alittle to quick.

Let us know how you get on with that Pumpman.

Good Luck :up:

News on the new drug for treating prem ejac, from Johnson & Johnson here

I have edged and masturbated since my teenage years and I think this process made me learn when I am about to come. So when I masturbate (or clamp) I can feel this “heat wave” coming up in my brain and I just relax for a few seconds until it subsides and continue.

Yesterday night I slept with my gf for more than an hour. It was great sex. However, every time I was getting faster and about to come I paused and relaxed for a few seconds until the “heat wave” was gone. Finally, after an hour I came on her beautiful body and breasts and believe me, I shot like six or seven times, it was just really messy and I can certainly compete with Peter North-like porn stars :) I am sure every time you feel an orgasm approaching and wait until it subsides more and more sperm is somehow “collected” and ready to be delivered to your target ;)

After I had come I asked her if she had come, as well. She said “No, it was really, really great, and every time you went faster I was about to come, but then you slowed down again and my orgasm slowly subsided.”.

Damn! I really want to make her cum during intercourse!! That’s my problem right now: Is there some kind of ejaculation control, so I can keep going hard and fast without cumming and the need to slow down ? Is the reverse kegel going to help in this situation ?

Thanks!

Maverick

You need to kegel and strengthen your PC(BC) muscles. Search for PC muscles or multiple orgasms and I’m sure you’ll find many helpful threads. When you have your first “dry orgasm” you will usually retain atleast 80% of your erection if you time the PC squeeze at the right time. Immedeately after the dry orgasm, you will be less sensitive and you can easily thrust hard and fast for a couple of minutes. This will be great for your partner and also for you to regain back your full 100% erection. Hope that helps.
Cheers

One of the difficulties of any “training” method to overcome premature ejaculation is the difference between the training method (often masturbation) and the Main Event, intercourse.

Masturbation and edging during it can be a terrific training process. You gradually learn to recognize intimately your own various stages of arrousal and your own point of inevitability of ejaculation and what to do while masturbating to avoid that happening.

However when you are fucking, in that hot, delicious, moist environment, and your partner is making various and very stimulating, bodily counter-movements to your own, the lasting game is entirely different. The total control you had during masturbation is gone and you get tipped over the edge in spite of your trained ability to last a very long time at masturbation.

Men with premature ejaculation who also have at least one steady sex partner have an advantage over guys with no constant partner.

It is a fact that relatively few couples spend very much time talking together about the sex they have, beyond the cliché, “Was that good for you?” It is very important that men with premature ejaculation establish ongoing sexual communication with their partners and enlist the help of the partner in overcoming the PE problem.

Women usually reach orgasm slower than men do; the majority of women don’t even get there without some kind of direct stimulation or through oral sex. So, you are not only dealing with your own too speedy arrival at ejaculation but your need to satisfy your partner, but this does not need to be an insoluable dilemma.

Talk more about coming fast and talk together. Generally speaking, women love a challenge and love to help the men they care for. If the two of you can work out a system of either verbal or or ideally body-language signals while you are fucking which tell each other exactly where you are on the arrousal graph, teaching her to stop everything immediately when you need that to happen and letting her know when its OK to resume whatever, you will have gone a long way toward overcoming your hair-trigger resonses.

The carrot on the stick for her in this cooperative venture is that in the end, regardless of the duration of your intercourse, you are then going to make sure she gets off, too, because through talking you will also have learned how best to make that happen for her.

It is going to be some time before the magic pill we have talked about here comes out on the market. Don’t wait around for it. Do some talking together and work out a game plan together for better sex.

This is an interesting and important twist to the premature ejaculation problem. So thanks for asking the question. I often have the same difficulty, largely for the reason Avocet offers in his thoughtful post above. I’m certain that many other men do as well. Consequently, I don’t have any definitive advice to give to you on the subject. But I did want to make a few suggestions.

First, keep tinkering with the edging and the kegels. In particular, as Avocet suggests, work with these techniques within the context of your sexual relations with your partner or partners, not just when masturbating. Ejaculation control is different in each case, but edging and kegels are proven techniques, so they very well may be able to take you farther than you’ve got already.

Two, a glass or two of wine (or some other spirit) often helps me. I don’t like suggesting this, because I do not drink much myself. But the plain fact is, it works. At least, it works for a number of men. Without any edging or kegeling or other “training,” I couple of drinks has often meant for me the difference between a few minutes and up to an hour or more. But as is obvious, don’t drink too much, or you’ll suffer the reverse problem. Fortunately, my erections stay strong even after a couple of drinks. But I don’t like to rely on alcohol for anything. So this is at best a kind of weekend thing for me.

Three, another chemical suggestion: Some men here use Viagra on an occasional, recreational basis to promote stronger and longer erections. I’ve never tried this myself, but you’ll find a lot of discussions of this use here if you do a search. However, all admonish: This is only for occasional use. It does not appear that the drug itself is very dangerous (barring certain circumstances, as has been in the news recently!). But the men here who use it recreationally point out that it can become psychologically addicting, in the sense that sex without it may come to seem below par and disappointing. (On the chemical front, some men also say that marajuana helps the ejaculation control. But in my experience, this has not been the case.)

