Premature Ejaculation

Well , I have 6x5 penis ( which is pretty discouraging to me , that’s why I’m here ). Before I had problem with an erection , because I was too nervous about not getting it up when it’s needed , thankfully it’s allring now . But recently I discovered that I have Premature Ejaculation , because I can’t last longer than 5-6 min with a condom , and without it’s alot faster . Been doin Kegels for a month now , but still no difference . I really love my GF and I want to end that disappointment with me not satisfying her , because I’m not sure for how much longer she is goin to put up with that .

So I’m asking you people , how can I end it ?? Your help means alot to me :) )) What can I do to last longer ?? Since KEgels don’t work for me :( ((

The main technique people say works for this is called edging. Basically it’s prolonged masturbation. Most people say that what you do is jack off hard until you’re about to bust, then you stop, squeeze your pc muscle if you want, let it subside, then continue again, for a significant amount of time - maybe half hour or so.

I’ve been doing this, but I have a different theory. People say that the point of edging is to train yourself to stay aroused without ejaculating. I think it has more to do with the head of the penis, and how sensitive it is. If you’re used to jacking off dry, only touching the shaft, then when you start having sex, the head is so sensitive, it’s a trigger that causes you to bust right away. I think this is what happened to me, and a lot of guys.

So the important part of what I’ve been doing is using lube - using astroglide cause my girlfriend got some - it’s ok, maybe you know of a better one. Anyway, what I’m trying to do is really stimulate the head (well, the whole thing, but with the emphasis on the head) so that it stops being a trigger for ejaculation. It seems to be working. At first, I would be able to cum really quick when really lubed up, Now, not - and it’s only been like a around a couple weeks. I really try to stimulate the head, sometimes rubbing my palm around it to get the tip in mid stroke. Unfortunately, I can’t be positive this is working, cause I’m not having any sex right now. I wish I were, cause I think it’s really working. Give it a try for me, won’t you? If you’re gonna keep on banging your chick while you do this, try extended pleasure condoms. They’re awful - you don’t feel anything - but you’ll be able to have sex without busting early and ruining your progress.

Hey there,

Sorry to ask, but it’s an important factor: how old are you, buddy?
The guy above me has some good points, and you’ll easily find many different tips and tricks to make you last longer.But I’d like to add my 2 cents:

A huge majority of the time, premature ejaculation is a psychic/ physiologic problem. You’ve mentioned previous “can’t get it up when needed” problems that are now behind you, well it’s the same (for youngsters at least): nervosity, lake of confidence and experience are the root of such “problems”.
I really think that finding a partner one really appreciate and to build a healthy relationship (stability, good communication, trust_and maybe love?) is a necessity to get to know oneself and is the best “cure” to any Little sexual “problem”. This will help more than having multiple “one night partners”, or than training alone at home.

Again, I don’t know who and how old you are. But whatever, one thing for sure: stop worrying is the first step to a healthy sexual life. Your 6x5 penis is a good penis, most girls will be pleased with it. As long as you know how to use it :)

6 minutes isn’t necessarily a short time. If you define premature ejaculation as cumming before you want to, then most of us probably have it. :) If you define it as cumming before your partner can get off, then that’s another issue. If you define it in terms of minutes or seconds, yet another.

I read years ago a statistic that impressed me. I no longer have a link to it but I do remember that the source was one I’d trust. They were talking about intercourse, not masturbation: Most men tend to ejaculate before they’ve completed 40 strokes. How long does 40 strokes take, for most men?

I’m 22 years of age and I don’t have much experience , that seems to be a problem , because I don’t know how to control myself , when we are making out , most of the times I’m getting really hard erections that are lasting for a long time and after that I can burst within 30 sec. I do agree it’s very much psychological as well as physical . But my psychological part gets worse and worse everytime time we having sex , because I wasn’t giving her what she wants for quiet some time , and I afraid she is goin to leave me or something.

JelqinIt —- I will definitely try ur technique, because it really makes sence to me , so I’ll do it and see what happens , and I’ll let you know bout the results.

One more question , do you guys think if I’ll go to Urologist he will be any help to me ?

Becoming multi orgasmic will solve your problem. Barbara Keeslings book "How to make love all night (and drive a woman wild)" will teach you how.

Interesting post involving a Urologist:
A Female Urologist’s View of Post PE Girth

Slow thrusting: 3 minutes and 30 seconds.

Medium thrusting: 1 minute and 6 seconds.

Fast thrusting: 18 seconds!

:)

Fleshlight stu?

Masturbating a few hours before I think I’m going to possibly get some is useful but you have to play the game of “Will I be able to get it up if I jack off 3 hours before?”. I’ve never had a problem of getting it up so it’s not a problem (lucky me). Try that?

Masturbating a few hours before may help for some but for me it don’t!My erection is even hard and my orgasm comes even ‘fast’.

I can’t hold up my ejaculation as long as I want, my girlfriend tells me that she’s satisfied of my working minutes (+/- 10 min) But as a man you want to give the bigger and better, the greatest orgasm ever.

My girlfriend becomes really wet when I’m penetrating her that makes it even harder to hold up my ejaculation. So I think the problem isn’t always your fault.

Masturbating and hold up your orgasm + a lot of Kegels each day are good exercises. And if you feel like ejaculating during the sex just slow down a bit and press your PC muscle, that should work! By the way as said before try to relax while you’re having sex, don’t focus to much on your self try to please your girlfriend!

Completely relaxing your BC (not PC.. PC = anus ;) ) helps a lot as well.. Better feelings (at least for me) as well :)

Ys

Hey Dundukus, if nothing anybody else suggests works for you (like me) try Paxil. It has worked a treat for me!
See below link to my thread where I cover in detail my experience of using Paxil to cure Premature ejaculation. It works!! and it’s easy!!

I’ve cured my premature ejaculation

Have you tried not to start with penetration?

I mean try satisfying her at first until you see she is ready (if it is becoming wet or taking a weird “Fuck me” position)

Than start thrusting slowly for few minutes.

And finally (if you’re into the really fast and wild sex) just go crazy.

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Originally Posted by avocet8
How long does 40 strokes take, for most men?

Slow thrusting: 3 minutes and 30 seconds.

Medium thrusting: 1 minute and 6 seconds.

Fast thrusting: 18 seconds!