Cut Tomatoes
Part I:
I met this man online, on a dating site no less and he seemed nice. We exchanged messages for about 3 months before even decided to meet in person. When the time came, I was like, “Oh, it will be good for me. I haven’t had another guy to hangout with in awhile.” I was overjoyed with the decision I was making with my life and the progress I have been making. Finally the day came and we went out to get some lunch. My only intention was to remain friends, that’s all I want. Having a boyfriend right now would cause a lot of unneeded stress in my world right now, school and keeping up with my fitness takes everything I have. He agreed to just being friends because he was lonely also, has had a rough time the last few years of his life.
About a week has passed and he announced that he has fallen madly in love with me. I found this rather amusing and thought it was a joke and restated what I said when we first met, I didn’t want a boyfriend at this time. My priorities are elsewhere. But I told him we could still hangout as long and remembered what I said and realizes that my statement will remain the same, till I graduate.
Part II:
Well a year has passed, we are still friends and we hangout almost once a week. Things go well because we are still friends, nothing has changed. Although there were periods where he would call me crying because I don’t respond to his feelings. And like I have stated before, he said that he understood this; however he’s falling in love with me more and more. He sends me messages explaining that my biceps and chest are his favorite things about me. And he wants shirtless pictures and some dick pictures, he wants me to cuddle and give me back massages. The responses I give him are not what he desires so he does get upset and won’t talk to me for a few days even weeks at a time.
He’s even tried to kiss me and I push him away. Finally I tell him that we will just remain friends, nothing more will come of this relationship. And if he tries to force it, he will not hear from me again. I have zero tolerance with this kind of behavior and if he does not accept my boundaries he is not being respectful at all. At this point I’m questioning his comprehension of context clues, if someone has not only said they are not interested and even refuses to kiss, then you don’t keep trying.
Part III:
I have decided not to speak to this person again. Should I feel bad about cutting him out of my life?