Big Girth - The Downside

Since joining the forum I’ve noticed that a lot of men have their girth goal as 6”. As a man who has over 6” girth as a starting point, I thought it might be beneficial to provide a “know what you are getting into” perspective. I’ve thought about starting this thread for a few days now. It’s not my intention for this to come off as a brag thread or being preachy and I sincerely apologize if it does. It’s also not my intention to make big girth seem like some horrible thing. It does have it’s upsides, but sometimes describing the upsides comes off as braggy which I want to avoid and would defeat the purpose of the thread. Additionally, it is not my intention to make light of people’s goals or discourage you from reaching the size you want. Rather, I wanted to provide a little insight so that you can understand the differences that having a 6+” girth can make in your sex life. I’m writing from the perspective of a straight man, so for brevity I’ll be writing in terms of male/female relationship, but I’m sure a lot of what I’ll say applies to male/male relationships.

Let’s start with a quick differentiation between girth and length. I’m sure the majority of us are looking for gains in both areas. However, there is a fundamental difference between girth gains and length gains that is extremely important, and I’m not just talking about the difference in total volume many of you are familiar with. The important difference I’m talking about in this case is in how you use your penis during sex. Let’s say you start out with 6” of length and increase that to 8”. You now have an extremely long penis and are pretty proud of your gains. However, your partner expresses discomfort and tells you that you’re going to deep and it hurts. Simple solution: don’t thrust as deeply. With length you have the option of using less than your full size if necessary to make sex more pleasurable for your partner. The same is not true for girth. You nearly always have to use your entire girth during sex. If you have 6” MSEG, that means using it the whole time. Whereas if your partner is uncomfortable with your length you can use less of it, if your partner is uncomfortable with your girth, well, they have to get used to it.

With that in mind, let’s look at some common situations:

Quickie Sex
Do you like waking your partner in the morning with a quick, no foreplay romp in the sheets? Ever enjoyed one of those “the moment hit us” sessions where you just dropped your pants, put it in and went at it? I haven’t. Having 6” girth means foreplay. And lube. It means taking the time to get your partner in the mood. Even after foreplay some women find it difficult to take a large girth. Lest you throw out the “but a baby can come through there” argument, remember that a woman’s body goes through MANY changes during child birth. The vagina of a woman giving birth and the vagina of a girl you picked up at the bar are two completely different things. I’ve never engaged in sex where the woman was so turned on she was relaxed enough to pass a child through, so we’re looking at two different things.

Discomfort/Pain
When you’re shooting for a girth of 6”, you are going pretty far beyond average and hitting a very large size. Thinking in terms of average, most men have average penises, most women have average vaginas. That being the case, most women will not be expecting or used to being penetrated by something significantly larger than a roll of toilet paper. Insertion can take time and with some women you’ll really have to ease it in. It’s not uncommon for the woman to grimace in discomfort/pain as you first start having sex. Not exactly a turn on. I’ve had relationships break down because the sex was too uncomfortable, no matter how much foreplay we engaged in.

Blow jobs
Teeth. You like them? Me neither. Expected to have a lot more teeth rubbing your penis as you get larger in girth. Not terrible mind you, but definitely noticeable. Also, a lot of women have difficulty giving blow jobs for an extended length of time, as it’s harder to keep their mouth open wider.

Anal
Nope. This may not be entirely true. I’m not exactly promiscuous, but I’ve had about the average amount of partners. Of them, only one has even mentioned anal sex and she was extremely drunk at the time. When I asked her about it later, she emphatically said no. That’s not to say that anal is completely off the board. I’m sure there are women who do enjoy anal with a thick penis, I just haven’t met any of them.

Sex under ten minutes.
One of the great things about being young is that hormones drive sexual encounters, especially in the beginning of a relationship. One of the great pleasures of being in a new relationship is marathon sex. However, once the newness wears off you have to put in more effort to keep things exciting and interesting. This is true for all relationships. Being married with young kids, my wife and I have trouble finding time for good, full foreplay, satisfying each other sex. Because of this, she becomes sore very quickly and often asks “how much longer” or “are you close to finishing”, on top of some of the pained expressions. Again, not exactly a turn on. Caveat: If you’re lucky enough to have the free time to engage in foreplay I’m sure the sex can last longer. However, my point is that soreness is a very real issue and can dampen the mood.

Sorry for the long thread and I hope you were able to read through it all. Obviously what I’ve said won’t apply to EVERY situation, but these are some of the common issues I’ve come across. I wish you all the best of luck in reaching your goals. As always, feel free to comment with thoughts or questions on the subject.

I notice you going for another .25 inch in girth.

Im not convinced

At 6” of girth and close to 6.5” of girth after pumping I have to say his comments are spot on. There is no more pop the cock right in the vagina with little or no foreplay and bury it to the hilt. You have to work it in taking a little at a time.

With the oral , you have the spacing between the incisors which will be fine on a large framed woman, but a smaller framed woman with a smaller mouth it may not get very far in there. If it does get far in there, it will block or scrape on the molars, and those can give you a gash - so deep throat is out for the most part.

Anal, you might not get it with the large girth.

