Quitting Porn

I just quit porn too. I noticed decreased EQ/Libido around day 5 and then after day 10 I went back to normal. My conversational skills improved because I am more willing to talk and be open. I will try a week without edging since that keeps dopamine levels elevated just like porn. I know I won’t maintain post pump expansion due to quitting that but my brain health is more important. I will report back my findings.

Yeah, done with porn.

RIP.

Well, man. Try to choose another idea of how to distract yourself from porn addiction. Maybe you can try computer games or doing sport. Chatting with girls, dating someone from the street.

Sometimes problems are in our heads. So try to have a desire to leave aside this addiction. I believe in you!

2 weeks without any porn i am happy !

Not even a single CLICK

Happy to hear that!, I’ve been 45 days without porn let’s keep detoxifying

Hell yes man, rock it!! Glad to hear this, I hope you are starting to feel some changes inside you. I feel like if men can get off porn for a certain length of time its harder to fall back into it. Keep it up we’re here for you!

45 days that’s huge! Well done! I’m 22.5 weeks into my detox now, there has been a few slip ups along the way but nothing that has made me feel like “I have to start over.” When we are on porn for a long time, there are so many avenues and places it comes from, it takes time to clean it all out of our digital and virtual systems we use. Every week I feel a little bit “better” I wish I could explain what the word better means when I use it, but I can’t. I guess I feel “less burdened” now, like there was “something” that I always turned to and now its gone so the things I turn to are so different that the energy I used to put towards porno is now being put into other, better and more productive things that increase the value of my life. Everything seems to have gained and is more better now that I’m off porn.

I love this stuff!

I’m starting again.

Deleted membership of the one site I was part of. Enabled the blocking software I had selectively enforced.

Day one today, looking to get to 30 as a minimum.

Everyone else that’s up for it (lurking or whatever) please have a try. See what good might come of dropping it.

Interestingly I have a friend that’s managed to go cold turkey and quit - at least 6 months ago. He was having a mini revolution in his life: work, relationships, health and overall orientation towards the world. He occasionally encouraged me. Sad I waited this long.

Anyway I’m curious to see what’s going to happen. An important reason is to orient myself to real experiences with women.

Before my last relationship I gave up porn/masturbation for like, 2 months maybe. I was highly motivated to self-improve during that time. However, it made for a bad first experience with my ex, which lead to anxiety surrounding sex in the relationship (and combined with our own respective issues) really dragged the whole thing down. Not blaming nofap, just think that if I had been masturbating a normal/healthy amount it would have went better.

So now, I’m thinking that balance is better, at least for me. If you are addicted to porn sure, that’s a problem. And obviously sex is preferable to masturbating, but if and when I don’t have access to sex I’m not sure total abstinence is preferable.

No, I don’t believe in nofap, but I believe in no porn and the two are highly different to me, and I think they should be for most men, too.

There is nothing wrong with masturbation. I feel like the nofap movement is making men equate porn with masturbation. While some guys have both locked together so intrinsically that they cannot do one without the other, like masturbation HAS to happen and CAN only happen with porn on, the trick and key to this is masturbating normally and successfully with no porn. I feel like the hardest part of my no porn journey was getting back into good old fashioned, just me myself and my penis, no porn on or anything else on at all, masturbation. What a challenge it was! I remember the first time I jerked off in a quiet room, not facing a screen, and achieving an erection and I thought “how long is this gonna last, can I stimulate myself for the hour+ I normally would mindlessly fapping to porn, or will I cum in a minute?” It was a weird, weird unsettling thought. I lasted like 3 minutes lol and was happy to just get it over with, but it gave me pause for next time: “I’m going to last longer next time and begin to appreciate my own body and penis again and really devote serious attention to it instead of just looking at porn and touching myself.”

I felt a major, huge disconnect between my pleasure and my penis. With no porn I’m focusing intently only on me and my cock and it was stirring up some major feelings. That was 6 months ago and I haven’t masturbated to porn since. I went from holding a wet noodle in my hand as my wife lay waiting and wet for me to give it to her to hard as a diamond and dying to have sex in just about a month of quitting porn.

Some men may need to pair nofap with no porn. But healthy masturbation is the key, in my mind, when it comes to being with a woman after a rough patch that is ED-related. I feel like the longer a man goes without masturbation the more likely he is to relapse with porn because he needs to get off so bad.

Good luck with all of this, we’re here and active and I read everything that comes through these threads, just know that you aren’t alone and we all have something related to this going on and are working on getting through it!!! :)

I’m on week 3 now without porn and I am already having much harder “morning wood”; I have been involved with it for over 20 years off and on.

I found that as porn use increased, my self-control in other areas decreased; I ate and drank more, while exercising less.

Now, after only 3 weeks, I’m already down 6# and jogging and lifting 3x per week.

Recently, when my wife and I had sex, the orgasm was so powerful that the ejaculation hurt! That hasn’t happened before and I believe it was mostly psychological, as my attraction to her was stronger.

Thanks to those here that have the courage to fight this garbage; it can be done!

-Horseman-

Pardon my French, but fuck yah!! This is awesome to hear! My Os and ejaculations are stronger and deeper feeling inside me now too. Wait till you’ve hit 3 months, it only gets better :) I find I’m uncontrollably loud now when orgasm approaches, like I just start making sound and moaning whether I’m with my wife or alone, and I never really did that ever. I can’t help it, the sound comes out of me because its so good now. Keep it up Horseman you rock!

Porn is just one of many addictions that can ruin things. Be careful of the others.

Ah I see, that’s a very good point. I did just lump them in together while they aren’t the same thing at all. While I don’t think porn is inherantly bad, I definitely see how it can be destructive and perhaps I should quit. Admittedly that will be very hard because it is one of my favorite drugs and does not (obviously) cause pain and dysfunction like so many addictions

However from a practical perspective as a single man in the dating world, I don’t think I’d quit masturbating altogether because I believe that will unavoidably harm my sexual performance (I mean, if I haven’t had a partner in more than a few days/weeks, hope that makes sense)

Admitting something is hard to quit sounds like addiction to me. Referring to it as a drug makes it sound worse and if you are addicted it will cause pain and dysfunction.