Getting discouraged

I’m starting to get discouraged with it all now. I’ve been consistently Peing for about 2 1/2 months with small gains. Not getting a good flaccid hang like I used to and I now HATE the skin at the base of my dick. I don’t know what is going on with the skin. At the base it looks like and old mans dick. I don’t know whats causing the look, if it’s wrinkles or stretch marks, but it’s really bothering me and I don’t want it to get worse. I don’t know if I stretched my skin too much too soon? When I have my bigger flaccid it’s not noticeable but when it’s my smaller flaccid I hate the look. I want it to go and don’t want it to get worse so I don’t know if I should quit PE.

I’ve also been getting down about the size again where it’s affecting my relationship. I was getting better for a while but now I don’t want her looking at it and when we’re doing stuff I’m distracted at what she’s thinking about it. I just keep thinking that if she’s been with someone 8”+ I must look so small(I don’t want to know sizes of her ex’s for my sanity). Very frustrating.

Relax, 6.25 NBP is large and 5.8 EG is huge, you are packing some serious overall volume!

Don’t get discouraged! You can do it! It just takes time, I’ve only seen a little progress, but hey it’s progress isn’t it? Just be patient!

What exercises do you do? (I don’t need the whole routine, just let me know what the exercises are).

I think you might be doing them incorrectly. Let me know and I’ll try to clear things up if I can.

The skin sounds like its from a turtle neck. When I have a small flaccid the base can be kind of wrinkly from the extra turkey neck skin.

I wish I had your girth!! Don’t get discouraged, it takes time and if you think negatively it can negatively effect your PE. The extra skin is probably from PE but the skin will stretch first. Be patient, think positive, and read these threads. As far as your relationship goes if you lay the pipe proper you have little to worry about!

I agree with the above posts, your girth is damn impressive. We are more or less the same size in the length department and I also feel I’m kind of small, although I know that we should be grateful for being on the “bigger side” of average.

But we don’t want to be just above average do we? No we want to become as big as possible, therefore I encourage you to continue with PE and don’t give up.

I would also advise you to cut porn down a little (if you watch a lot anyways) because trying to measure up to porn stars can be frustrating and fuck up our personal image.

I think it might be a good idea to read Invisible´s progress tread, in the last couple of page you will find how hard for us is to try to compare to all previous lovers of our couples, but perhaps by changing the mentality in not being the biggest but only among the biggest would greatly reduce our anxiety in that department, and there some pretty good statistics and reflexions so you could give it a try.

thecrow19 - Doesn’t your girlfriend LOVE your cock basically (from what you’ve said in the past)? I thought you said she likes it a lot.

Thanks for the encouragement guys.

Wt282 - I just wet jelq in the morning then I shower and do 10 45 sec stretches in all directions(once I get out of the shower). At night I do 10 30 sec V-stretches and 10 45 stretches in all directions. The skin looks almost like when someone is really fat(how their skin was stretched) and then lose a lot of weight. Although it is small and concentrated at the base of my dick. I don’t want it to affect anymore of my dick. So I’m scared to continue. But hopefully if my dick gets bigger it will smooth that out.

ShyMplsMale - I don’t think she’s lying to me but I still can’t see how she feels that way. I know it’s a mental thing. Kind of like trying to tell someone with anorexia that they are skinny.

Dyablo - Thanks for the thread recommendation. I’ll check it out.

I know what you mean, but isn’t sex sometimes (or always) painful for your girlfriend? Why do you want to make it bigger? Seriously, you have a big dick. Your girth and length are plenty. You are probably big enough for 80% of women out there. The other 20% you might have a problem with. 15% of those women you’d probably be TOO big for and the other 5% are size queens that NEED an 8x6 to fill up their wide set vaginas LOL!

I hate size queens! Haha.

Yeah, it hurts but all of that can be attributed to the girth. That’s why my goal girth is the same as what I started with. I don’t want things to get worse. But I’m fine with the length. No bottoming out. So I wish I had more length. That’s what’s bothering me right now. It just doesn’t look long and it plays on my mind a lot.

Thecrow19, I’m 5.5” BPEL on my best day, and just slightly over 4” NBPEL, and on top of that your girth is exactly twice the size of mine, so if you have problems looking at your dick think again… you are plenty, and why do you need to bottom out? I don’t recall girls actually enjoying the “bottom out” as much as they enjoy girth action (which you can supply).

Besides, according to your signature, you have gained some, but not all gainers are easy/fast gainers - hard gainers can take many months before achieving a full inch. Try looking into ADS, I always have a feeling those have to work for length if used with commitment.

Good points D2G, but the above quote can be even worse. It seems that hard gainers may take many years before achieving a full inch. That is why PE should be considered a long term commitment, that needs to be incorporated into ones lifestyle.

Sorry about not replying sooner.

Anyway, it sounds like your condition at the base of your dick is stretch marks. When you are jelqing, it sounds like you are pulling the skin at the base (in addition to the exercise). That does not seem too out of the ordinary, it could mean perhaps you have tight shaft skin, and the looser it becomes, the more likely chance the marks will subside. Try stretching your shaft skin if it is tight. Also, when you are jelqing, can you feel the blood being squished and pushed forward through the inner chambers of your dick? It should feel like you are pushing water around in a water balloon. Your dick should be not hard/but not soft.

Also you might want to try doing A stretches instead of V stretches. I’ve tried both, and the A ones worked for me a lot better. Pulling the dick over your wrist with one hand (so you feel a localized stretch near your wrist), and then simultaneously pulling the dick down (as if you’re pulling it out of your body) with both hands, really does a number on that thing. Give that a try (for example: 5 second holds until you get to 50 repetitions), make sure your penis is as soft as can be though.

Great post! Very good advice dyablo.