Just checking in, and I’m glad to see so many contributions to this thread.
The reverse kegel thing does seem to help me as well. I’m determined to master this.
I had sex on New Year’s Eve, with quite a beautiful girl who I’ve known for a few months through friends. Stupidly, it was unprotected. I thought I was going to blow my load immediately on insertion, because it’s been a few months since I had full sex. However, once I was balls deep inside her and there was a little more room around my glans, I relaxed, reverse kegelled, looked deep into her eyes, breathed, and did the ol’ VVC nudging thing.
As soon as I started indulging in penetrative strokes, I felt like I was going to blow my wad.
However, a couple of times, she said, ‘we shouldn’t be doing this’, and I pulled it out. We’d chill, kissing and touching for a while, and I’d go back in and repeat. Eventually we fell asleep in eachothers arms, with my unseated erection still present ie. I hadn’t cum, due to not going for it in the penetrative stylie!
I woke up in the morning, and we masturbated eachother. It took a fair while for me to cum then. I don’t think she came.
Anyway, I’m going to keep working on this. I think I’m on the right track. I’m pretty sure that a fleshlight would be a good idea, but at the moment, circumstances will not allow me the privacy to use one.