Quitting Porn

All porn is not equal, but I support your initiative.
I think appreciating the female body isn’t psychologically damaging, unhealthy.

Every blue moon I’ll watch a soft porn magazine where you’ll possibly see a vagina on every 52nd page, if lucky, (naked girls only, no d*cks), and use that for edging.

However, the new/current serotonin-frying over-the-top crazy sh*t y’all be watching nowadays on these video sites is something I stay far away from. I know for a fact that that stuff can ruin your life. Nobody can convince me that you can regularly view that and live a healthy life.

So true! All porn is not equal, not at all. Oh man I appreciate the female body, I love it to death! I still look at my bikini magazines from time to time and some light erotica and nudes in mags too. My favorite and only real porn of choice was solo females playing with themselves. Or lesbian stuff but not too much. Nude picture sites too, I looked at them daily. All that crazy shit though, I couldn’t watch it really at all it has always been a bit too much. Back when “gonzo” porn was actually gonzo, that was cool every now and then. Now all porn is gonzo, but it sucks and lost its interesting edge. I agree with you on this, that the wild as fuck stuff is too much and can ruin a life or least lead towards an unhealthy one. I do watch erotica with my wife still, there are several sexy films in our library that she likes to see and they are more exciting to me now than ever before :)

Thanks man, yah man I think what I had lost due to porn was the natural intimacy between my wife and I. We’ve been together 23 years now and sex has never, ever been boring. Every time is amazing and vibrant, we’ve done it thousands of times, in our prime every day of the week we possibly could and twice a day if we had time. On vacations more than that. But health and life changes for her and me led to porn being more than just a once a week or less than that kind of thing where instead of sex with my wife I needed a night alone, so porn was there and cool, but never a problem and it wasn’t ever a daily thing. But in the last two years it became daily, way more than daily. It was a slipping kind of thing for me and I began to automatically connect my hard on to porn because they happened at the same time. I started to see patterns in the ways we made love that were kind of robotic like porn, even though we never did it like porn shows it, it just started to seem that way to me. I couldn’t help but see it like that. Yes man I like that you realize what has been going on with you and that you can get past it. Enjoy your wife she sounds like she’s worth it :)

I will report in as well lads. Porn is the shit… you should avoid. Seriously, this thing will get you no matter how lightly you take it, especially if you have an addiction-type of personality. A little bit of it will become a little bit more and until you know it you are watching that everyday with a limp dick in your trousers. What is more you won’t have it hard when you need it the most, so what a waste. I’m sure you have heard all this scolding before and I’m not here to beat on the dead horse. In fact I fell in this very trap myself. By the end of last year (2021) I was porn-free for about a month and it felt great - I had erections quite often albeit not that hard. It was probably due to me needing a decondition break, but it was fine for the most part, especially when combined with semen retention. Then at the beginning of 2022 I came upon some educational porn tapes on squirting (Squirting 101) and decided to watch them in order to learn more about it. Well it was quite ‘porny’ if I can call it like that and not that much educational in turn. Along the way I got back to watching naked buxom ladies and amateur sex scenes not long after. In the meantime I was reading erotica and listening to audio porn as well, so the package is full in this case. Nowadays, I have the limp-dick syndrome - I can’t get hard for my life. Not even if my dream girl comes out of nowhere and tries to seduce me with her sweet voice and girly looks. I have to stop, so I’m trying to reduce it to only reading erotica, which is more like educational threads on female orgasm. The problem is that even when reading a sexy story or a post, where the description of events is more erotica/porn style written, I can feel the same damage in my head the same way I do when watching visual porn. Better late than never though.

You can get it back mate, force yourself to not have an erection for a month and force your mind to abstain from any sexual thought for a month through meditation, and distract yourself positively.

When you dont eat you will be hungry, so when you dont become horny for long enough you shall again be in a more natural state, then when you do get horny it will be more intense and you will find the strength and ability again brother.

