Originally Posted by refresh9
So I did some research, asked some doctors, read some articles on the two subjects and figured I’d share the knowledge.
—How many doctors, what were their specialties, and what exactly did you ask them?
—What articles did you read? Sources?
—What further research, if any, did you do?
Originally Posted by refresh9
Masturbation: If in a relationship it should almost never be done.
According to whom?
Originally Posted by refresh9
It takes away from what you two have together.
How can you possibly know that? Where is the scientific study that allows you to make such a statement as if it is fact as opposed to opinion? Did one of your doctors tell you this? If so, that would merely be his opinion as well.
Originally Posted by refresh9
Although not bad, it’s not helpful either to masturbate much.
So, not bad, not good. In other words, it’s neutral, right? So why argue against it?
Originally Posted by refresh9
If you masturbate too much, …
Define “too much.”
Originally Posted by refresh9
…you’ll want your partner less, have lower libido, have lower quality (not really hard) erections, and might even get prostatitis (temporary pain in the perineum/prostate). If one were to lay off masturbation for a week or even two, they’d notice harder erections, more delight in pleasure, and no prostate pain. Your body does this as a defense mechanism if you masturbate too much, telling you to stop with bodily warnings. So keep it to a minimum, your body, yourself, and your partner (whomever it may be) will thank you.
Well, at least you’re making an argument here, but what do you have to back it up? I’ll concede that it’s possible for someone to masturbate to the point where libido and EQ are adversely affected, just as someone could overeat, over-exercise, or stay awake too long. However, the negative effects would be very short-lived (like maybe a day or two.)
I really think you are overstating your case, and you haven’t presented any evidence whatsoever to back up your assertions (while claiming that you are referencing authoritative sources.)
Originally Posted by refresh9
Pornography: Pornography is similar to drugs, even worse if masturbation is involved.
Porn+masturbation is worse than drugs? really?
Originally Posted by refresh9
Chemicals in the body get stimulated at seeing porn, and of course more chemicals get stimulated if orgasming.
What chemicals, exactly? And why is it bad that “chemicals are getting stimulated” anyway? Chemicals are getting “stimulated” in your body every second of the day.
Originally Posted by refresh9
Masturbation and porn if done sparingly will not cause much harm, but both together and a lot, and you’re on your way to an addiciton.
It’s true that porn can become an addiction, and this subject has been much discussed on this forum and elsewhere. But as far as addictions go, one could argue that there are far, far worse addictions to have. Like many of the things that adults have access to and are free to explore, each individual has both a right and an obligation to determine what constitutes “responsible use” of porn for themselves. I wouldn’t presume to tell you what to view or read, and would expect the same courtesy in return.
Originally Posted by refresh9
Porn has different intensities, ranging from soft core to hard core. The soft core is like a soft drug, it’s stimulating but lower case of becoming desensitized. However a hard drug, quickly you become desensitized and need more exciting, crazy, insane pornography, to the point real life doesn’t suffice. And it gets worse if it is Video porn as opposed to Picture porn. As the video, takes away any mental arousal and leaves it all to the visual. If one would want to subject themselves to porn, with minimal bad side effects of an addition, one should stick to soft core Picture porn. Otherwise one day real life may just not do it for you. Further more watching hard core porn such as banging wives, cheating girlfriends, or bestiality, just as example, makes a man turn paranoid into thinking all girls are like this. The very material, changes a man’s personality towards himself, his friends, and especially girls into thinking they are nothing but cheating filthy whores. True story. It happens. So be careful.
This is starting to sound like anti-marijuana propaganda, circa 1957…instead of “the reefer” it’s ‘the video porn.” Dude.
Originally Posted by refresh9
If ever you feel your libido is dropped, you have no respect for women, find certain pornography hysterical while others look at you weird; look at your frequency of orgasms, further more watch your frequency of porn watching and it’s intensity. Take a week or two, or months off from it, and benefits will follow.
Or maybe you’re just a misogynistic prick with low testosterone and a weird sense of humor. (:
Originally Posted by refresh9
Trust me on this. I’ve done my research. Good luck.
It does sound like you speak from experience.
Seriously though, the reason people are responding as they are is because you are presenting your argument as the last word on the subject, and claiming a level of authority that you haven’t backed up with sources. If you stated all of this as your personal opinion or personal experience, I’m betting folks would be a lot more receptive.
For the record, I agree that it’s possible to masturbate to the point where it negatively affects EQ and libido. However, it’s possible to have “too much” sex and get the same results. In both cases, these effects will generally wear off in a day or two. No biggie.
I also agree that porn can become an addiction. But I don’t think it’s as serious a social ill as, say, heroin addiction, or even cigarette addiction for that matter.