With the sex will be the complaint of “are you almost done”, because of impending soreness. Which will limit how often you get in there.

Well, I think I can offer a simple defence for why he’s still going for bigger: It’s already too late for him, he’s already too big for the average size penis advantages he described.

Whether what he said is true; well it will depend on the Girl really. Yeah, maybe 6” is too much for some to take without arousal and lube; but some women get aroused easier than others, and vagina size varies between women.

Dude, don’t frighten the noobs with your theories! A woman can relax her vagina and anus to be penetrated by whole fist, then contract back to normal fairly quickly depending her PC strength. I know a woman who fists regularly and she’s pretty tight the day or so after. It’s fun to hypothesize, but there is no way in hell you will ever be as big in girth as a fist (10-12”). Worry about being too big when you get closer to your goal. You can always take a year or so off and shrink down a .25”-.5” in girth.

Fisting is done with a smaller female size hand or a male hand which is not made into a fist, but in the bunched up and contracted position. It’s still big and still going to hurt most people trying to do it.

Guess it wouldn’t be my preference for my significant other to have done fisting or like it.

I’m not convinced at all. I am still gonna go for 6” girth. I already dislike blowjobs because all the girls I have slept with (a very large number) have not been able to deepthroat me even pre-PE. I don’t care about anal, its not a turn on for me. I seriously like foreplay, so it taking longer really is not a problem. Even with my current 5.6” girth I havent caused ANY girl discomfort. Also some guys’ girth tapers off as you aproach the glans so for them it can’t be such a bad thing.

Great thread Thickhouse. Some people dining fact run into these issues. Having been with my wife for almost seven years now none of the issues raised apply to us. That said I’m sure it may come into play with a new partner that has never had extreme girth.

I find sounding and short stretching strokes allow me to eventually get in even the tightest of women.

Thickhouse:

That was a well thought out, articulate, intelligent post. And because of that, it didn’t come off to me as a braggart thread. Others may have.

My lady was married for 25 years ‘pre RedJr’. She told me (and I believe her), she gave me exactly 2 blow jobs in that amount of time. Why so few? Because it was to damn hard for her to get her mouth around a monster dick. It was work, it wasn’t fun, and it she didn’t feel sexy struggling with a 6+ girth. With me, oral is a normal part of foreplay, it happens every single time we have sex, she knew going in it was important to me. With a 5ish girth, it is much more enjoyable for her (and me, I’m guessing) , and she loves to give me diamond cutting hard on’s with her mouth. I may have created an oral fetish with her. :)

I have noticed with even with the smallest of girth gains, more teeth. IMHO, a toothy BJ is not a pleasant one.

And on the other side of the fence, I have also noticed her enjoyment level increase with intercourse as I my girth has increased. So, I will echo other statements said here, there is a trade off. However, I’m old enough to know that I am not giving up blow jobs for any reason, mostly something that I have created.

First and foremost, thanks for the comments guys, I appreciate the feedback both positive and negative. I realize that the tone of the thread kind of makes it sound like sex is no fun and that’s totally not the case. My goal isn’t to try to “convince” people that girth is a bad thing, rather I just wanted to provide some information based on my experience that I hadn’t seen elsewhere in the forum. I will address a couple of the concerns expressed above.

Mr.BigStuff: You’re right, I do have a goal of increased girth by .25”. I set that goal based on the understanding that with PE I’ll get gains in both areas and that added girth comes with the territory. I’m happy with my girth where it is but I know I’m bound to gain more. In relation to my length goal, the girth goal is very small and reflects my desire to limit girth gains.

TheGreatDivider: It’s not at all my intention to frighten anybody. I hope everyone here gets the gains they’re looking for. What I written are not “theories”. They are my actual experiences. You are right though. Some women really do enjoy fisting and if you know one who does I’m sure it makes for an interesting time. The average woman does not enjoy fisting because it can be painful or uncomfortable. Keep in mind that what I’ve said here is based on experience with the “average” woman.

TheGr8Leviathan: Go for it buddy! You’re a lot like me in that I was never a big fan of blow jobs to begin with, anal has little to no appeal to me and I’ve always enjoyed foreplay and taking my time with sex. Like I said, I’m not trying to convince girth is a bad thing or dissuade people from their goals. You’re going for your goals with your eyes open and a healthy attitude toward pleasing your partner. Good luck!

When I pump with my Bathmate, sometimes I can measure a 5.5” girth after a good 15-20 minute session. Honestly, any thicker and I think it would look weird. Good luck on hitting 6.5” though Thickhouse.

Confused. Are you in an open relationship/marriage or you doing the dirty on your wife? Not that I am prying or anything!

No not doing the dirty on my wife. I gained girth before I met her. They all were accommodating.

I’m afraid you missed my point Thickhouse, I was giving fisting as an example for the capability of a woman’s vagina to relax and accept objects much larger that your girth for sex. I know a lot of women don’t normally use toys bigger than 4”-5” in girth but they can if they practice patience. I have pumped up to 6.5” and had comfortable vaginal and anal sex no problem, I just spent a lot longer with foreplay and easing the girl into it.