Sex and PE

I am a newbie and I have a question about sex and PE. First of all is there a limit of the amount of sex you can have with you wife while doing PE? Also sex is usually spontaneous so if the answer is in fact that you need to wait a few hours after PE to have sex then how can I avoid having sex with my wife if she wants some an hour after I have done PE? I don’t want her to know anything about the PE until she starts noticing a different. I wouldn’t wanna look like a fool and tell her in the beginning what I am doing and then never make any gains. I think that it is best to just let it ride and she she feel the “extra” then maybe she will say something about it and then I’ll tell her. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Also I haven’t started anything yet. I plan on starting a newbie routine tonight. I haven’t measured anything yet at all but I plan on doing that tonight as well. I just want to thank you guys and this website for guys like me. While it might not matter, I am a black guy and I personally think that I am about 5 or so BPEL and probably about the same in the girth area too. I just found this website last night and joined and I am so excited about this and very optimistic as to the result that I have the potential to have. You guys provide so much support and I am very grateful for that. Many may not know this but guys in general have so much pressure to perform. Black guys also have just has much pressure to be a certain way because society says that we are a certain way but even I know that all black guys are not “swangin”. I knew years ago that I needed to do something when my wife told me that she has sex with one of my teammates who I played college football with and she said that the guy was huge. We was in the grocery store and compared him to a sausage and said he was about the thickness of the sausage and even longer. I wish you guys could have seen this piece of meat.. Guys it wasn’t that long but the thickness was huge. The deli should have downsized! Lol Anyway I asked her did she like it and she said it was ok she guessed but that she didnt ever initiate sex with the guy. I don’t know what that meant so later on I decided to test her months down the road and we was in a grocery store in the vegetable section and I was trying to be kinda kinky and I picked up this big cucumber. It wasn’t that big but it was surely significantly bigger than my penis and also about the same size that she told me that my teammate that she dated was. I told her that one night I wanted to use it on her to spice things up and she was soooo excited to say the least so in my mind that told me that she would love to have a bigger one. I don’t think that I am reading into it either. I know for a fact that is she loved his dick then she would never tell me that obviously. I also have had sex with many women.. Of which I am not proud of but I have noticed that the tighter the fit the more pleasure the woman has and looser the fit the more it seems that it isnt as enjoyable. I try to pay attention to reactions and stuff ya know and my wife aint a tight fit at all. I mean she aint a doorway or anything but I can just slide in like it aint nothin. Anyway.. With that being said I wanna be bigger all the way around.. No holds barred!! I mean I aint gonna get aggressive yet but I am just gonna start the newbie routine and go from there. Any advice you guys would give me would be eternally grateful because at the end of the day I just wanna satisfy my wife! Thanks guys and God Bless. P.S. My wife has NEVER EVER had an orgasm.. Only by clitoral stimulation.

Well I usually end up with about a 60-70% erection about 5 minutes after I finish, and it doesn’t take much stimulation to get up to 105% after doing stretches and jelqs.

As to the orgasm.. pretend you’re a punk rocker a second. Hold up your hand flat, the fold your middle two fingers down to your palm. First finger and little finger still up. ‘oo’, (- __ -) Pump your arm up and down from the shoulder in that position. Now, imagine your wife somehow ends up laying on her back, and you use that grip in her pussy - two middle fingers inserted and folded to your palm. Pump her up and down with your two fingers on her g-spot. Not in and out. Up and down. Try it man :D

Hello Peperson11! Welcome to Thundersplace.

Your post is really hard to read - many of our members will not bother to read it, so they wont’ offer any advice. Stylistically you need to break up longer posts in to shorter paragraphs. Something like this:

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I am a newbie and I have a question about sex and PE. First of all is there a limit of the amount of sex you can have with you wife while doing PE? Also sex is usually spontaneous so if the answer is in fact that you need to wait a few hours after PE to have sex then how can I avoid having sex with my wife if she wants some an hour after I have done PE?

I don’t want her to know anything about the PE until she starts noticing a different. I wouldn’t wanna look like a fool and tell her in the beginning what I am doing and then never make any gains. I think that it is best to just let it ride and she she feel the “extra” then maybe she will say something about it and then I’ll tell her. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

Also I haven’t started anything yet. I plan on starting a newbie routine tonight. I haven’t measured anything yet at all but I plan on doing that tonight as well.

I just want to thank you guys and this website for guys like me. While it might not matter, I am a black guy and I personally think that I am about 5 or so BPEL and probably about the same in the girth area too. I just found this website last night and joined and I am so excited about this and very optimistic as to the result that I have the potential to have. You guys provide so much support and I am very grateful for that.

Many may not know this but guys in general have so much pressure to perform. Black guys also have just has much pressure to be a certain way because society says that we are a certain way but even I know that all black guys are not “swangin”.

I knew years ago that I needed to do something when my wife told me that she has sex with one of my teammates who I played college football with and she said that the guy was huge. We was in the grocery store and compared him to a sausage and said he was about the thickness of the sausage and even longer. I wish you guys could have seen this piece of meat.. Guys it wasn’t that long but the thickness was huge. The deli should have downsized! Lol

Anyway I asked her did she like it and she said it was ok she guessed but that she didnt ever initiate sex with the guy. I don’t know what that meant so later on I decided to test her months down the road and we was in a grocery store in the vegetable section and I was trying to be kinda kinky and I picked up this big cucumber. It wasn’t that big but it was surely significantly bigger than my penis and also about the same size that she told me that my teammate that she dated was.

