Painful Sex for my Sweetie: Why Do You And I Want To Be Seven Inches in Girth?

Yesterday was an upsetting day in my PE history. I had popped some V to help with controlled erect bends and to get the maximum engourgement. After a good workout, I measured with about an 80% erection and was elated: Six and an eighth midshaft and six and a quarter at my base. I was as horny as a goat and mentioned it to my sweet wife who suggested we have a quickie. “This one’s for you.” Her response aroused me greatly and after lubing up, I had a wonderful time and assumed all was well. Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. I could tell that her vaginal walls felt tight around my pecker but I attributed that to no foreplay, romance or good arousal for her. Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.

Cleaning up, she said some words that floored me. “You have got to stop that dick exercise stuff. You hurt me like our honeymoon night. You are too big and I’m bleeding.” Boy did I feel like a heel apologizing to her and comforting her. I was personally baffled. This is not how this is supposed to work I thought to myself. I really want to be seven inches in girth was another thought.

Retracing that time in the sack, I could have been as much as six and a quarter mid shaft and six and a half at my base given a very good viagra erection and good arousal. Our lovemaking wasn’t rough. Thirty five years of marriage has taught me something.

So I present my quandary to you. Why do we think seven inches and greater is the gold standard for really being hung in girth? Are there really women out there who appreciate that kind of girth. For me, in a committed, monogamous relationship I have got to rethink everything about my goals. I have alot of work to do communicating with my wife on this man thing in my head about wanting a bigger dick. Above all, I know that quickies in an engourged state with no foreplay are out.

Any advice for me here? Any thought on why we think seven inches and above in girth is better than six inches? Have we abandoned what is generally best for our wives and partners in pursuit of wanting to be king of the hill?

>Why do we think seven inches and greater is the gold standard for really being hung in girth?<

You might but stating that “we” is a stretch. A lot of people target 8x6 and some wouldn’t want that.

If you enjoy anal your probably don’t want to be even as much as 6” in most cases, it will just limit the range of willing ass.
If you enjoy oral you hit the teeth problem much more as you go up in girth.
Length becomes an issue really quite low. So if you like to grind, rather than poke from a distance you don’t want too much.

I get that you are married and so you maybe don’t have the problem with new partners but that should surely make it more important to listen to your wife unless you are one of the people here that can think of nothing better than causing pain when they enter, and you aren’t. Of course your wife can probably stretch over time to accommodate you easily but do you really want your PE to have that impact?

Personally I don’t think that seven inches girth is better than six. When I get to six I will stop; I would advise the same to you because the main priority should be to satisfy your woman as best as you can.

For you it is good that you experience this with your wife, it gives you certain limits. Like Mem says, your wife could accommodate the size over time but would you want to take this road? Unless you have some reason to go above those 6 1/4, I would stop. Pleasing your lady, especially if you are in a committed relationship, should be your goal. Why would you get a big tool that you can’t use?

People want certain sizes for different reasons. Some just want to be the biggest she has, no matter what it takes. Others are married to a size queen who really would enjoy 7” of girth. This are just a few examples that I had read from guys around here. But why do you worry? It is their life, let them make of it what they want just like you do for yourself.

I agree partially. There is a certain girth that you experience the teeth problem. In my experience and from reading around here that is about 6”. But the shape of your dick is more important. If your upper dick stays at 6” or smaller while your mid shaft goes 6.5” or bigger you still get blow jobs who aren’t too toothy. The only thing you need to kiss goodbye are deep throats.

Good advice from both of you. Thanks for chiming in with wisdom. I have to evalutate my own feelings too. You, memento, are well respected on this website. You are aggressive and accomplished. I have visited your homepage. It presents an image of being the best you can be, never accepting mediocrity—- all things we aspire to as men physically, professionally and publicly. I probably was wrong in using the word “we” but for me, I really wanted to get to seven in girth. Now, considering yesterday, I have to rethink all that.

I always thought the ‘ideal’ was considered to be 8 x 6 (and that’s just for vaginal sex (i.e. not good for oral etc.)). I’ve never thought of the ‘ideal’ as being 7” ever.

If you’re in a committed relationship my advice would be to work towards being the ideal size for her.

She would adjust and you may need some foreplay. Do you have kids yet? Because that tight little pussy will get stretched pretty wide.

>I have visited your homepage. It presents an image of being the best you can be, never accepting mediocrity- …<

I put that in for SS4 so he could link it in his signature but knowing SS4 it will be some NLP crap. I’ll remove it.

I hope I’m not that aggressive. If I come across as aggressive you’ve probably read threads where I’ve been going at spammers.

Bird,

I guess people just have bigger mouths where you are. In my opinion there’s a difference between a glans bath and receiving or giving head.

On the king of the hill mentality, Bird2 and Memento and any one else: Once you got to the legendary 8 by 6, did you feel you were king of the hill with that size or did you or do you now obsess about being bigger? Do you have goals beyond what you are now? How are you dealing with the king of the hill mentality we have as men and what do you personally tell yourself about guys out there who are bigger than you. To me, just knowing that someone out there is hung bigger than me spurs me on to want to be bigger. This website is fertile grounds for such a mentality. Somewhere in all this, I have to accept the facts of my situation and make peace with these size issues. Yesterday was probably a wake up call and a day of reckoning. Thanks.

The trick is to have a cone-shaped dick. That way, you can ease it in there gradually.

The only time you’d experience teeth is if the girl has a small mouth. I’ve seen larger girth than that get blow-jobs in porn. I’m sure normal girls not in porn do the same thing. Also when I get married I will increase my girth to 7” because the vaginal wall as we all know will get larger to accommodate the size. We aren’t in commited relationships like that so we think for the majority of women. MAybe some of you guys may do the same. I don’t know.

35 years and your wife still gives you a quickie. Perhaps the sexual future for a married couple is not as dismal as some of my married friends make out to be. Thank you thinktank!

7 inches I think is too big. 5.5 to 6 inches in girth I think will continue to pleasure my wife and keep anal in play.

Dino: One child through adoption. Funny thing. I always thought of my sweetie as big and deep in the vaginal dept. I have very very seldom bottomed out even though I am over eight. Lots of things can change in one day in life.

thinktank, you are lucky to have such a thick weapon! Anything over 6 is definitely big, and you should be proud and appreciate it.

With any lethal weapon such as yours, also comes responsibility. You just can’t slam it in like it was some average sized pecker. You need to take your time and make sure your your wife is well aroused and lubricated, and start off really slowly to get her accustomed. That takes extra time and effort of course, but it’s the price you pay!

In other words, you may need to rethink your sexual technique rather than rethink your size goals!

If my wife said that to me, I would just tell her we need more practice!