Growers VS Showers

Ok, this is a good topic, IMO.

We’ve all heard things like, “length for bros, girth for ho’s” and the like.

We’ve also heard from many on this forum, about having a longer flaccid for “the locker room”.

I am a large guy, (270 lbs +), but I have quite a bit of muscle mass as a base, with certainly too much fat. So, I have a large fat pad that makes my flaccid seem even smaller than it is.

Last night I was talking to my wife, and she said something about “stubby”, or short, in reference to my unit.

Before you guys freak out, and say how rude she was, etc., try to get through this post before you make your mind up. Of course, my first reaction while knowing how much I’m packin’, was “how rude”!! :)

She went on to explain something to me, that I thought would be interesting for many to hear. She was basically saying how “cute” it was that, at times, I could have a 2” flaccid, and that she really liked how it grows to the size it does. It’s fun to play with it when it’s that little, knowing how big it can get.

I paused for a moment, and thought, what’s wrong with that? I am a grower most of the time, and I don’t think it’s important to become a shower. Why? It’s not an issue, because, well, it’s not an issue. I asked her; what if I stayed that way hard? She calmly said THAT would be a problem.

So, unless we are growing our units, and trying to become “showers” for other men in the locker room, I don’t think it matters.

What do you guys think?

Get rid of her

Joke, hehehe

LOL!! She IS a really good girl. We’ve been together 15 + years, and It’s good 80 + percent of the time.

She has NEVER mentioned anything negative about my dick, she’s simply enjoyed it. As for her comment about it being short/stubby, I think she really does like it, and me for that matter, for what it is.

If I stay a grower, it’s all good by me, and apparently, her. :thumbs:

I’m a grower and proud.

I made a thread about this very issue.
I like my little flaccid

I understand what you’re saying. My ex use to play with it saying how cute it was when my flaccid was around 3” (at 5.5” now). Then it would get big and she would get upset. Always funny. :D

I don’t know where this myth came up that we men want a bigger flaccid for “the locker room” but it is so untrue. The hell with the locker room I want a big flaccid because it turns women on to see it and I like the way it feels when I’m semi hard. It is laying lower against my thigh and I would like to feel that all the time. To add on to that I don’t want my dick to be referenced to as “cute” because that’s not something that sounds good to me to know it is “cute.” Kittens and rabbits are “cute” but not my dick.

Lets be honest here guys we don’t give two craps about what the guys thinks it’s all about our reputation among the women that motivates us to want a bigger flaccid.

I’m a grower and my NBP flaccid is usually 3”-3.5”, biggest being 4”. When it’s cold it goes even below 3”. Erect I’m over 6” NBP which means sometimes my penis grows to two times its flaccid length.

I’d like to be a shower simply because that’s what most people see if they ever see my penis. My girlfriend is the only person who sees it erect. I don’t shower at the gym, but I probably would if I were a shower.

My girlfriend made a remark or two about my flaccid how it looks kind of funny (not in a bad way) and how it’s amazing that it grows so much when it gets erect. I sometimes feel like it would be better that I was a shower even in front of her. Luckily, when I’m not erect in front of her, I have a semi more often than not. At least that counts for something, right?

I consider myself a grower too, but sometimes I think maybe we’re bigger flaccid than we appear to ourselves…. What I mean is when I take my iPhone which is 4 1/2” in length and put it next to my flaccid penis, I’m usually about an inch longer than my phone, yet to me, my flaccid looks pathetic… Idk, it’s kinda weird…. As for wanting a bigger hang for the locker room, As someone already mentioned, I want a bigger flaccid for the ladies, so I can feel comfortable staying naked in front of the females, even when I’m haing sex with them, it’s a confidence being naked issue, cause most girls don’t understand grower v. Shower, but even if they did, visually a larger hang is more attractive to females I think.

I would like to be a little less of a grower than I am, for a few (highly related) reasons:

*I don’t think my flaccid “advertises” very well for my erect size. Altough many people know of the “showers and growers” thing, I still think most people kind of forget about it and think “small dick” when they see a small flaccid.

*If anyone other than a sexual partner sees your dick, it’s likely to be your flaccid.

*Since it’s what you usually walk around with, psychologically, a meatier flaccid would just feel better.

On the other hand, I don’t wish to be a serious shower that hardly grows at all, either. Like has been mentioned already, that would take some of the fun away for girls, I too have the impression that the growing part is something that is sexy/fascinating for them. Plus I think they EXPECT it to grow. That being said, a big swinging flaccid in itself is probably sexier to them than a small one.

Some interesting threads in the “Related Threads” box at the bottom of the page.

I’m a grower, I’d rather be more of a shower. Am a bit more of a shower after starting PE.

Something Big Girtha posted in Maxtro’s thread on this topic - makes sense to me:

Big Girtha - I like my little flaccid

Hardbody,

I don’t get it. In your own signature, you have the following:

“Length For Bros., Girth For Hoes”

Are you saying you don’t care what your flaccid looks like in the locker room? Or do men see you erect? I’m a bit puzzled here. :) In fact, this “phenomenon”, ( growers vs showers in the locker room ), is part of why I started the thread……..

I can appreciate the idea that women might enjoy making it grow so much. However, women really are turned on by a really plump, low-hanging flaccid penis.

Do people actually look at other men’s flaccid penises? When I have to pass through the locker room, or shower before I jump in the pool, I try my hardest to not look at any naked men.

I have never gotten naked in a public shower and frankly I don’t want other men to see me naked. The only time it’s acceptable is if I’m in an orgy or gangbang situation and even then, most of my focus is on the women.

What Big G says in his post does make some sense. I’ve been seen by women, coming out of 50 degree water. Needless to say, I was, ahem, not very impressive.

However, when we are erect is when the rubber meets the road, …. so to speak.

I showed my wife my warmed up flaccid today, just to see how she would react after last night’s conversation.

She was a bit DISAPPOINTED! Why? Because she LIKES it when it is in it’s really small flaccid state. Furthermore, she said that it scares her sometimes when it’s fully erect. ( not only the size but how the weapon is used….. paraphrased, of course by AJ ;) )

I think her saying that I am the “perfect size”, means just that. ( sometimes I am TOO BIG for her )

But, of course I’m going to add more girth………. just to make sure….

If I had my choice I would like a big flaccid. Having said that in the end all that matters is how big it is when he stands at attention.

As for what your wife said it’s all up to you how to take it. You know her better than any of us. I think she was trying to give you a compliment that was worded awkwardly.

I used to have an ex that a time or two made a comment about my penis size. It never once offended me. For one thing she had already commented plenty of times how much she loved it. For another she and I both like to talk trash and I knew she didn’t mean anything by it. She was just trying to be funny. We would both laugh and then I would think of something to slam her on.