Originally Posted by BvckWood
One thing is interesting is all these benefits of quitting porn. I have been experimenting with porn and not using it and I notice no difference. Now if I never edged and watched porn, that would be different. Either way I have dopamine rushing through my brain. It is said that porn reverts brain back to a juvenile state and that it affects our prefrontal cortex due to the dopamine. That would insinuate that all dopamine would have similar affects, wouldn’t it?
It is not only dopamine, it is not that it bring is back to a juvenile state, thing is ALL living beings do is to accomplish their reward system that their brain created in order to species to prosper, you feel good when you eat because our digest system have more than 500 million neurons, 90~95% of serotonin is in your stomach, so when you eat the neurotransmissors in those areas I mentioned release those endorphines to all our nervous system and you feel good. You body created this long long time ago when we were nothing but simple set of cells, if you want to know more about this simple reward system you can search about Jordan Peterson and lobsters, there are videos on YouTube as well that explain how our reward system works. Going on, dopamine is not the problem, the problem is your behavior towards pleasure, how you act on it, you only do things on your called “free time” that you like, but you only like it SPEND TIME with it because your brain is secreting through your neurotransmissors endorphines to make to stay doing that activity, this could be: sports, reading a book, procrastination, sex, pornography etc. Anything you are able to do through long period of time is because you conditioned yourself to enjoy that, and you can only enjoy that because your brain releases those endorphines. Any kind of addiction have a similar effect to this, the problem is not dopamine, dopamine is just a means by which our brain created its rewards system in order for us to not die and reproduce, as our biology goal is to first not die and second to reproduce. The problem with porn and with drugs and food is that you trick your reward system in a way that you did not had not paid the effort in order for your brain to release the pleasure, when you watch any kind of naked women you are tricking your brain into thinking that you have already approached women, dated her and finally fucked her, for all that in any society you must have social skills, good body posture and money, all that means that you have the effort to get her naked in front of you and then have sex, then when you see the image of a naked woman you are just tricking your reward system, the same thing is with masturbation, psychoactive substances (drugs) because it instantly releases endorphines in your brain. When I see someone after a hard day of work consume some alcohol through beer or liquor or wine or whisky or brandy, that person wants to receive some external pleasure in their brain because of wasting time and energy at work, he is conditioning himself to always have alcohol after work, this is no different than a student after school come home and watch some porn and orgasm, the main problem is that this student is 80% less likely to get a girl from school and have sex. (this is just a number I got from my mind lol)
I don’t know if you have a girlfriend or someone you have a relationship, and you have sex. I can’t count how many times I have read men that are married or have a girlfriend/boyfriend have their sexual life crushed by pornography, I say this because masturbation alone and having sex with a real person IS VERY DIFFERENT. My brother started watching porn at 12 yo (me at 10 yo) and in he had problems of having erections and maintaining it during sex and premature ejaculation with her after 2 years of relationship, he told me he still had problem with pornography, I told him to stop it and to do kegels, he did both and in 2 weeks he could see improvements, in 6 weeks he told me he felt like he never had those problems. I asked him “and the kegels?”, he said “I only did it in the first 2 weeks, and never did it after, but the thing that was wonderful is to stop porn, I stopped it.”. A mind that is addicted to something have serious mental and psychological problems, the main problem is the higher anxiety, have you ever seen an cocaine addict when he pass through a street that he/she used to get the drug? Man, that person get panic attacks, lose breath, tachycardia etc. It is not easy, not easy. My brother used to say that it is a rule you make to yourself, and when you don’t comply to that rule to do that thing he feels horrible, and he had a sudden and strong desire to search pornography and to masturbate to that, that was in his words translated from brazillian portuguese to english his addiction to porn, and I feel that to everytime I try to stop porn, the good thing is that after 2 weeks that desire stop.