Thanks mate! It gives a whole new perspective on the issue. It is already hard to not do PE, let alone not think about sexual stuff with all those beautiful women wandering outside. I am already doing semen retention, so that is a part of the homework done. We’ll see how this one goes.

Thanks for your words here!

You can get it back man. I do read erotica still, Penthouse Letters that my wife got years ago its almost 20 years old and we’ve read the short stories several times over, but I still read them and am currently. They are fun, I don’t read them to get hard or use for masturbation though. I just read them to keep the hot ideas on my mind. It is so opposite porn or anything I’d look at online. I also read stories on SoloTouch too, masturbation stories, they are hot and have no pictures or anything that goes with them. I told my wife because I don’t look at stuff online anymore that when I look at her, like when she comes out of the shower naked, it is like a new addiction I can’t control. I HAVE to look at her, I stare a little too much, she’s hot and I’m possessed by her. I have not had such a deep seated attraction to her like I have now. I’ve always found her hot as fuck, she’s sexy and erotic, beautiful and she attracts the eyes and attention of other guys now and always. But I also had porn and lots of women who, I’m sorry to admit but its the truth, are hotter than my wife. There is ALWAYS someone hotter out there. Sadly porn provides these people for free instantly for us to consume. Now that there isn’t really anyone else I’m looking at or newly discovering (like my magazines, I’ve had some for over 20 years and they are still hot and attractive but they aren’t like the “new” hot models online that suddenly appear when you surf for porn) my wife is the only outlet for my gaze when sex is involved.

I didn’t feel like I had really quit internet porn until about 100 or so days had passed. I wasn’t looking at it but I still had some accounts I was afraid to go on those sites and delete because I had to go on the sites. I didn’t look at anything but it was nerve wracking. “What if I saw something that possessed me to watch, and then I look at something else, and then more, etc.?!?!” Fear!!! Could I trust myself? I did, I got through it, everything got deleted.

This is unlike any addiction I’ve ever faced. I smoke weed daily and drink less than once a week. I used to be addicted to working out and lifting weights but injuries and Covid keeps me out of the gym so I’m left with wimpy workouts at home, nothing like the real deal. Porn is something beyond drug and other addictions. Its always right there, just a click away, for free. On our phone. We don’t even need an internet subscription with a provider. Phone is enough. And that is the major problem, its too easy to access. I don’t even spend much time online anymore because I’m not looking at porn. I didn’t realize how much time I spent online, on Chaturbate, waiting endlessly for people to finally cum. I used to check models on CB several times a day, it was a routine “break” from anything I did all day.

You did it for a month, that is a lot of time! The first month was more confusing than anything for me. Total feeling of being lost and like “what do I do with my time now?” You were there, you just slipped up and can just start back again since you know you did a month. You got this!

Your feat is no less remarkable. You have a wife that makes you lose yourself in lust, just by being there and thus renders porn usage obsolete. I congratulate you on that and having the willpower to follow through the abstinence and resist the urge to return to that old boring state of apathy, limpdickedness and endless amount of breasts. Not that there is anything wrong with the latter, but not when watching them on video.

You say that there will always be someone hotter than her and I find that is true not just in this case but in general. There will always be someone weaker that you can torment and also someone stronger, that can make you his little bitch with ease. That’s just how life is, we can’t change that. What we can change is what decisions we make or don’t make during the 24 hours we have each and every day.

The whole covid quarantine situation appears to be a perfect test for one’s will yo abstain from those guilty pleasures such as porn. Will you break under pressure and succumb to your mind’s tricks or stand still and endure the punishment of withdrawal like the rock of Gibraltar?

Good thing is that green certificate restrictions have been lifted here and we don’t have to be vaccinated anymore, in order to visit the gym, thus the first thing I did was to renew my monthly membership. At least I know I can have a good workout and beat myself to death with cardio, but at least that is worth it, unlike beating your meat to death with porn. I hope you can be able to access your gym sooner. I also tried working out at home or at local street workout facilities, but it is nothing like the real thing. Cheers mate!

