Ah, KP! I’m glad to see you’re seeing some results with this.
OK, first off - yes, go ahead and rub the top side of the shaft all over; in fact, play with your balls a bit, push on your perineum, give your shaft a whole-body massage. The point here is to try to find that energy and play with it, so don’t be afraid to explore a little.
The anal breathing is tough, but try what I said before, expand your lower abdomen and pull - slightly - and the anus. Don’t focus on your anus though, focus right above it. When I do this right, I feel a crazy energy from the sweet spot between the shaft and pubic bone, all the way up to my navel.
Ha, this thread is getting me major back into ballooning.