Rann, are you saying that you do your PE at your gym? Do you do it in a locked cubicle? “Really hot water” is not a good idea, especially for a newbie. The temperature should ideally be a comfortable but penetrating heat. Enough heat to make your cock look pink/red and full after 5 minutes, leaving a nice warm, relaxed feeling in your dick.
I think that you should do manula stretches in all directions to cover all your bases. However, you should try to be as firm as possible when pulling, without causing pain. A slight discomfort is the most you should ever feel. When you pull, try to make your whole penis and it’s roots relax, so that they do not fight your pull. Let them give in to the pull. The easiest way to explain it is to allow your penis to be in the relaxed state that it is in when you allow yourself to urinate. So long as you urinate before you start your PE, there won’t be a problem with relaxing your penis like this.
You might also want to try 30-40 second pulls. Focus more on pulling upwards but still do five minutes of pulling in each other direction. Try not to count the amount of sets that you do. Just do 15-20 minutes of stretching and allocate roughly 10 for upwards, 5 for down and 5 for the sides. Focus more on getting into the pulling rather than focusing on number of seconds or sets. Listen to your dick. Shut out everything else and just home in on what your dick is feeling. Listen and sense how hard you can pull without causing pain. All whilst letting your dick completely give into the pull.
After this you might want to warm your dick up for another 5 minutes. Then start the jelqing.
200 wet jelqs is not enough for somebody who has been doing it for months like you. Your dick can take more and needs more. Again, do not focus on the number of jelqs. It is a distraction from allowing yourself to get into a zone of a hardcore PE session. You want to shut everything else out and focus on your dick and it’s feelings, so that you can allow your penis to fully relax and also sense how hard you can stretch/jelq without taking it too far.
At a 50-80% erection jelq slowly and firmly for 15-20 minutes. You can choose to cut this into two 10 minute sessions at different times of the day if you wish.
During the jelq try to listen to the sensations to find the ideal temp and technique. A method that captures just the right pressure and speed to allow for a deep feeling of blood being pushed up the shaft towards the head. Listening to your dick will allow you to callibrate and fine tune your method for best results. On each stroke your fingers should feel like they have captured a pocket of blood, which your fingers force up the shaft to the head. Sensing resistance from the blood as you push it up. After a while it can help to sometimes kegel a split second before your clamp your fingers around the base, to push blood into the cock, allowing your fingers to trap it in before they push upwards.
Finish the session with 5 minutes of heat again. After having jelqed your penis should hang fuller and lower than usual. This is the mark of a good jelq session. After a few days/weeks of really thorough jelqing with good technique, your penis should hang fuller and lower for increasing amounts of time after a jelq session. Atleast this is my experience.
Do not forget to completely relax your penis during stretching and jelqing. When guys aren’t making progress it is important that they really start to learn to listen to their dicks more and learn to get into the zone in each session. It’s more fun that way aswel, which is a bonus.