I have been on both sides here.
I also for a short time performed on webcam with an ex girlfriend.. Who was a “sex worker”

Alot of interaction can get to be rather impersonal now-a-days.for different reasons.. People will get addicted to pornography on varying levels and different reasons.

I say to people officially that I am single.. But I am in an “Open” relationship.
We’re both romantic, talk intelligently to each other and porn isn’t really needed.
I honestly don’t know what she is doing otherwise in her personal-sex life.. Because she had move for some more college. I told her to enjoy herself.. However we still do have videochat sex a couple of times a month though.

*I guess my only useful input here, really, is exercise with [healthy] moderation in all that you do.
Porn will likely sometimes aid me in my PE.
Though it may not be helpful to you. Good luck.

You shouldn’t imagine anything if you are having sex, you should just do it with total love and devotion to your partner as a child of God who is the absolute good.

It is even disrespectful to fantasize about other stuff when your female is being receptive and vulnerable.

Instead of fantasy, focus on her heart beat, on her body warmth, her breath and energy.

It gets me hard every time.

Even tho I watch porn so hardcore and fast pace edited that normal person would get dizzy and repulsed by nastiness while also sporting hardest penis they have ever had.

So in the end it is only mind games, I have separated porn and sex into different departments in my brain.

Porn is literally just a visual drug and I do not expect to feel drugged by body of my partner, instead I seek intimacy, oneness with partner and with the universe-God

I see that most chronic porn viewers have ED, unlike them I have no ED whatsoever, even if I accidentally ejaculate I just focus on that cool watery yin energy that I lack and keep fucking and even change condoms and keep fucking.

You just have to love sex and intimacy as they are one, if you just want some feel good hormones then you should not try to extract that from the other person, you are just masturbating with a toy, not making love as sex should be, ofc in that almost solely visual and imagination mode of arousal your female will be less appealing than 3 seconds snippets of best looking girls in the world with 4 dicks in them while while fifth is ejaculating in her eyes and techno music coupled with moans of ejaculating males and trembling women.

Use all your senses and even beyond them, put your whole soul and body and surrender to unconditional love, in this aware state of sex there can’t be ED

I am in this most hardcore PMVs habit for 5 years already, lets say every other day and hours at a time mostly.

A part of my good EQ might be that I usually do not ejaculate intentionally, only if I “fail” which happens every ten days when I do not do PE, first year when I started PE my ejaculation frequency was on average 3-4 days.

It took a tool on my body and soul and even a bit on EQ although I was still probably above average EQ just not hard as a rock almost.

I hope everyone out there who is quitting porn or still not watching or using it is doing great! I hope everyone is feeling good, healthy, and motivated to be the best person you can be!! Just wanted to put in for a ‘head check’ and see how guys who posted here are doing lately. I’m still porn-free now I’m rolling through more than 15 months since I quit it all. I have tried to look at galleries of nude women seldom, maybe every few weeks I’ll look at something like sexyandfunny.com but even then the sidebars and ads are too much, Chaturbate and MFC ads, or pop ups that send me to a chatroom, etc.. So I might look at the thumbnails of a gallery, but likely won’t click one to see the pic full scale. I might spend on average 3 minutes looking at a whole page of updates. I’m still curious as to how female models look lately; I still love hot women! I will say this though: women in public are WAY more attractive to me than ever before. When I’m out with my wife I really have to make myself not look at chicks, I’ve always looked or glanced (hell even my wife will snap and say “wow look at her she’s so hot!!” to get my opinion or make sure I see her too) but lately its like gazing or almost staring. It is an uncontrollable sensation and urge. I’m almost biologically forcing myself to gaze at women in public or anywhere. I think this comes from not seeing women on a screen. Erotic scenes in almost any movie or show, even just passionate fully clothed kissing, really gets my blood racing. Sometimes I almost can’t even look at the kissing because it gets me quite aroused. I even feel a tad uncomfortable like “ok ok guys this is a bit much” and I’ll turn my eyes away…from a fucking simple hot kiss!!?!?! Makes me realize all the passion I’ve seen acted on a screen in the past had literally no effect on me. That’s sad for me to realize :(

