Quitting Porn

Fuck1ng porn, I hate what it has done to us. I wish I would have known how it would try to snake its way back in when I’m tired, sad, bored etc. It’s not fun having to ogle every beautiful women you see. Women are human beings, they don’t deserved to be put on a pedestal, but they are not objects either, just like we men are… Porn objectifies everything and slaves us into craving sexual stimulation everywhere, this is slavery really. The road to recovery is slow but worth it.

Killing addiction is harder if you shift the blame elsewhere. I was into blow big time in the 90s. I recovered because I just blamed myself in the end.

Yes, there are people out there that are evil and shall exploit our weaknesses. They have always been there.

There is one thing in life we actually have 100% control over, and that’s what we do.

Agreed, thanks for sharing

I started porning very young. During my 1st marriage I noticed I was leaning on it a lot because I was unhappy in my marriage. I would sub gooning on porn for a couple of hours instead of being with my wife. After the divorce, I used porn A LOT! I also watched tons of “hypno porn.” Even though I’m straight, the vids try to hypnotize you into craving cock. I didn’t care either. What should be apparent here is that I NEEDED more intense, more kinky material. I would sometimes smoke weed before doing it and my orgasms were INTENSE.. Although not always, but mostly.yes. In addition, I work in the Adult Industry as let’s just call it, ” a content creator.” My porn consumption was so high + my effen job..

Ugh!

THEN, I met the love of my life. I knew I needed to stop my porn consumption. I did! COLD effen turkey. I worked it so that I don’t view much porn at all for my job. If I see porn now, I feel cold to it. That also may not be healthy, but even though I’ve cut my consumption by 98%, I feel it’s too early to “have a little fun” with porn (5 or less minutes). I’ve been porn free since April (‘20) more or less and I’m thrilled about it. I don’t miss it, nor the hourrrrrrrrrrs I spent on it. I think it has clearly caused me EQ issues BIG TIME. I would say I fall in the ED category - although I can have great morning wood. Then massive amount of porn I consumed in combination with my focus on big cocks (doing whatever to whomever) has had a totally negative effect on me. It sucks, but at least I’ve stopped most of my exposure to porn.

That’s quite a story. Thanks for sharing. For me, that “little fun” sometimes ends up as 2 hours wasted of my life. Better not to do there. I struggle with it all the time.

Same i restarted watching porn recently cause my wife has a weak libido compared to mine (she smokes too much weed)… and it is ruining my mind so i re-quit it..

I’m trying to make her quit weed and tabaco, it is gonna take a while.

My friend, I would do 2 hrs OFTEN! When you live alone and have nobody to answer to, you can get stuck in eddys that will take you far off the path of mental health.

How did/do I know that I’m an addict? Well, my friend is an alcoholic who manages his situation. I show the exact same signs. I would use porn if there was stress, pain, feeling useless, etc. Since I’ve always liked watching porn with well hung guys I started focusing on dick as what turned me on. Sure seeing the girls did, but it was what they were doing/taking. Do I have Bi-tendencies? I had to face the answer to that and I came up with “yes.” *Nothing to do with the ass though - EVER.* But discovering a tendency doesn’t mean it’s something I’d act on, but that RUSH made me search for porn that messed with the dopamine dump and my natural “wiring.”

Deprogramming: Aside from the 1099 porn work I do - which is now more audio - I have stopped searching or viewing porn like I said earlier. I also try to make it so I’m ONLY looking at my fiance to get turned on. I live in Miami, so we have the most beautiful women on the planet and A TON OF ‘EM. I can slobber in my mind over them a wee bit, but mostly it’s my fiance when it comes to fantasies. Someone might say, “ohhhhh yuck! SO boring.” Fuck ‘em. If they knew what was behind it, or better.. EXPERIENCED IT, they’d dig the “why.”