I told her that one night I wanted to use it on her to spice things up and she was soooo excited to say the least so in my mind that told me that she would love to have a bigger one. I don’t think that I am reading into it either. I know for a fact that is she loved his dick then she would never tell me that obviously.

I also have had sex with many women.. Of which I am not proud of but I have noticed that the tighter the fit the more pleasure the woman has and looser the fit the more it seems that it isnt as enjoyable.

I try to pay attention to reactions and stuff ya know and my wife aint a tight fit at all. I mean she aint a doorway or anything but I can just slide in like it aint nothin. Anyway.. With that being said I wanna be bigger all the way around.. No holds barred!! I mean I aint gonna get aggressive yet but I am just gonna start the newbie routine and go from there.

Any advice you guys would give me would be eternally grateful because at the end of the day I just wanna satisfy my wife! Thanks guys and God Bless. P.S. My wife has NEVER EVER had an orgasm..Only by clitoral stimulation.

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Am so glad you are here, and I have lots of advice for you, but wife just work up, so I am going to have some coffee with her. Will be back later to write more!

Peperson, we have found that huge unpunctuated blocks of text rarely get read. Please at least try to break it into paragraphs. Thanks.

Edit: Thanks sta. I was about to have a go at that! :)

Pity. It’s very pity but don’t give up! PE will give You bigger and healthier dick, but that’s all! All about emotions, sensuality, etc. won’t be better unless You will improve it by Yourself.
I think big dick can make sex good, but love makes sex wonderful. Ask her what she likes, what positions are good for her and what’s the best way to touch. It’s much more urgent than having a pussy destroyer.

Is she a size queen? If so, PE can be really helpful. Besides, knowing what each other likes is good for both of You.

As for sex and PE: we do it for better self/confidence, better sex life and many other factors. If You are doing it for better sex life (I think You are), it shouldn’t prevent you from being sexual active. PE is for better sex so don’t stop banging, but maybe take more day off from Your PE. Too much rest is better than no rest.

So is it safe to jelq and have loads of sex and masturbation? I mean can you jelq every other day but have sex 3 or 4 times every day? And it not effect you?

Lots of women are physically incapable of having a vaginal orgasm, they just aren’t built for it. This is one of the things I wanted to dig up for you. Some recent scientific research that explains this.

Do not beat yourself up over this. Will get you a link tomorrow.

I think You will learn what amount of jelqs/stretches/other suits best for Your lifestyle. 50 jelqs, 2 hours rest, sex, stretching, sex, rest, jelqs, rest, sex, sleep. There are plenty of ideas how to include PE in the daily routine making it kind of hobby.
Ooh, remember to eat something between sex and PE.

Sta-kool, You mean that some women are physiologically non-adapted to get a vaginal orgasm? What about cul-de-sac (AFE zone) or anal orgasm? Maybe not to steal the thread PM me, it would be great.

Yes. Not all women are built to have vaginal orgasms.

This has to do more with the woman’s anatomy that your anatomy.

Quick summary of that study:

The lucky anatomy of vaginal orgasms.

Fire in the Hole
The lucky anatomy of vaginal orgasms.
By William Saletan
Updated Thursday, Feb. 21, 2008, at 7:51 AM ET

A small study indicates that ultrasound can show whether you have a "G spot" and are capable of vaginal orgasms. <study is linked at the article>

Key finding: "Women with a thicker urethrovaginal space were more likely to experience vaginal orgasm." (Definition: "an orgasm triggered by stimulation of the front vaginal wall without any simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris.")

Enthusiastic conclusions:

1) A scan can show whether you have a G spot.
2) If you don’t, you can’t have vaginal orgasms.
3) This is an anatomical fact, so don't fret that there's something you should be doing to change it.
4) In fact, it's probably genetic.
5) So don’t let the evil drug industry accuse you of sexual dysfunction.
6) However, if you do have a G spot, you might be able to make it bigger with testosterone.

Vaginal Orgasms: Not every woman is anatomically built for them

Peperson11 Now it is easy enough to find out if your woman has a g-spot. You can find it with your finger tip and give her an orgasm with that same finger tip. Or 5 or 6 in a row, as many has she can handle. Doesn’t require some mammoth dick to stimulate her spot. It is small and not very far in.

<Tidio, I split off the off topic g-spot, culdesac etc stuff to a new thread. We really need to get back to Peperson! Here’s the link:

Vaginal Orgasms: Not every woman is anatomically built for them

Unfortunately I lost your 2 posts in the edit.>

Lets get back to Peperson's original post and questions.

Women are notoriously bad at estimating penis size. Unless she is a carpenter or a scientist, length estimates are pretty much way off. Many guys here who are legit 7’" have girls tell them they are 9". Take it all with a grain of salt.

From one of our female members:

Vaginal tightening

Somewhere I have a very female friendly article on the health and sexual health benefits of kegels. Very "non-threatening", especially if you say you are going to start doing them too. Will look for that and post it for you.

I am also new to PE. Being black I also felt the need to raise up to the black men need to be big.

Just work hard we all reach our goals.