My wife had an error with medicine that gets delivered and went through about 2 full months of not taking it. Its a vaginal suppository for estrogen supplementation for menopause and vaginal atrophy and wetness. It works GREAT and we fucked a lot last year after I got my groove back by quitting porn in March; by May I was back to my old raging boner self again. The last time we had full on penetrative pain free sex was mid March this year. We just tried to have sex a few weeks ago and she could only take my glans in her and even that hurt. Medicine is back online for her and she’s feeling better, has more libido even though its barely there (there was NONE for months this spring…), and we’ve been highly intimate even though my cock isn’t going anywhere near her sweet pussy. She is dilating to strengthen tissue and be able to take me again. So I’ve been hanging with her while she dilates and we make out and she cums her brains out and she gets me off. Last night I on/off again stroked and jerked off dry while she was in the shower prepping to dilate (she had a massive overwhelming O with the shower head that put her on pause for about 5 minutes she had a hard time walking after it!!) and then dilated for 30 minutes. When she was done I realized I had been jerking off and oozing precum for a straight hour. She made me straddle her, I lubed up for the first time that night and she deftly stroked me. It felt so good and it as so overwhelming I had to look away. When I’d look down I’d get much closer to my O. After just 2 minutes she had me spurting off all over her. Back in the day, the days of porn, she’d probably have needed to stroke me vigorously for over 10-15 minutes to point of numbness to get me off. Lately I’m blowing quickly from anything she’s doing to me. While I do like the lingering, long lasting stimulation, and I have great stamina during sex, I really appreciate the ability to get off so hard, so fast. Her arm used to get sore and tired, not lately! I cum so fast from her actions and work on me she can’t believe it sometimes :)

All this to say that a porn-free lifestyle is bringing vibrancy, energy, and good feelings and emotions to my life and our relationship together. Physical sensation is up, very heightened. Stimulation is way up, much increased. Being naked with my wife is like being naked with her when we started dating 24 years ago. My body image is better; I’m more fit and I’m not working out, I just don’t feel like “trash” all the time. I’m very excited to have sex with her again once she’s conditioned her pussy to take me with no pain, I have no fear or nervousness. I was a rock last night I could’ve just plunged into her if she gave the word. About 14 months ago, I would’ve never been hard with her. My how porn breaks us and our spirit.

Like cigarettes, I think about porn frequently. My strength lies in not succumbing to it because I believe I do not need it for anything in my life. Its that belief that keeps me from typing something into the search bar that I’ll regret. I actually did try to masturbate to a really old scene I have on a dvd (trying to throw all this old shit out) I recorded in like 2007, and its tame porn by today’s standards, but it just didn’t do it for me. And its a hot scene, it always was a good one for me to watch. I did get hard seeing it, but it just didn’t feel good to me. I turned it off and tossed the disc in the trash right after. Is this shit worth it? Is it even worth owning? If I don’t want to watch it why do I have it? Its like holding on to old things I don’t use but maybe feel like I’ll need in the future. Maybe porn will be banned in the future and all this shit I have on discs will be worth money on the black market??

I don’t feel like finding out. I think I’ll trash my whole collection sight unseen. Why not? I haven’t looked at any of it in years; the internet provides new material endlessly. I’m like a hoarder of porn. Time to rid myself of what I have and stop avoiding it.

Where are y’all at in your journey? This is where I’m at right now. So curious to know! I know I’m not the only guy here who is trying and maintaining a no-porn life as much as I possibly can…am I??? Good luck guys!

I have to say, I never would have expected to find this thread here, but it is refreshing and encouraging now that I have found and read it.

I hate porn, yet I constantly return to it. I hate it all: the easy availability of it on even a damn phone screen; the normalization making it more casually pervasive and harder to avoid even when not seeking it out; the unrealistic expectations it sets for myself, my wife, and both of our bodies; the ways it distorts what I want from sex and how I view women, especially my wife; the rote, mechanical, and joyless dependence I have upon it; the need for increasingly more extreme material for bigger dopamine hits; the shame I would feel at being found out by my wife or children; the patterns of thinking and addictive behavior into which it locked me; the incalculable time and energy wasted looking at it; and the lasting damage frequent consumption of it has caused to my performance in real-life sex with the woman I love.