My woman is from Africa. So I had performance anxiety thinking, “she’s seen some HUGE cock.” And.. She has, but she was amazed to see the size of mine and told me I was on the same level.. Which shocked HER. I’m not saying that to brag, I’m saying that because it’s the PORN that causes the anxiety. I’m so focused on the “dick.” Trust me too, it shows because she even mentioned something about my focus. Of course, I denied from here to the moon, but a good woman has XRAY vision and if you’re lucky enough .you’ll enjoy that facet of her, because a good man needs that in a woman. I digress..

The damage of all the THOUSANDS of hrs of porn over the years is apparent. Too, I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I enjoyed parts of it and I think it’s not only healthy to admit it, but that bit of erotica done in a healthy way is “fine.” Sex therapists would and have agreed. It’s the very fine line that one can cross though.. And it doesn’t take much. I thank my lucky stars I was never that guy/girl that had to run to the bathroom at work to jerk off to porn because the just needed it. Simultaneously, my addiction was equal though in fairness. I’d just do it late at night at home.

Anyways I hope this helps in some way, shape, or form .

Yes! Exactly my point, too!

Not too sure if anyone has mentioned this (I’m trying to reduce my internet use time down to 30 mins a day, so I’m short on time!), but I have found that when I fill my day with PE, I’m less likely to fap. It is kinda like replacing a bad habit with a useful one. Good luck! I’m on day 1, 14 hours! I will keep you updated as well.

Keep ‘er lit!

Since starting PE my porn consumption has gone down. However sometimes to make it through workouts, I need porn because I just don’t have an imagination I guess. Also my woman doesn’t know that I’m into PE, at least not yet, so she can’t help me.

But for the longer story. I was introduced to porn at an early age as well, maybe 10. Have always been around it and have always indulged. What began to turn me around is when I found out that the woman that I was with had been cheating for a year. We had a nanny cam in the house for our little ones and I began to watch footage looking for clues that I may have missed or ignored. What I saw was myself and who I had become.

When we met, I was a 5:00 AM at the gym, fit and social guy. By this time (4 years later), I went to work, came home, kissed her and the kids, went to my computer and was there well until the late morning “working”. While yes I got some work done, there was always a PH window open in the background or picture in picture. When I would go to the room for sex, I would wake her, pull her to the edge of the bed, and with no foreplay or anything going straight for the insert. Sometimes it would take a while for me to get it up, because I was lacking the mental and visual stimulation, and when I did get there (maybe 5 minutes later), I was done in 2-3 minutes because I had been so worked up. She hadn’t even started. I didn’t blame myself for her cheating, but as an observer, I can see where her needs weren’t being met (and yes she had been telling me, I just wasn’t listening).

If your woman is achieve blowing orgasms from time to time (however you do it), a lot of things fall into place. But if you’re not even doing that, then what’s the point for her. Porn was certainly destroying our relationship. My EQ was so poor that I was at least 1 1/2 inches short of my typical erection (I measured one day).

Since quitting porn (except for during PE) and fapping, she has been surprised by my true size and stamina. She actually asks for sex where she hadn’t in a long time.

I’m giving it up myself. Just isn’t worth it. I feel it emasculates you.

Adios Porn, fapping, and fantasy!

John

Mind you, I enjoy creating fantasies especially just coming out of REM (if I wake) with morning wood. BUT, I’m SUPER careful about the fantasies I create. I make sure that it always includes the woman of my dreams (which is my wife). I am constantly training my mind to “point” in her direction e.g. when I’m turned on, I’m conditioning a connection between erection and her. I feel the mind is pliable in that waking state.

That said, it’s STILL a fuckin battle. It’s not easy and it’ll take a long time to undo the fuckery porn has wreaked on my mind. :-/

This happened to me to. They made the site and videos perfectly to raise dopamine each time you watch and after a while of watching the ‘HARD CORE’ or “GANG BANGS” get normal or soft porn for the mind and then your brains seeks even more extreme things .. sick… Porn should be banned, at least 90% of it and the other porn of like couple 1on1 normal porn can stay.

I avoid all porn and think it’s destructive on so many levels. We need to cultivate healthy relationships with our wives and enjoy the fantasies we can have in our minds. I would love it if they banned porn.