Four, you may want to explore different styles and moods of sexual intercourse with your girlfriend(s). The main issue seems to be that she needs it fast to be able to orgasm during intercourse. I have known many women who had acquired the belief that intercourse needed to be fast and hard to be great. This was really the only sort of “good” sex they knew. But to quote another girl I know, “To go fast is good; to go slow is even better.” Slow, emotionally and psychologically deep sex is absolutely fantastic, when it is done right. The women I have known have had much more intense orgasms from this kind of sex. But it requires patience on their part. You often have to “tease” the woman into an orgasm: bring her to the edge, but don’t let her go over; do that again and again, until she is beside herself. Then, almost anything will make her cum. And just like with your edging, when she does cum, it will be rocket-launching! But be careful: Don’t let her turn off because of frustration; you need to keep the intensity up, and in part this requires the appropriate attitude on her part—she needs to learn to appreciate and enjoy this style of sex. The ideal, I suppose, is to incorporate both styles of intercourse.

Thanks guys for the very helpful advice! I really appreciate it.

@Motivated: I guess you are really right regarding the "slow sex" issue. In the past I have been with a girl who enjoyed this intense sensation very much, as well. All the porn out there probably gives us a totally wrong picture about what sexuality can be. It is still very important to me (and probably millions of other men) to find out how an ejaculation is delayed and multiple "dry" orgasms can be achieved. It’s nice (for one’s self esteem) to have a big unit, but it’s no guarantee to be good at making love at all.

So, I did a web search on this topic and found a very good website: http://www.whit elotuseast.com/ … tipleOrgasm.htm
I am sure this is not new to many people here in this forum. Anyways, out of curiosity I tried this last night while I masturbated and I seriously had three "dry" orgasms in a row. This sensation was very different from slowing down and letting the orgasm subside. Afterwards I felt dizzy and as if I was on drugs for some time :) I am sure though that it is very different during real sex, though. I will try this tonight and report here ;)

I am wondering about one thing. On the website I stated above (and on most other web sites about this issue) people talk abnout squeezing (I.e. Contracting) the PC/BC muscle for approx. 10 seconds to avoid an ejaculation. Some people here in the forum, however, say that you can achieve the same thing by doing a "reverse" kegel. Can anyone comment on that ?!

Maybe each of us just has to figure this out on an individual basis !

Ok guys, I just wanted you to let you know that I have been experimenting with this ejaculation control thing, I.e. Contracting the PC/BC muscle real hard for ten seconds everytime I am about to come when I have sex with my gf. Well, what can I say. It’s much more difficult than I though. I am really a little bit disappointed, because it’s so hard to get the timing right. Everytime I squeeze I can hold it for ten seconds, but when I finally let it go, I just *have* to cum :(

This sucks. I guess I have to practice Kegels a little more. Another solution might be to try reverse Kegels.
I have not tried this until now, maybe this works better for me.

Kegelling seems to be a sure fire way to make me cum. It’s the reverse kegel that actually helps during sex.

I personally feel that the benefit of a kegelling regime is simply to gain more control over that muscle, so that you can reverse kegel (ie. not contract) and therefore avoid the contractions that bring orgasm about quicker.

I’m still in the early stages of experimenting myself so my opinion may change.

I took 25 mg of that Clomipramine stuff and 2 hours later I have been seriously dizzy and I had bad swindel.

Maybe it is because I was on antibiotica at the the time (Tetracyclinehydrochlorid) or it is because the Clomipramine was of bad quality, it is produced in India - I dont know, so better be careful.

Anyone here with similiar experiences with Clomipramine?

It’s way easier controlling ejaculation during masturbation than during sex. With so much stimulation going on, difficult to get the exact timing right to clamp down. In addition to practicing your timing, you should also be able to hold a Kegel clamp comfortably for longer than 10 seconds. Depending on how many ejaculatory contractions you have during an average orgasm, you may still be contracting when you release the clamping, in which case you will then be pumping semen.

Edging and Accupuncture

I have tried edging and it does help. I’ve only been edging for about 3 weeks and have noticed that ‘some’ control is definitely developing. On a scale of 1 to 10, (1 is barely aroused, 10 is the point of no return) the control I am developing seems to be between 5-7, once I reach 8-9 I cannot control ejaculation unless I stop completely. Between 5 and 7, I seem to have the ability to continue at that phase longer than previously by focussing on relaxing and trying not to Kegel. I am going to continue with the edging.

I have also begun accupuncture. I had one session so far, and it’s probably too early to tell, but I think the effect of the accupuncture so far is just a general slowing down of the excitement creshendo. The practitioner reckons about 5 sessions aught to cure it. He’s cured several people in the past.

The difficulty I have is that my wife likes only one speed in sex and that is 5th gear all the way, not slowing down, not breaking the rythm, harder faster harder, until splash. So I don’t have the luxury of varying technique, slowing down, changing position, because all those things just frustrate her.

I am hoping to quadruple the amount of time I can last going at full pelt. I will post again after some more of the accupunture sessions and let you know how I’m coming along.

I think you should frustrate her every now and then!

This will help you with premature ejaculation.