I’m tired of it, and I want to be done with it for real. Of all the places for me to draw inspiration to make that reality, maybe this is it. Even before joining here, my porn habits recently had drifted increasingly toward learning more about female sexual anatomy, how to pleasure real-world women, and how better to help them achieve orgasm—having knowledge is becoming more interesting and stimulating than watching fake people having soulless sex. I think that gradual return to reality speaks to my growing dissatisfaction with the unreality of porn. Then my desire to work on my life-long dissatisfaction with curvature of the penis brought here—and what do I find?

I find this thread. I think I needed this thread right now.

Neminem lasting as long as you want is the most important thing, pacing, deep/shallow alternation and switching angles on each thrust, also rotating sacrum so that you hit all of her walls with force continually are next important things as far as I have seen.

I am really surprised, it took me so long to see someone quitting porn on this forum.

I quit 3-4 years ago. At first it was hard, because you frequently feel urges and the flat-line hit hard. But at that time, I realized my social life was lacking and I didn’t manage to do anything with my life. After falling back and trying again for years, I now am clean for years.
My urges basically vanished, because I now am too aware of the fact of what I am doing: jerking off to the video of other people having sex. Sometimes I still want to look at some, but then this thought pops up (“Do you really want to jerk off to a video of other people?”) and it subsides. At first I wasn’t able to enjoy erotica either, because I couldn’t enjoy being horny, but after the first year or two, I learned it’s not only horny you are feeling, it’s your manliness. The energy, the flirtatiousness, the jumping eyes when seeing someone - it’s all being a man. It’s the default and I haven’t experienced this for most of my life. Now I enjoy seeing erotica and not touch myself, but I don’t like seeing pictures of a vagina or sex. As seen in marble sculptures, the difference between erotica and porn is the classiness of it. Pictures of vaginas just feel primitive and cheap.

I think I cannot post links here (can I?) but there is the “easypeasy PMO hackbook” for free on the internet, which helped me A LOT. Before even trying to quit, I suggest you read it, it’s quite short. It’s the most important book in my life.

Also, there are self-help groups on the internet (pornfree on reddit is superb) and “yourbrainonporn”-website of Gary Wilson (R.I.P.), which focuses on the effect using porn has on the mind.

All in all, I’m a different person now, my hair loss stopped and I feel stronger. I suggest you do the reading before you attempt stopping, because every time you fall back, it gets harder to stop. Most, if not all, addictions work like that.
Your brain is accustomed to a dopamine rush from porn. Once it doesn’t get the rush, the cravings ( a lack of dopamine simply put) increase. If you do not give in to those cravings, your brain restructures itself and the neuron network changes, so the cravings get less over months/years. But, even falling back once facilitates those neuron networks again, and your addiction is worse than before. Alcoholics know, that you never stop being an alcoholic, you can just handle your problem really well. Similarly, your brain might never be like a brain, that never watched porn, thanks to DeltaFosB, but it will definitely be way better than the porn-hooked version of your brain.

I think, porn is the new tobacco. The number of virgins under 30 is soaring since smartphones and the ever available high-speed porn sites, with 29% of men under 30 being affected (look it up!). More men get depressed. ED among the young has never been so prevalent. I mean, how often did you hear or read of young people, that just can’t get it up or masturbate without porn? I have several times and it really is harrowing.

Thanks for sharing your story! Totally agree with you on all of this. Sometimes I just want to see something, anything, and when I think that I say “I don’t really want or need to.” I will admit, I’m a sucker for huge clits and every now and then I’ll look at a few pictures of some new gifted women online, but I don’t jerk to them, and I take it in as more of an appreciation for female genitals. But watching people have sex or something like that? Haven’t really done that in well over a year with any intent.